In my years of medical practice, I have found that many families face some unexpected challenges after having Erbao. Just last week, a mother came to my clinic with her two children, her expression full of exhaustion and distress. After a brief conversation, I learned that she is a typical family of two children, and I am deeply concerned that she has been feeling more and more annoying about her boss lately. Experience and disgustAfter having a second child, I began to feel an unprecedented pressure and challenge. The joy of looking forward to welcoming a new life gradually disappeared in the contradictions and struggles between the boss and the second treasure. To be honest, I'm getting more and more disgusted with the boss. The eldest used to be the little sun of our family, but since Erbao came, his status seems to have been slowly broken. He used to be my everything, my daily pistachio, but now, I often lose patience with him and sometimes even get bored with him. His needs and mood changes were overwhelming for me to cope with, and I couldn't give enough attention and love. This feeling makes me feel guilty, but there is nothing I can do about it.
The arrival of Erbao has brought endless joy to our family, but it has also brought great pressure. Caring for a baby is exhausting, let alone caring for a dynamic and curious child at the same time. I felt like I was being pulled and torn apart, with a baby in need of unconditional love on one side and an older man looking forward to attention, and I felt like I couldn't do it both ways. Every day is a challenge, and I try to keep my smile on my face, but my heart is full of exhaustion and confusion. I began to doubt my own abilities and wonder if I really loved my boss enough. This self-blame and confusion made me feel helpless and lonely, and I began to want to run away from it all, but I knew that running away would not solve the problem.
Having a second child was an important decision for our family, but I didn't expect it to be such a difficult experience. In this process, I gradually realized that true growth and happiness are not all smooth sailing, it requires us to face difficulties and challenges bravely, and we need to continue to work hard and give. Perhaps, after this difficult period, I will become a stronger and more mature person, I will re-examine my role and responsibilities, and I will cherish the warmth and happiness of my family even more. So, despite the fact that I was tired and helpless from the current predicament, I still maintained hope and confidence in the future, believing that everything would be better.
Ease the dilemma
In life, we often face a variety of challenges, and for families with two treasures, one of the challenges is to deal with the emotional changes of the boss. I know this dilemma because I've been through it myself. However, I have also learned some ways to cope with it, and I hope to share it with you. First, I realized that understanding and inclusion are key to alleviating this dilemma. When the boss starts to show displeasure or anxiety, we should not simply blame them, but try to understand their feelings. Perhaps, they are just looking for more attention and love. Secondly, I find it very important to have good communication with the boss. We need to give them enough time and space to express their feelings, and we need to listen patiently. Through communication, we can better understand the needs of the boss and thus better respond to their emotional changes. In the end, I learned to maintain a positive mindset. While dealing with the Boss's emotional changes can be exhausting and confusing, we can't afford to be discouraged. On the contrary, we should firmly believe that through understanding, tolerance and communication, we can overcome this dilemma and make the family more harmonious and happy.