An ordinary family, living an ordinary life, encountered a headache. The family lives in a small community in the city, and the family of three depends on each other for their lives.
The hostess of the house is called Zhang Xiaomei, 28 years old this year. She and her husband Zhang Qiang have been married for 5 years and have a 3-year-old son, Xiao Ming. The family lives an ordinary and happy life. Recently, however, Zhang Xiaomei wanted to bring her parents to live with them, but her mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang, was not very happy.
As a filial daughter, Zhang Xiaomei loves her parents deeply. She hopes that her parents can live a better life in their lifetime, instead of being alone at home all day and suffering loneliness. But the attitude of her mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang, hurt Zhang Xiaomei very much, and she didn't understand why her mother-in-law was so stubborn and treated her elders so coldly.
"But parents are getting older, and we should care more about them. Zhang Xiaomei tried to persuade her husband, "They must feel very lonely when they are home alone all day, right? "
Zhang Xiaomei looked at her mother-in-law in disbelief and said, "Mom, why do you say that? They are your elders! We have the responsibility and obligation to be filial to them." "
But the mother-in-law said righteously: "It is because they are elders that they should be left to them! If you annoy them, it will be troublesome." Besides, you young people work very hard, so how can you have extra energy to serve the elderly?"
Zhang Xiaomei was anxious and retorted: "But Mom, we have this responsibility and obligation! Our parents are our dearest people, how can we leave them aside?"
In this way, the mother and daughter argued, but neither side had any intention of giving in, and no one could convince anyone. Zhang Qiang could only sigh secretly on the side, watching the mother and daughter stalemate.
After the argument, Mrs. Zhang, the mother-in-law, returned to the room alone and began to reflect on whether her attitude was too stubborn. She sat by the window and watched the fallen leaves flutter in the wind, and couldn't help but fall into deep thought.
As a mother, she certainly understands Xiaomei's filial piety to her parents. However, she also has her own concerns. She thought to herself: our house is not big enough, if there are two more old people, it will be even more crowded. Besides, the old people have very strange tempers, and if you annoy them, the house will be a mess.
And Zhang Xiaomei also began to reflect on whether she was too impulsive and stubborn. She sat on the sofa in the living room, watching the program on the TV, but her heart was weak. Of course, she knew that if her parents did move in with them, it would indeed add a lot of trouble and burden. However, she just can't let go of the concern and attachment to her parents.
She remembered how hard her parents worked to raise her when she was a child; She remembers how her parents were reluctant to leave home when she was away from home. Tears welled up in her eyes, and her heart was filled with guilt and self-blame.
Zhang Qiang saw the entanglement between his wife and mother-in-law, and he decided to take the initiative as a mediator, first comforting his wife Zhang Xiaomei in private: "My dear, you should be able to understand your mother's concerns, right? But she should be able to understand your intentions, don't be too stubborn about your mother and daughter. "
Then, he went to persuade his mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang: "Mom, Xiaomei's filial piety to her parents, you should be able to empathize, right? Why don't the three of us discuss it and see if there is a good solution?"
After some communication and calming down, the atmosphere at home eased a little. Although the mother and daughter still have differences, they don't have the smell of gunpowder as before.
Gradually, Mrs. Zhang, her mother-in-law, began to have the intention of giving in. She said to her son, "Perhaps, we can consider taking care of my old house and letting your in-laws live there? "
Zhang Qiang told his wife Zhang Xiaomei about this idea. Zhang Xiaomei was a little tempted, but she felt that it was not good to live separately, she replied: "Mom, I hope that the whole family can live together, what is happier than this? "
The mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang, was obviously unwilling to make further concessions, she erected a high "parent" status, and said to Zhang Xiaomei earnestly: "Xiaomei, you are still young and lack comprehensive consideration of many things. At my age, I naturally have more experience and insight. It is a very troublesome thing for a family to live together, not only to take care of the elderly, but also to deal with their strange tempers. If you annoy them, the house will be a mess. "
Zhang Xiaomei retorted angrily: "But Mom, don't you also have the experience accumulated from growing older? Taking care of the elderly is naturally our responsibility and obligation!"
Mrs. Zhang, her mother-in-law, said categorically: "That's your responsibility, not mine! Besides, our house is so small, where can so many people live? You young people work so hard, how can you have extra energy to serve the elderly?"
Zhang Xiaomei was anxious and said in a loud voice: "Mom! How can you say that? Our parents are our relatives, and we have the responsibility and obligation to be filial to them! Besides, our dowry room is big enough, so don't quibble!"
The mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang, was also annoyed by Zhang Xiaomei's words, and she scolded sharply: "The dowry room? That is your dowry room, why did it become your home? You are still young, how do you know what filial piety is? Your parents married you off, but just to share some of the burden for me, a mother? If you can't even do this little thing, what kind of daughter-in-law are you?"
Zhang Xiaomei's tears rolled in her eyes, and she gritted her teeth and said: "Mom, the dowry room is mine, of course I have the right to call the shots! Don't blackmail me with this! Can you do whatever you want when you're old? Is this the attitude you have towards us?"
Seeing this, Zhang Qiang hurriedly stepped forward to persuade him, but his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were already really angry, and no one was willing to make concessions. A quarrel over whether to pick up the elderly to live with them escalated into a tense confrontation between mother and daughter.
Just when the mother and daughter were at a stalemate and Zhang Qiang had nothing to do, her mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang, suddenly fell silent. She seems to realize that her words and actions have hurt her daughter-in-law and son. She returned to her bedroom alone and sat on the edge of the bed, reflecting on whether she had gone too far.
Mrs. Zhang began to recall the scene when she married into this family. At that time, she was also a young daughter-in-law, and her husband and in-laws were very kind to her. They were a happy family, and there had never been such a tense quarrel.
She realized that she had also been a young man back then, and her attitude towards her elders would never be so arrogant and disrespectful. She sighed to herself: "My old bones, are you too stubborn? Xiaomei is also out of filial piety to us as elders." "
And Zhang Xiaomei was sitting on the sofa in the living room with tears in her eyes at this time, and Zhang Qiang was comforting her on the side. Looking at his wife's crying red eyes, Zhang Qiang's heart was full of self-blame. He gently hugged his wife and said, "I'm sorry dear, but I didn't do a good job of coordinating between my family. Don't be too sad, Mom, she's just old and has a weird temper. "
Zhang Xiaomei leaned on her husband's arms, tears streaming down her face. She began to reflect on whether she was too impulsive and stubborn. Although the mother-in-law is a little paranoid, her concern is understandable. After all, living together as a family does add a lot of trouble and burden.
At this juncture, Zhang Qiang opened his mouth to break the deadlock. He said to his wife, "Honey, you and I both blame our mothers. But looking back now, my mother also had good intentions, but her mouth was clumsy. "
As he spoke, he turned to the bedroom and said to his mother-in-law, "Mom, what you said just now did hurt Xiaomei's heart a little. But I know that you actually mean well, but you're just worried about not being able to take care of your in-laws. The three of us will discuss it carefully, and we will definitely find the best of both worlds. "
Mrs. Zhang, the mother-in-law, nodded, and a kind smile appeared on her face again. She said, "yes, my old bone has a weird temper. Xiaomei, I empathize with your filial piety to your parents. It's just that I'm worried that if we live together as a family, it will add too much trouble. "
After some communication and sincere apologies, the conflict between the mother and daughter finally began to be resolved. Zhang Xiaomei wiped away her tears and said, "Mom, I understand your concerns. But can we think of a way to get the best of both worlds? For example, if my parents live near our house, we can visit them often. "
Mrs. Zhang, the mother-in-law, nodded and said, "That's a good idea! Just let your parents live in my old house, which is not far from our house, and it will be much more convenient to take care of it." "
In this way, the family reached a consensus and decided to settle Zhang Xiaomei's parents in her mother-in-law's old house. Although they can't live together, they are very close after all, and Zhang Xiaomei can often visit her parents.
In this way, a dispute over whether to take the elderly to live with them was finally resolved in mutual understanding and consideration. The family rekindled the warm torch and enjoyed the joy of family.
Since then, Zhang Xiaomei's parents have lived in her mother-in-law's old house. Although they cannot live with their children, they are very close to each other, and they can often visit them. The family is happy and close to each other.
Every holiday, the whole family will get together for a lively reunion dinner. The old people watched their children get married and their grandchildren grow up healthily, and their faces were full of happy smiles.
Zhang Xiaomei often thinks of the original dispute, and her heart is full of gratitude. It is precisely because everyone knows how to understand each other and understand each other that this family can come together and enjoy such family fun.
She knows that although there will inevitably be some friction in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as long as it is resolved with love, it will definitely be able to go to the end. She wishes her family eternal harmony and eternal happiness and good health.
In the blink of an eye, a few years have passed. Zhang Xiaomei and her husband Zhang Qiang's son Xiao Ming has grown up and is about to step into the university campus. The family's life has changed dramatically, but the family relationship has never changed.
