Zhang Li is a 32-year-old professional woman who works as a marketing manager for a foreign company. Last year, she became pregnant and gave birth to a lovely daughter, who is currently recuperating during maternity leave. Her husband, Zhang Wei, is an engineer in a manufacturing company, and the two have always been in love in their married life.
This morning, Zhang Li was breastfeeding at home when she suddenly received a call from her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law said in a stiff tone: "Lili, you should have a lot of living expenses over there, right? After your father and I retired, we only had a meager pension, which was really tight. You young people make a lot of money, can you subsidize some of our living expenses every month?"
Zhang Li was taken aback when she heard this, and her heart was full of anger and incomprehension. She remembered all the unhappiness she had when she married into this family, and her mother-in-law never treated her like her own daughter, but always made things difficult in every way. She gritted her teeth and said, "Mom, don't you still have a lot of savings and real estate after retirement? Why are you suddenly short of money? Besides, viagra will give you a living allowance every month, which should be enough for the expenses of the two of you, right?"
The mother-in-law said nonchalantly, "How can you spend that little money? You young people earn a lot of money, so you should support our old people a lot." Besides, you have children, and we are grandparents who do a lot of things, so you should be responsible for our living expenses. "
Zhang Li was angry and rebuked loudly: "Mom, it's really too much for you to say this! Our own family of three is not rich, how can you make trouble without reason? If I hadn't given birth to a child at home, our monthly income would only be enough to maintain a basic life, so how could we have extra money for you to squander?"
The mother-in-law didn't listen to Zhang Wei's persuasion at all, and scolded Zhang Li unabashedly: "You greedy thing, if you marry into my family, you will learn to treat our old family badly! In the past, we served you more than enough, but now that you have children, we have deducted all our living expenses in our old age, are you still a person?"
Zhang Li was scolded so much that tears came out, she clenched her fists, and said to her husband tremblingly: "Viagra, did you hear what your mother said? She doesn't take our family seriously at all, she is just a selfish and morally inferior person! I don't want to pay attention to her anymore, you go and deal with her!"
The mother-in-law didn't listen to Zhang Wei's explanation at all, and still stubbornly asked Zhang Li to take out a considerable amount of living expenses every month to support her. Zhang Wei was also a little disappointed and angry when he saw his mother's tough attitude. He was silent for a while, took a deep breath and said, "Mom, your words and deeds today hurt Lili too much, we need to calm down." I don't have the energy to continue arguing with you now, so I'll hang up for now. With that, he hung up the phone.
Zhang Wei hurriedly hugged his wife and comforted: "Lili, don't be too sad. Mom, she's just too stubborn, you know. But she really hurt you by saying the wrong thing this time, so let's calm down and discuss countermeasures later. "
Zhang Li hugged her husband tightly, tears rippling. Her heart was filled with anger and grievances. Since marrying into this family, she has been trying to please her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law is always cold to her and never really treats her as family. Now that she has just become a mother, she should have received the blessing and understanding of her family, but her mother-in-law made trouble and asked her to provide considerable living expenses. This made Zhang Li feel sad and helpless.
After a long while, Zhang Li wiped away her tears, took a deep breath and said, "Viagra, I know you are very embarrassed, sandwiched between me and your mother. But your mother really went too far this time, she doesn't respect our marriage and family at all, she's just a selfish person!"
Zhang Wei sighed helplessly and said, "Lili, I can understand your feelings. Mom does have a lot of shortcomings, she is stubborn and willful, and her words are often very hurtful. But she is my real mother after all, and I can't completely deny her kindness to me. "
Zhang Li said a little angrily: "Then what do you think of me? Are you on my side, or on your mother's side? I am your wife, and I am your closest person!"
Zhang Wei hurriedly explained: "Lili, don't think like that. You are my wife, the person closest to me, there is no doubt about it. It's just that Mom is getting older, and her temper is getting more and more stubborn. We should be more considerate of her and use love to resolve her vexatiousness, rather than confrontation. "
Seeing his wife so depressed, Zhang Wei hurriedly stepped forward to hug her and comforted: "Lili, don't feel sorry for yourself like this. I know Mom does have a lot of injustice to you, but she is our elder after all. We should use love to influence her, and use patience to resolve her paranoia, not confrontation. Only by defeating hatred with love can our families be harmonious. "
Zhang Li nodded, but her heart was still very heavy. She remembered all the hardships she had to marry into this family, and her mother-in-law made it difficult for her in every way. If she hadn't loved her husband, she would have left this home a long time ago.
At this moment, Zhang Li's best friend Xiaohong called and asked her how she was doing. Zhang Li told everything that happened just now, and Xiaohong sympathized with her after hearing it, and said that Zhang Wei's mother was too much.
