Sometimes, our inner emotional distress and psychological disorders can affect our relationships and quality of life. From uncontrollable emotions and people-pleasing personalities to low self-esteem sensitivities, these problems may have been ingrained in our childhood. Today, I'm going to share with you a true story, a story about emotional distress and family entanglements.
The protagonist of the story, let's call Xiaoyu, is a gentle and kind girl who seems to be strong on the outside. However, there are many hidden emotional barriers in her heart. She grew up in an overly strict family environment, and her parents often educated her with scolding and belittling, causing her to be often in an extreme state of emotions and having difficulty controlling her emotions.
What's even more distressing is that Xiaoyu is a people-pleasing personality, she is always worried that she will be hated, and in order to gain the approval of others, she often wrongs herself, even at the expense of giving up her needs and feelings. This flattering behavior pattern stems from the fact that she was praised and sensible by her parents since she was a child, and she was used to being obedient and tolerant, and gradually developed the habit of pleasing her.
Due to long-term suppression and denial, Xiaoyu did not dare to express her true feelings and needs, and was used to suppressing her emotions in the bottom of her heart. This kind of self-repression and grievances led to all kinds of dissatisfaction and anxiety in her heart.
In interpersonal communication, Xiaoyu is always sensitive and suspicious, she is used to comparing with others, only when she wins will she get pleasure, she often feels that she suffers from gains and losses, and she will always fall into self-doubt in the face of other people's praise. This inferiority complex and sensitive emotion is rooted in the fact that she was compared to other children's children by her parents since she was a child, resulting in her lack of confidence and self-confidence in herself.
In conflicts or arguments with others, Xiaoyu always cries uncontrollably, feeling misunderstood and wronged. This tear incontinence physique also stems from the fact that she was not understood and suppressed by her parents since she was a child, and her inner grievances will always be inadvertently expressed when she grows up.
At the same time, Xiaoyu always shows a very pessimistic and misanthropic mood, believing that life has no meaning. This pessimistic and misanthropic mood is rooted in the fact that she was ridiculed by her parents since she was a child, unable to see her own merits, and losing hope in life.
Although Xiaoyu often feels inferior and frustrated, she always craves to be recognized and wants to be recognized and affirmed by others. However, she is insecure at heart and cares extra much about what others are saying, which makes her seem exhausted in interpersonal interactions.
Due to all kinds of inner troubles, Xiaoyu's social circle is very narrow, she is used to being alone and is not good at handling interpersonal relationships. She is always afraid of being troubled, and even more afraid of forming close relationships with others, because she is afraid that once someone is close to her, she will be hurt and betrayed.
The most regrettable thing is that Xiaoyu always feels that she does not deserve happiness and beauty. Even if others treat her well, she will always be at a loss and feel unworthy. She never received anything nice for free, and she always reciprocated kindness from others, because she felt she didn't deserve it.
Xiaoyu's story may be a portrayal of many people around us, and we may have all experienced similar emotional distress and psychological barriers. But it's important that we be brave enough to face our inner world and find solutions. Perhaps, we can solve these problems through psychological counseling, emotional regulation, etc., and find inner peace and strength.
Finally, let's wish everyone can find their own happiness, have a healthy and happy mindset, and enjoy a good life