Xiao Ming clearly remembers that he has lived very close to his grandparents since he was a child. On weekends and holidays, my grandparents would come to the house to eat, chat, and play games with them. Xiao Ming has been deeply loved by his grandparents since he was a child, and they are happy to see this grandson grow up healthily.
Time flies, time flies. Zhang Xiaomei's parents have entered their old age, and their health is deteriorating. The mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang's health, also began to deteriorate, and her movement became more and more inconvenient. The family realized that it might be time to consider bringing the elderly all over here.
One day, Zhang Xiaomei took the initiative to speak to her husband Zhang Qiang and her mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang: "My parents and mother-in-law are getting worse and worse, should we consider taking them all to live with us? "
Zhang Qiang looked at his wife's solemn expression, nodded and said, "You make a lot of sense. The physical condition of parents and mothers really needs more attention and care from us. But we'll have to ask for their opinions. "
The mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang, pondered for a moment and said, "That's a good idea. However, our house is too small, and if there are four more elderly people, it will be too crowded. Why don't we move into a bigger house?"
So, the family began to seriously discuss this important decision. They take into account various factors such as the size of the house, financial situation, living habits, and many more. Everyone, you and I are talking about it.
"I think it's good for us to move to a villa area in the suburbs, where the air is fresh, the environment is quiet, and the elderly people will be better. Zhang Xiaomei said.
Zhang Qiang nodded and said, "It's a little far from where I work, but it's acceptable for the happiness of the whole family." But the house price is not cheap. "
"Don't worry too much about this," said Mrs. Zhang, her mother-in-law, with a smile, "I have saved a lot of money over the years, which is enough for you to make a down payment." "
"That's great!" Zhang Xiaomei said happily, "We will buy a bigger house in the villa area and bring our parents and mother-in-law to live together." That way, we'll be able to take better care of them. "
After some discussion, the family finally made up their minds. They soon bought a large, spacious house in a villa area on the outskirts and began preparations for the move.
On the day of the move, Zhang Xiaomei watched her parents and mother-in-law enter the new home, and her eyes were full of tears. She remembered how many years ago she had had a heated argument with her mother-in-law over this issue.
Today, everything is different. Everyone has become wiser and more tolerant, learning to genealogy and understanding each other. It is precisely because of this spirit of mutual tolerance that this family can come together and enjoy the joy of family.
Zhang Xiaomei knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will inevitably have some contradictions and disputes, but as long as they are resolved with love, they will definitely be able to turn hostilities into friendship. She wishes her family eternal harmony and eternal happiness and good health.
In this way, the family began a new life. The spacious new house is full of laughter. The old people bask in the sun on the balcony and chat about family life; The children played and frolicked in the living room.
Every holiday, the whole family will get together for a lively reunion dinner. The old people watched their children start a family and their grandchildren thrived, and their faces were full of happy smiles.
"Look, I said it would be a good idea to bring my parents and mother-in-law to live with me, right?" Zhang Xiaomei happily said to her husband, "In this way, we can take better care of them." "
Zhang Qiang nodded with a smile and said, "Yes, you are really a good daughter-in-law who is filial." If you hadn't insisted at the beginning, we might never have experienced this kind of family happiness. "
Mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhang, also smiled and said, "Yes, I was so stubborn at the beginning. Thanks to your patience and enlightenment, our old bones did not push our family members away. "
The family looked at each other and smiled, and the atmosphere was happy. They have spent so many good times together and have gone through too many trials and challenges. But it is precisely because of the spirit of mutual understanding and tolerance that they can come together and enjoy such a happy and fulfilling life.
It was late at night, and the old people had gone to bed. Zhang Xiaomei sat on the sofa in the living room, looking at the bright moonlight outside the window, full of emotion.
She remembered how many years ago she had a tense argument with her mother-in-law over the issue of bringing her parents to live with her. She also remembered how later, through communication and understanding, everyone finally resolved this conflict.
"What are you thinking, dear?" Zhang Qiang walked over and gently hugged his wife into his arms.
Zhang Xiaomei smiled and said, "It's nothing, I'm just thanking you for being by my side." It is because of your understanding and support that our family can come together and enjoy such family fun. "
Zhang Qiang looked at his wife's eyes affectionately and said, "Yes, the reason why our family can be so happy is thanks to your filial piety and persistence. You melted my mother's paranoia and me with love, and let us learn to be considerate and understanding of each other. "