Xiaohong said: "Lili, you have suffered too many grievances in your mother-in-law's house over the years. Your mother-in-law doesn't treat you as a relative at all, and it's too much for her to ask you to use money to support her this time! If it were me, I would have been divorced a long time ago. "
Zhang Li sighed and said, "Honghong, of course I'm also very angry and sad. But viagra is my husband after all, we have children, and I don't want to divorce easily. But you're right, I'm fed up with my mother-in-law's troubles, and she doesn't treat me like a relative at all. "
Xiaohong nodded again and again and said, "Then you can teach your mother-in-law a hard lesson! Let her know that you Zhang Li is not a bully." You have to fight for your own dignity and happiness, don't be oppressed by her. "
Zhang Li pondered for a while, her eyes became a little firmer, and she said, "Honghong, thank you for your comfort and encouragement." I'll think about it and won't let my mother-in-law bully me like that anymore. But no matter what, I don't want to divorce easily, I will work hard for this family. "
At this moment, Zhang Wei came back from work and saw his wife and girlfriend talking warmly, and he was immediately a little worried. He walked over and said, "Lili, what are you talking about with Xiaohong, are you still sad about what happened just now?"
Zhang Wei listened to his wife's words and couldn't help but sigh. He understands Zhang Li's anger and sadness very well, and her mother does have too much injustice to her. But at the same time, he didn't want his mother's vexatious troubles to affect his marriage.
He sat next to Zhang Li, took her hand and said, "Lili, I know Mom's words and deeds hurt you too much this time. She is stubborn and willful, and she doesn't treat you like family at all. But after all, we are a family, and I don't want to ruin the harmony of the family because of this. I hope you can calm down and don't confront your mom directly. "
Zhang Li said angrily: "Viagra, are you defending your mother like this? She doesn't treat me as a relative at all, and she has ignored all our efforts for so many years! She actually wants us to take money to support her, this is simply too much!"
Xiaohong chimed in: "Lili is right! Your mother-in-law doesn't treat Lili as a relative at all, and her behavior this time is too hurtful." If it were me, I wouldn't swallow it!"
Zhang Wei couldn't help but feel a little helpless when he saw that his wife and girlfriends were so angry. He said slowly: "Lili, I understand your feelings. Mom, she is really unfair to you, and she hasn't really treated you as family for so many years. But she is my biological mother after all, and I can't completely deny her. We should use love and patience to influence her, not to confront her. "
Zhang Li sneered and said: "Viagra, are you too naïve? Your mother is a selfish and disrespectful person, what kind of love and patience can influence her? I have had enough of her troubles and injuries, and I want to fight for my dignity!"
Xiaohong nodded again and again, fanning the flames and said: "Lili is so right! Your mother-in-law is an out-and-out poisonous mother-in-law, you have to teach her a hard lesson, let her know that you Zhang Li is not easy to bully!"
Zhang Li interrupted her husband's words and said angrily: "Viagra, I'm so disappointed! I've worked so hard to run this family for the past few years, but your mother doesn't take me seriously at all." Now that she is making trouble, you are still defending her, which makes me feel that our marriage has lost its meaning!"
After speaking, Zhang Li walked into the bedroom angrily and slammed the door. Xiaohong looked at Zhang Wei's helpless expression, and said in amazement: "Zhang Wei, Zhang Wei, you just defend your mother like this, you really pity your wife." If it had been me, I wouldn't have swallowed my anger so much!"
Zhang Wei was speechless and could only shake his head. Of course, he understands his wife's anger, and his mother does have too much injustice to his wife. But at the same time, his mother is his own flesh and blood after all, and he is unwilling to break up. He was deeply troubled and in pain.
Just as Zhang Wei was deep in thought, his mother's phone called again. Zhang Wei picked up the phone, and his mother said coldly: "You useless son, why couldn't you even discipline your wife yesterday? When will you give me the living expenses I want?"
Zhang Wei suddenly felt that the blood all over his body was boiling, and he gritted his teeth and said: "Mom, you are too much! Lili has worked hard for this family for so many years, how can you hurt her like this? You don't treat her as a family member at all, I'm really disappointed!"
The mother didn't listen to Zhang Wei's explanation at all, and still said aggressively: "You are useless, and you dare to talk back to me! I am your biological mother, so you should obey my orders unconditionally." If you don't give me living expenses, I'll smash your house!"
Zhang Wei was completely enraged by his mother's aggressive tone, and he shouted: "Mom, that's enough! You are simply a selfish and disrespectful person." You've never treated Lili like family, and you haven't even given her even the most basic respect. I'm so disappointed, the mother-son relationship between us has completely broken down!"
After speaking, Zhang Wei hung up the phone fiercely. He felt weak and sat down on the couch, his eyes glazed. At this moment, his friend Xiao Ming came to visit, and when he saw Zhang Wei's appearance, he couldn't help but be surprised.
