On the 25th of December last year, my brother and I went to the nursing home to pick up my uncle home for the New Year, but found that my uncle was tied to the bed by the nurse, and he was already dying, so we immediately called 120 to send him to the county hospital, and my uncle passed away that night.
My uncle was only 73 years old, and he planted more than four acres of wheat alone in the autumn, and he did not wait for the wheat harvest, but left in this way, and his sister blamed herself and cried uncontrollably.
My sister is only 25 years old, she is young, and she is not capable of handling this kind of thing.
So the family gathered around the hospital to discuss what happened to the uncle.
I didn't know that my uncle was sent to a nursing home, and I went back to my parents' house on the 25th of the month to give a New Year's gift, I bought two things, one for my mother, and one for my uncle, I have been doing this since I got married, my father is two brothers, and my father has passed away for more than 10 years, and I am also a close elder.
When I had lunch that day, I told my mother that I was going to call my uncle to come over for dinner, and my mother told me: Your uncle was sent to a nursing home by Xiaoduo, and there are still a few days to celebrate the New Year.
I was shocked and blurted out: Why did my uncle send him to a nursing home!
Mom said: Your uncle fell some time ago, a little cerebral infarction, and stayed in the hospital for half a month, it's almost okay, and you can take care of yourself, no, Xiaoduo has a heart attack again during this time, and wants to go to Beijing to see a doctor, don't worry about him alone, and temporarily send him to the nursing home for a while.
Hearing this, my heart was sour, but there was nothing I could do, several brothers were working in other places, my mother was 96 years old, and the second brother had been taking care of him for many years, and he couldn't take care of his uncle.
I told my second brother that Teiko wasn't sure when he would return, so it was better to let my son drive and we would pick up my uncle back!
The second brother said: That's okay, the fourth brother will be home in a while, and we will go together.
The fourth brother worked in Shanghai and came back for the Spring Festival for the New Year, because the road was congested at the New Year's Pass, and he was blocked on the way back to his hometown in the city.
Uncle had a bad fate in his life, but fortunately he met his mother.
My uncle was brought up by my mother, he was only two years older than my eldest brother, when my mother got married, my uncle was only a few months old, and my grandmother was blind due to eye disease, and my mother took my uncle with her on her wedding day.
Not long after, my grandmother passed away, and my grandmother was only 40 years old when she died.
Grandma couldn't remember how many children she gave birth to, either died of illness or starvation, and only her father survived until she was almost 40 years old and gave birth to an uncle.
The hemp rope is broken in detail, and the bad luck is looking for the miserable, and the snow is very heavy that winter, and the grandmother is buried, and the grandfather takes the family out to beg for food.
It was the 40s, the family was poor, and my grandfather had no shoes to wear, so he begged barefoot for food, and as a result, his feet were frostbitten.
At that time, people didn't have common sense, and my mother saw that my grandfather's feet were red from the cold, so she made hot water to bubble him, but his feet were burned again, and not long after, he died because of wound infection.
Uncle became a child without a father and mother, and there was no food at home, and the people around him let his mother throw him away, and his father was reluctant, and his mother couldn't bear it, so his uncle lived with his mother, and his mother was 18 years old at that time, and his father was only 16 years old, and they didn't have any children of their own.
My mother later gave birth to five more sons and two daughters, and I was the youngest.
Because the family is poor and my uncle has stomach problems, I haven't found a wife in my life.
My uncle helped the family a lot when he was young, and there were many children in the family, so he couldn't eat, so my uncle worked in the production team during the day for a few nephews, and went around looking for food at night.
Uncle knows how to be grateful, he knows that his life is given by his mother, so he always tries to reciprocate, working day and night every day, and going out to beg for food in winter.
Because growing up in a family, uncles and several older brothers are uncles and nephews, more like brothers.
Mom treats her uncle like her own child, worrying about him in everything.
My uncle didn't read, but my uncle was smart, and my cousin was a woodman, so I went to help him pull the saw when he was fine, and later his cousin took his uncle to do carpentry work to earn money to support the family.
My uncle is twenty decades older than me, and when I was a child, my uncle loved me very much and often bought me food.
Several brothers are older, they are all married one after another, but the uncle's marriage is still not settled, the mother is worried that the neighbors will laugh at her partiality, her own sons are married, the little uncle is single, at that time there were two half-mud and half-brick houses at home, and the mother said: Someone is willing to marry Guankui, and the house is vacated for her.
But the people of that era were patriarchal in their bones, many girls were thrown away at birth, and there were many singles in our village, and some of them were quite good, but they didn't get a wife, let alone a family like ours?
