I don't think there is any country in the world where parents work as hard as our Chinese parents. Most (not all) parents of ordinary families support their children when they are young, and when they retire when they are old, they start to help their children take care of their children, and they have been acting as "devotees" all their lives. Many parents are accustomed to "sacrificing themselves", and many children choose to ignore their parents' individual needs.
➤ Recently saw a post. The owner (female) said that her 56-year-old mother wants to buy a car and learn to drive, she especially can't understand: her mother is not very rich, and now the business is not easy to do, what is the use of buying a car when she is so old?
➤ The main reason why the poster disagrees is: her mother lost a lot of money (1.3 million) by investing in zi before, and she is no longer a rich person. She has savings and pension insurance that is barely enough to make ends meet.
↓ If my mother brings the car to learn to buy a car, will she live in the future? I can't earn money to support her. ↓
↑ In addition, the owner of the post thinks it's really unnecessary to buy this car. My mother lives in a small county town, and she can take a car when she goes out. My mother is old and a female driver, what if there is a problem with driving? And it costs money to maintain a car every year!
Now the economic conditions of the family are not good (the poster's grandmother has cancer, it should be the poster who is taking care of it), the poster thinks that the whole family's ability to resist risks is so poor, is it not good for the mother to save the money to buy a car for the elderly or to be sick for emergencies? ↑
➤ After reading a circle of comments, many people are scolding the poster. No matter how much money my mother lost on her previous investment, how much money she spent to buy a car and learn to drive, my mother spent her own money, and it had nothing to do with the poster's half a dime! What's wrong with a woman who wants to learn to drive at the age of 56, and she is not 86 years old, and her mother wants to complete her dream while she is not too old, shouldn't she be supported as a child?
And the words of the poster revealed that "Mom, don't toss all the money in your hand, I have no money to support you!" It means that being so cheeky as a child is really a failure!
➤ In response to these comments, the poster responded like this: She knows that how her mother's money is spent is her mother's business, but she thinks that her mother's purchase of a car should be bewitched by other people and belongs to following the trend. Because my mother failed to follow the venture capital several times before. In case my mother has a problem buying a car and driving and has no money, netizens will not pay, and in the end, it is not up to them to take care of the aftermath!
➤ Regardless of whether it's right or wrong, I think what the poster said is quite realistic. Everyone's family situation is different, and everyone's way of life is different.
▽ A family that is not wealthy (there is also an AI patient at home), my mother wants to use her savings and pension to buy a car that is not just needed, and everyone has to be anxious.
56 years old is not too old, because I met an uncle in his 60s last year. I have to say that they are indeed not as responsive as young people, so the probability of driving problems will be greater. If you bump into someone or get yourself injured, don't you have to spend money to go to the hospital for aftermath? As a child, you do have the obligation to support your parents and contribute money and efforts to help your parents solve their problems, and rich people definitely don't care.
But not every child is promising, and the salary of ordinary people is just that. Like the poster even struggles to support himself, we can scold the poster for being poor and useless, but now the fact is: in case something happens to her mother's car, she just can't afford to find money to cover her mother.
➤ Emotionally, I feel that my mother is a little pitiful (even if she did not have a brain to follow the trend before). Here's a not particularly appropriate example. As children, we all have had rebellious periods, and many of us have also been spilling and rolling around to buy expensive things that are not practical. Mom and Dad didn't analyze with you why they didn't let you buy it, but simply said rudely, "You bought this with pocket money, what should you do when you eat later?" I don't have the money to give you anyway! ”
How would you feel?
➤ The family is one, if the parents are unreliable, then the children do have to worry more. But the premise of this concern is that the child is financially independent and can ensure the basic livelihood of the parents. Just saying "because I don't have any money for you, so don't spend your money indiscriminately" to stop parents from spending money is really not convincing.
▽ I think that if children really want to manage their parents, they can't be purely as children (too pure is to shirk responsibility), but more like guardians, just like parents to us when we were children. Only then will our words carry weight.