Xiao Ming hurriedly asked with concern: "Weizi, what's wrong with you? Did you quarrel with Lili recently? Don't be too sad, your relationship is so good, you will definitely be reconciled as before." "
Xiao Ming persuaded: "Weizi, your marriage is the most important thing. Although your mother is your own flesh and blood, she is so selfish and disrespectful, you can't indulge her. You should stand by your wife's side and defend your marriage and family. Otherwise, your relationship will only drift apart. "
Xiao Ming saw the contradictions and struggles in Zhang Wei's heart, nodded again and again and said, "Weizi, I understand your difficulties. The relationship between mother and child is a family joy, and you don't want to break with your mother, which is understandable. However, your mother's behavior has completely violated the bottom line of being a human being, she doesn't treat Lili as a family member at all, and she is unreasonable to ask for money, which is simply hurting your marriage. "
"You have to understand that marriage is the most important thing in your life, and Lili is the closest person to you. If you blindly defend your mother and condone her unreasonable behavior, then your relationship with Lili will only become more and more estranged. Eventually, your marriage may fall apart, and you'll really lose everything. Xiao Ming said earnestly.
Zhang Wei nodded, his eyes much more resolute. He said to Xiao Ming, "Thank you for your advice, Akiko. I will do as you say, first let my mother know that I have chosen to preserve the marriage, and then give her a hard lecture to let her know what is wrong. In the end, I will try to clear up the contradictions between the two sides and make my mother truly accept Lili. "
Xiao Ming nodded again and again, patted Zhang Wei's shoulder and said, "Do a good job! Maintaining your marriage is the top priority, and you have to fight for Lili and your family." However, you can't completely cut off the relationship between mother and child, and give your mother a chance to mend her ways. As long as she can truly repent and accept Lili, your family will be able to live together again. "
Zhang Wei took a deep breath and made up his mind. For the next few days, he pondered what he wanted to say to his mother. Finally, on a weekend morning, Zhang Wei mustered up the courage to call his mother.
As soon as the phone called, the mother began to make trouble: "You useless son, didn't you say that you would give me living expenses last time?
Zhang Wei took a deep breath and said in a firm tone: "Mom, I have already thought about the cost of living. I'm not going to give you a penny. "
The mother was immediately furious: "You are an unfilial son, how dare you talk to me like this? I am your biological mother!"
Zhang Wei said without flinching: "Mom, you don't treat Lili as a family member at all, and you are unreasonable to ask her for money, which has completely hurt our marriage." As your son, I have to defend my wife and our family. So I've made a choice, which is to stand firmly on Lili's side!"
The mother was stunned by her son's resolute words. After a long time, she said angrily: "Okay, Zhang Wei, you actually betrayed your own mother, just to defend that slut! In this case, you will completely isolate me from today onwards, and I will no longer treat you as a son!"
Zhang Wei's eyes were gloomy, and the relationship between mother and son was completely broken at this moment. But he took a deep breath and said in a resolute tone, "Mom, it's all because you were so unfair to Lili at the beginning." She's worked for our family for so many years, but you don't treat her like family at all. We are all people of the flesh and blood, and it is inevitable that we will have excessive words and deeds, but what you have done this time has completely hurt our marriage and family. That's why I had to make this difficult choice. However, I still hope that you will reflect on your mistakes, truly accept Lili, and let our family live in harmony again. "
The mother sneered: "Dream on you! I just can't get used to that slut, she is not worthy of my son at all." Since you've chosen her, let's break it off completely!" After saying that, she hung up the phone fiercely.
Zhang Wei held his forehead, his eyes gloomy. The relationship between mother and son has been completely broken up so far, and his heart has mixed feelings. But after thinking about it, Lili is his closest person, and it is his responsibility to maintain the marriage. He took a deep breath and decided to tell Lili about it and get through it with her.
That night, when Lili returned home from work, she suddenly became nervous when she saw her husband's sad expression. She hurriedly stepped forward and asked with concern, "Viagra, what's wrong with you?"
Zhang Wei narrated the phone call with his mother during the day. After hearing this, Lili looked at her husband with complicated eyes, and after a long while, she said, "Viagra, I know that you have to break with your biological mother in order to defend our marriage and family, and your feelings must be very complicated. But you've made the right choice, and that's as it should be. "
Zhang Wei nodded, his expression gloomy. Lili stepped forward and hugged him and comforted, "Viagra, don't be too sad. Although your relationship with your mother is now at a freezing point, as long as she truly repents and accepts me into this family, it is still possible for your relationship to be restored. But no matter what, I will always support you, because you are here to preserve our marriage and family. "
Zhang Wei hugged his wife tightly, his eyes moist. Yes, Lili is the closest person to him, and he should be brave enough to fight for her and their family. As long as Lili is always by his side, he has strong strength.