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There is a saying that "the moon is over fifteen and there is little light, and everything is off when people reach middle age." ”
After fifteen, the moon's light will gradually diminish. When people reach middle age, all kinds of troubles will come to their side. The older you get, the more difficult your life will become, it will only become.
If you are alone, no matter how serious the midlife crisis is, it will be your own business. However, 99% of people are dragged with their families, and once they suffer from a midlife crisis, it is not only their own business, but also the family's business.
The most typical example is that middle-aged people are unemployed and can't make money. The husband and wife have no income, the children do not have any capital to do things, and the elderly have no money to support the elderly.
The midlife crisis of modern people not only lasts for a long time, but also has a huge risk. Some people are separated from their wives in a midlife crisis; Some people lose everything in a midlife crisis. Anyway, the probability of a tragedy is very high.
The darkest time for a family is the decade between the ages of 50 and 60 for ordinary people.
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In the decade between the ages of 50 and 60, there are three risks.
Risk 1: The probability of not making money increases.
Whatever the issue is discussed, it is all about "money". If you have money, everything will be fine. If you don't have money, let alone that everything is fine, it's good to be able to meet your usual three meals a day.
Why is it so difficult for middle-aged people to make money? In the era of extremely serious involution, the workplace will recruit a large number of cheap young college graduates, and eliminate middle-aged employees.
In the eyes of countless units (private enterprises), middle-aged employees are a huge burden, which is not easy to manage, not efficient to do things, too little economic value created, and various requirements.
The boss is not a philanthropist, others pursue profits. As a result, there has been an endless wave of layoffs at the age of 35. Many people reach middle age and can only go to Didi, express delivery, and takeaway, without more choices.
Some people will say, can't middle-aged people start their own businesses? You can start a business, but those who succeed are in the minority after all. Most middle-aged people are still salarymen, but they no longer have a place to work.
It is difficult for a rich man to be a rich man. The beating of middle-aged people in life will only become more serious with the intensification of involution.
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Risk 2: The conflict of the whole family intensifies.
As the saying goes: "Home and everything prospers, and the family declines and quarrels." ”
Family harmony, natural life is happy. But if the family is not harmonious, conflicts will emerge one after another. The poorer the family, the more strained the relationship becomes, and there will be no room for relaxation.
As mentioned above, it is becoming more and more difficult for middle-aged people to make money, which will lead to three contradictions, the first is the contradiction between the elderly and the middle-aged, the second is the contradiction between husband and wife, and the third is the contradiction between middle-aged and young people.
The elderly need to provide for the elderly, but the middle-aged children cannot afford it, and the relationship will become tense; Middle-aged couples have no money, they will have conflicts every day, either you accuse me, or I dislike you, and the relationship exists in name only;
At present, young people are unemployed after graduating from college, even if they are employed, their wages are not high, they can't afford to get married, they can't afford to buy a house, they can't afford to have children, and their parents are even more powerless, and they keep urging them to get married. This contradiction cannot be alleviated.
Family conflicts caused by poverty are spreading among the population. Otherwise, why is the divorce rate of middle-aged couples so high today? It's all caused by poverty.
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Risk 3: The body becomes no longer healthy.
There is an idiom that poverty and illness are combined. If a person is poor and often sick, then his result is more tragic. The poor cannot afford to pay for medical care and are unable to maintain their health.
From ancient times to the present, "medical" resources have been expensive. Especially in big cities, a little hospital visit will cost hundreds or thousands of dollars. If it's more serious, it will take tens of thousands of dollars.
Middle-aged people can't make much money, and if they are still sick, isn't it a fatal blow to themselves or their families?
The question is, why are poor families more likely to get sick? If people are poor, they need to overdraft their bodies to work and make money. The body is flesh and blood, and if it is overdrawn many times, won't it gradually run out of oil and dry up?
For middle-aged working-class people, there are two choices, either to make money when they are young and to maintain their health and save their lives when they are middle-aged, or to make no money when they are middle-aged, but they are healthy and save a lot of money.
As for overdrawing the body to work, it is not necessary. For the boss, without an employee, a new employee can be hired. And for individuals, there is only one life.
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Write to the end
What crushes modern people is actually the embarrassment of life. To put it bluntly, it is poverty. In particular, the working class (private enterprises) will be eliminated when they reach middle age.
In this comparison, the establishment is the best choice, not only the work pressure is small, but also the income is stable, and the pension in old age is guaranteed. The problem is that there are very few ordinary people who can enter the establishment.
Since the midlife crisis is so serious, how should ordinary people deal with it? Three. First, save more money when you are young; second, less debt; Third, try to take care of your body and don't overdraft your health.
The first point can be more difficult to do. But the second point, as well as the third point, can be done. How you choose depends on your own ideas.