The uncle didn't find a wife, which is a lifelong regret for my mother.
Mom often said that she was sorry for her uncle, but she didn't give him a wife and a family.
Uncle comforted his mother: Sometimes there must be in life, there is no time in life to force it, I am lucky to be alive, and I can't blame you for this.
When my uncle was 40 years old, my mother borrowed money to buy a daughter-in-law, because the woman was a southerner and was not used to eating pasta, and then ran away.
My mother had gray hair because of her uncle's marriage.
My mother once passed my fifth brother to my uncle, but a few years after my sister-in-law passed over, she disliked her uncle, and later lived separately.
Mom was worried that the uncle was old and a few nephews played ball, so she discussed with the uncle to raise a daughter for him, and the mother said: No matter how good the nephew is, the niece and daughter-in-law are outsiders, and the children who take care of them will be the ones who are in charge.
When my uncle was 50 years old, my mother raised a daughter for him, and my mother was 70 years old that year, and my mother single-handedly brought my sister to 12 years old.
Uncle is kind-hearted and good to everyone, his sister is raised in his hands, he moves bricks in the kiln factory, and saves money to support his sister.
My sister is beautiful, but she doesn't work hard to study, she didn't graduate from high school and was not admitted to college, and at the age of 21, she was introduced to a soldier and became a military wife.
We all thought that she would be happy and that her uncle would have something to rely on for the rest of his life.
But no one thought that my sister, who has always been healthy, was diagnosed with heart disease during pregnancy, and this disease is very serious, the heart will slowly fail, there is no good treatment, and I want to cure it unless I change my heart.
Over the years, my sister has been seeking medical advice, and she is not able to take care of her uncle, but her uncle, while farming, she went to the kiln factory to load bricks, trying to reduce her sister's burden, and also tried every means to supplement her sister.
Pity the hearts of parents all over the world!
This time, my sister's health was not good again, and her sister-in-law helped her contact the hospital, and when she left, she told her uncle that she would come back to pick up her uncle for the Spring Festival.
Anyway, it's only a few days before the Spring Festival, and there is a car, so I plan to pick him up in advance, so that my sister will have to rent a car at that time.
An hour later, the fourth brother arrived home, and to see that the time was not early, the three siblings went to the nursing home to pick up the uncle and go home.
Who knew that when we arrived at the nursing home, we found that something was wrong with my uncle, his eyes were closed, his lips were chapped, and he couldn't speak, but he still had a little consciousness, and asked him if he could drink water, and he squeezed out a word "thirsty" from the depths of his throat.
I quickly got half a bowl of water, and he quickly drank it, but the person still didn't wake up.
We immediately called my sister, who said that she was on her way back because the road was very congested during the Spring Festival, and she would be home at noon at the earliest.
At this time, the nurse came over in a hurry, and we asked her what was the matter? She said: Lao Zhang is angry, he said that you won't come to see him for the New Year, so he ignores you.
I learned from the nurse's mouth that my uncle was infected with the new crown virus and had been hanging water for a few days, but it was almost better, and I ate a steamed bun and a bowl of porridge last night, anyway, the nurse just didn't admit that my uncle was very sick.
No matter how stupid we are, we know that being angry and dying are not the same thing, so we hurriedly called an ambulance.
Because the nursing home was far away from the county hospital, the waiting process was very painful, and my uncle kept his eyes closed and his breathing was weak.
During the Spring Festival, the road was very congested, we waited for almost an hour, the ambulance finally came, my brother couldn't wait to lift the quilt, ready to dress my uncle, then we found that my uncle's two hands were tied to both sides of the bed, thin skin and bones, several of us cried.
The nurse was still arguing, she said she wouldn't tie her uncle to the bed, worried that he would run away at night.
It's ridiculous to say, an old man on the verge of dying, he doesn't have the strength to run if he wants to!
Without arguing with the nurse, we immediately carried my uncle to the ambulance, and the paramedics gave him oxygen and monitoring equipment.
My uncle was taken directly to the intensive care unit, and I met my sister who hurried back in the passageway, and it was then that she believed that my uncle was really not good, because the nurse had been hiding my uncle's illness before.
My sister is only 25 years old, and she has no opinion in this situation, so she is so scared that she keeps crying.
So I called the other siblings, because the Chinese New Year was approaching, and everyone was on their way back
Several of us stood at the door of the custody room, praying for my uncle to escape this fate.
I'm so self-remorseful! Seven or eight brothers and sisters will make my uncle fall into a nursing home, but everyone has their own suffering, and we are also helpless.
