On Liu Min's desk, there are two copies of "Playing with Mathematics" and two copies of "My First Physics Enlightenment Book", and she always has to buy two copies of the same books, why is this? It turned out to be for her two children, one is her own son, and the other is the sixth-grade hearing-impaired boy she accompanies Xiaogang (pseudonym), who calls her "principal's mother".
Two years ago, 38-year-old Liu Min was just an ordinary mother and entrepreneur, and since she joined the ranks of "caring mothers" with her friends, she has an extra layer of identity. In the past two years, Liu Min has come into contact with many left-behind children, disabled children and orphans, and their every move involves the heart of this young mother. So she actively participated in the "Caring Mother" activity and paired up with Xiaogang, a hearing-impaired child, to help. Through her company, Xiaogang has gradually become sunny and cheerful from a hearing-impaired boy with low self-esteem, and his academic performance has also been greatly improved. Recently, the reporter approached the "caring mother" Liu Min and listened to her tell the story of Xiaogang.
Join the "Caring Mother" family
"Two years ago, I joined the Hulan District Women Entrepreneurs Association, and then together with my sisters of women entrepreneurs, I participated in the 'Caring Mothers' activity organized by the Hulan District Women's Federation to care for left-behind children and children in difficulty. Speaking of his experience of becoming a "caring mother", Liu Min told reporters that he didn't have many ideas at first, just to help left-behind children and children in difficulty. It wasn't until she walked into the special education school with her sisters to accompany the "Winged Angels" to celebrate Children's Day, that she changed, "I am also a mother myself, my child is 10 years old this year, and I am really worried when I see those children in special education schools, some of them are struggling to survive." As a mother, Liu Min's heart was deeply pierced by the situation of these children. "At that time, all we did was some group condolences, and every time I visited them, I thought about how I could better help them, so that they could feel loved, and their lives and themselves could be changed. ”
At this time, an opportunity for Liu Min to contact Xiao Gang, "At that time, Wang Jing, the chairman of our Women's Federation, contacted me, and she said that when they visited the children, they found Xiao Gang, his parents are both deaf and mute, and the children are also hearing-impaired, and they don't like to communicate with others. Liu Min is originally engaged in the education industry, so the Women's Federation hopes that she will change and help children through professional methods.
Open the heart of a hearing-impaired boy with companionship
"I was able to get in touch with Xiao Gang and I also experienced twists and turns, because at first I called his parents and didn't answer them, and then after contacting his uncle and aunt, I thought I was a liar. Speaking of this, Liu Min smiled, "Later, I repeatedly assured his uncle and aunt that the courses in my school are free for children, and I will accompany him more on weekdays to care for him, but no matter what I say, I might as well take action to reassure them." After that, Xiao Gang went to Liu Min's school every weekend in the company of his uncle or aunt.
Xiao Gang, who first participated in the activities, always sat silently in the corner by himself, unwilling to contact other students, "When he first came, I had been accompanying him to class, and I also observed the child for a period of time, and found that although he had a cochlear implant, he could not hear very clearly, so the teacher or classmates needed to communicate loudly with him, if the normal voice said, he sometimes could not hear clearly." In this way, Liu Min took into account Xiao Gang's slightly inferior complex, so he found a teacher to communicate, hoping that they would consider Xiao Gang's situation and drive Xiao Gang more. "I also asked the teacher to find the kind of students who are more enthusiastic and be Xiaogang's tablemates, so that in the natural communication, Xiaogang will gradually accept the new environment. ”
After seeing Xiao Gang's transformation, Liu Min began to communicate with Xiao Gang more deeply, "Most of the time I mainly observe him, because a child with low self-esteem, if you ask him too directly, he may not answer you, which requires us to patiently observe the child's preferences and habits, and after a long time of contact with him, he begins to trust me, and he will have a deeper communication with me." ”
"Xiao Gang, you did a great job today!" "Today's speech is logical and smooth, and it is very good!" "I am really happy for you to see that you have made good friends today!" Xiao Gang's homework book often receives small handwritten notes from Liu Min and the teacher, which are full of words of encouragement. Gradually, Xiao Gang's friends became more and more, Liu Min no longer had to accompany him to class, and his uncle and aunt were relieved to send him to Liu Min's school.
"Mom Principal, I hope you're my mom"
Since Xiao Gang came to Liu Min, Liu Min has given Xiao Gang enough support and respect in his studies and life, Liu Min's children are about the same age as Xiao Gang, so she understands that boys of this age usually bring Xiao Gang when they buy things for their children, especially school supplies. "Xiao Gang is a very sensible child, his academic performance was very good when he came, he was at the middle level of the class, after he came, he cherished the opportunity to learn, and asked the teacher in time if he didn't understand, his academic performance improved very quickly, and now he is the top few in the class!" He doesn't just come on weekends now, he also comes after school, and every time he comes, he comes to my office to walk around, talk to me for a while, sometimes come and laugh at me without talking, and then go to class. Liu Min told reporters.
On Mother's Day 2023, Xiao Gang brought a lot of flowers, he distributed them to each teacher who helped him, and finally gave Liu Min what he thought was the most beautiful bouquet, and said, "Principal's mother, thank you for accompanying me for so long, it would be nice if you were really my mother!" Xiao Gang, who was expressing his feelings, hugged Liu Min, and Liu Min also cried at this time, "The principal's mother is your mother, if you have anything, you can tell your mother, and your mother is always by your side." ”
Photo courtesy of the interviewee
"I'm an educator and a mother. When I was doing activities in a special education school, I was deeply moved. There are so many children who walk with a limp, or have mutilated limbs, I am sad and sad to see them, every time I go I need to adjust my emotions, I also try to hug them as much as possible, so that they feel loved. Liu Min told reporters that since doing public welfare, she felt that it was particularly important to pass on this love, so she began to lead her children to do public welfare together, "I hope he sees such positive energy, sees what his mother does, and then passes on this love, and I also hope that more loving mothers will join our big family in the future and pass on love to more children in difficulty." ”
Leading News & Life Reporter: Liu Weina