At 10 o'clock that night, my uncle was laid to rest forever, and the brothers knelt beside him and wept bitterly.
The person has passed away, and the priority is to take the uncle home.
According to our customs, the elderly who have passed away outside are not allowed to enter the house, and they must build a funeral shed outside, and the coffin must be stopped for at least three days.
So the fourth brother planned to call the funeral company and come over to build a funeral shed.
At this time, the second brother patted his head and said: I suffered, I almost forgot the big thing, tomorrow Uncle Qiang's family will get married, this red thing and white thing collide together, and people will respond to it!
I then remembered that when I entered the community in the morning, there was a rainbow door at the entrance of the community.
Uncle Qiang and uncle's family are neighbors, our community is a relocated household, in the hometown also have been dealing with each other for generations, moving to the community, living in a unit, every day from downstairs, in the elevator will meet.
Uncle Qiang's son Da Meng is a very good child, but this child is quite unlucky, he is unladylike, this is his second marriage.
Da Meng is 32 years old this year, his ex-wife is from the township, from the realization that marriage is smooth, Da Meng is an only son, Uncle Qiang's family conditions are not bad, and the woman's requirements are met here.
But on the day of the wedding, the car that picked up the newlyweds arrived at home, and the woman's aunt made trouble, saying that the relocation house was not as good as the commercial house, and she wanted Uncle Qiang's family to subsidize the price difference, and temporarily asked for 88,000 yuan, because the incident happened suddenly, there was no preparation here, no matter how to negotiate, the woman just didn't get into the car, Uncle Qiang's family was also very angry, and the two families were deadlocked.
Later, the man's family made concessions, raised money separately, and waited for the money to be handed over to the newcomer, and the newcomer arrived home at more than 12 o'clock, (our custom, marriage should be entered before 12 o'clock,) missed the auspicious time, so that night, the little couple had a conflict, there was an estrangement, and they reluctantly divorced after half a year.
There are more men and fewer women in the countryside, and it is difficult for single boys to find a daughter-in-law, not to mention a second marriage, this delay is several years, I have seen that I am 30 years old, and Uncle Qiang's hair is gray, and I beg my grandfather to tell my grandmother everywhere.
Fortunately, last year, Aunt Dameng introduced him to a divorce, and the two came together, because usually the villagers are working in other places, so they set the wedding date on the 26th of the lunar month, and at this time, the part-time workers came back and someone helped.
But people are not as good as heaven, but I didn't expect my uncle to pass away at this juncture.
The family was at a loss to guard their uncle.
At this time, the second brother spoke, the second brother has been a grassroots leader all his life, and he made the decision when he encountered major events at home.
The second brother said: Birth, old age, sickness and death are not controlled by anyone, it stands to reason that we do funerals, and their family can't take care of it, but Uncle Qiang's family finally found a daughter-in-law, and the first daughter-in-law divorced because there was something wrong when she got married, and there was a shadow in her heart. Looking down and not looking up, the neighbor is a matter of ancestors, we can't ignore morality and human feelings.
My sister is young and ignorant, she said: His family runs his family, we build a funeral shed in advance, and it does not affect them, this kind of thing happened suddenly, and we didn't mean it, isn't there a saying that "the dead are great".
The elder brother said: You are young, there are some things you have not experienced, this kind of thing happened in the village a few years ago, two neighbors married a daughter-in-law, an old man passed away, the custom here is that there is an old man in the family who passed away, relatives came, and a large group of female dependents wanted to go up to cry with them.
At noon, the bride entered the door, firecrackers rang out, and the family of the dead thought that someone had come to mourn, and the main family took a large group of female dependents out to pick up people, crying while walking, and the people next to them quickly stopped and said: Don't cry, crying is wrong.
Later, I learned that there was a joke, the wedding was over, and the in-laws of the happy event came to the door, and the bereaved family apologized to the Xi family, and spent money to find someone to eliminate the disaster, and the Xi family was not in the end.
I thought that this matter would pass like this, who knew that this matter would leave a shadow in the bride's heart, and life was unsatisfactory, so she associated these two things, and then the woman was depressed, carrying a bottle of pesticide, ran to the door of the mourner's house and committed suicide, leaving behind a three-year-old daughter.
The two families did not get along with each other for a long time. My brother said that the living don't rob the bridge, and the dead don't rob the Yangguan Road, this is the rule, let them do it first.
So the elder brother immediately made a decision and told his sister to hurry up and buy a shroud, change the clothes while the uncle was not morgue, and then temporarily put the uncle in the hospital morgue, and go back to their respective homes, and then take the uncle back when the wedding was over.
When a few of us have dealt with the affairs of the hospital, it is almost dawn, the eldest brother and the third brother have also rushed over, and the second brother has arranged for a few brothers to go home to take a bath and change clothes, and wait for Uncle Qiang's house to help.
Dameng's marriage invited a rural chef, set up a simple shed downstairs, set up more than 30 tables, invited a wedding company, set up a stage, laid out a long red carpet, and made a flower balloon arch, which was very beautiful.
At 11:08 p.m., the wedding started on time, everyone watched the wedding while eating, it was not lively, everyone praised Uncle Qiang for doing things, and brought back face.
The wedding was lively and lively, and lasted until more than two o'clock in the afternoon, the guests dispersed one after another, sending off the last group of relatives, and the elder brother told Uncle Qiang: Uncle Qiang, I'm sorry, my uncle passed away last night, and I didn't dare to make a noise in the hospital morgue all night, and I am going to pick him up now.
When Uncle Qiang knew the ins and outs of the matter, he praised the second brother for doing things and saved him enough face.
So Uncle Qiang immediately notified the removal of the shed, made room for my home, and beckoned his aunt to come over to help tear the filial piety cloth.
Uncle was taken home, and Uncle Qiang knelt in front of his uncle's spirit, kowtowed a few times, and said, "Brother, I'm sorry."
At this time, my brother went out and put a string of "falling air cannons", and the people in the village heard the sound of the cannons and came one after another.
My eldest sister and I called in advance to set the fire, and then asked my uncle for a band, and then I called the band to come over.
According to the rules on our side, the coffin of the deceased should be stopped for three days, and the uncle's breath was counted as one day before 12 o'clock, and it was already evening when he took his uncle home, and the next day was also over, so the funeral was very hasty.
On the morning of the third day, my uncle was sent to the crematorium for cremation, and at noon he was sent back to his hometown for burial.
Uncle Qiang and his family were helping throughout the whole process, bought burning paper, and paid a gift of 500 yuan.
After the funeral, Zhike calculated the general ledger, because there was no public news two days ago, and many people in the village did not know about it, so they did not come to mourn their uncle.
Uncle has a good heart all his life, no matter who has a happy event, he is a courtesy to the person, the family has not been left behind, the guest said: This time the loss is big, according to the Guankui nephew (my uncle) as a person, under normal circumstances, you can receive more than 50,000 yuan in gifts, and the result is 22,000.
My brother smiled and said: I can't say that I have suffered a loss, maybe I will make up for it from somewhere.
What my brother said is true, after my uncle passed away, my sister moved back to live, my brother-in-law is still serving in Beijing, my sister is alone at home with the children, Da Meng's lover is called Nana, she is the same age as her sister, she knows what happened on the wedding day, she is very grateful to her sister, and she will help her sister take care of the child if she has nothing to do.
If the weather is bad, or her sister is not in good health, she will help her sister pick up and drop off the children.
My sister went to Beijing for treatment after the Spring Festival, during the treatment she made a major decision, pregnant with a second child, she said that the doctor said, the premature heart beat is maintained well, she wants to gamble.
Because my sister-in-law has also had a physical condition in recent years, gout and asthma, my sister's mother-in-law is worried that her son and daughter-in-law are not in good health, and a girl will not be able to take on the responsibility of providing for the elderly in the future.
At the beginning of pregnancy, my sister raised a baby in Beijing, at first she didn't say, during the May Day period my sister-in-law sent her back, I only knew that she was pregnant, blamed her for being late, I was very worried about her, yesterday called her to come and live with me, because my son is going to take the college entrance examination, can not go to her house to accompany her.
She said: Miss me, don't worry, Nana accompanies me every day, I take one step at a time, if it doesn't work, I will go to Beijing and stay in the hospital to protect the fetus.
She told me that a few days ago she vomited blood, and the two of them took her to the city hospital overnight, and Nana served her for a week.
At this time, Nana took the phone and said: Miss me, don't worry! I'm also preparing for pregnancy now, and I'm bored alone, so I'll come over to accompany Xiaoduo if I'm fine, and it's convenient upstairs and downstairs.
Hung up the phone, I thought a lot, our family of five brothers, is a big family in the village, if we didn't take into account the feelings of Uncle Qiang's family and forcibly held a funeral, not only Uncle Qiang's family is not happy, others will also think that our family bullies the weak with the strong, and the blessing is lost!
To be a man is to empathize, endure the calm for a while, regress to the sea and the sky, a little loss on the surface, in fact, it has been won back, do you say?