Female: The bride price is 500,000 yuan, otherwise you won't get married!
M: No problem, I'll add another 200,000.
F: Husband, I love you so much!
M: There's a small condition.
F: What are the conditions?
M: Just do a marriage test.
Female (furious): You scumbag, you don't believe me?
M: It's not that I don't believe you, but I'm thinking about our health and the health of our children in the future.
F: No way, don't even think about it!
M: I'm sorry, bye-bye!
The above conversation is from an article on October 14, 2020 about "The mother-in-law asks for a bride price of 500,000 yuan, and the man says that as long as he agrees to do the marriage examination, he can add 200,000 yuan". From the article, we can see that the psychological situation of this woman is not an exception, but represents the general psychology of a considerable number of women in the mainland. In their consciousness, it seems that marrying a man is a great reward for men, and this deformed psychology actually comes from extreme feminist thought. As I said in my previous article, many women are actually nothing, but they are very brave enough to make all kinds of unreasonable demands on men, and they have only one reason: I am a woman.
And this kind of extreme feminist thinking not only harms others and oneself, but also brings a bad atmosphere to the whole society. At worst, it will lead to the degradation of social ethics and morality, and at worst, it will affect the future of the country and the nation. The reason why I say this is not to belittle women, but to emphasize the importance of women in social life, and not to oppose women's equal rights, but to oppose this extreme feminism. In fact, from a historical point of view, although the mainland has not paid enough attention to women since ancient times, and the phenomenon of preference for sons over women is also extremely common, no matter in the past dynasties, there has never been a serious suppression of women. It's just that with the development of modern society and the invasion of Western decadent culture, many of our young women have been brainwashed by Western concepts.
You must know that a country and a nation are made up of the whole society, and the individual families make up the current society. Marriage is the primary condition for constituting a family, and a good marriage is not a business, let alone a one-way request, but the contribution of two people. Since ancient times, there has been a bad idea of the inferiority of men and women, but it has changed dramatically with the development of the times. Objectively speaking, in fact, since ancient times, the status of women has not been as unbearable as we imagined, and in the long river of history, some outstanding women have left their names. If there is the hero Lu Bu, there will naturally be the beautiful Diao Chan; with the recovery of the Han Dynasty, the good name of Zhaojun is naturally indispensable. In terms of talent, Qu Yuan's songs are well known to the world, but Cai Wenji's eighteen beats of Hu Ji are not a kind of masterpiece? Li Du's poems reflect the fate of the Tang Dynasty, but Li Qingzhao's lyrics and songs are also an imprint of the women's yearning for love in that dynasty.
Let's look back at the Tang Dynasty, when the women were already dressed in gorgeous clothes, and there was no modern woman at all. And Wu Zetian's claim to be the emperor proves that women can also hold up a piece of the sky. The harem struggles of all dynasties have never stopped, and a woman can influence the direction of the entire dynasty, and can also directly determine the fate of a dynasty. If the status of women is really as unbearable as we imagined, will such a situation occur? If women are like a commodity like some Western brainwashed, then how can the Empress Dowager Xuan of Great Qin control the world? Not to mention the outstanding women of other dynasties. From Cleopatra to Queen Victoria, from Catherine II to Marie Curie, the status of women in the long course of history has never been as low as some of us imagine today.
In fact, from the above examples, we can see that whether it is China or foreign countries, whether it is modern or ancient, the status of women has always been adapted to the needs of social development. If someone says that in ancient times women were like commodities, then men were actually the same, in the era of slavery, both men and women, as long as they were slaves, they were commodities, and in feudal society, as long as they were tenants, the status of both men and women was basically the same. It's just that men are more physically advantageous, so many jobs need men to do more, in fact, this itself is a kind of care and respect for women, and there is no reason to discriminate against women. Some people may say that women in ancient times tied their little feet, but in fact, they were forced by others to put it bluntly? No, it is just a custom formed by some women in order to adapt to social aesthetics, is it not a kind of discrimination for men to have long beards in ancient times and long braids in the Qing Dynasty? What about those eunuchs in the palace? Is this a kind of discrimination against women?
I believe that after reading my article, you may understand why many women today shout for freedom, equality and women's rights, but in fact, the key issue is to be used to it. There are the results of the brainwashing of Western forces, the results of the pursuit of interests by capitalists, and the results of many men's love for women. In fact, the status of women is not low, and even better than men in many aspects, but people's desires are never satisfied, under the brainwashing of some Western decadent ideas, and under the shouts of some capitalists, many women are intoxicated with this kind of lie and cannot extricate themselves. For them, it seems that everything in the world must be dominated by women, which is called fairness, and it seems that everything must take into account the interests of women unconditionally, so that it can be called equality. But they forget that there is no such thing as a free pie, and if you want something, you're doomed to lose something.
So let's go back to the beginning of this article, the marriage inspection of both parties before marriage is not only a normal procedure, but also a legal procedure, why is this woman so disgusted? So the question is, why do these women pursue equality on the one hand, but on the other hand, they insist on not wanting this equality? In fact, this kind of contradictory ways and methods are all stinky problems that some forces with ulterior motives and some poisonous chicken soup are used to. For some women, it seems natural for men to sell their physical strength to provide good living conditions for their families, but they forget that women are gentle and virtuous, and husbands and children were once taken for granted. If you are not gentle and virtuous, and you are not willing to marry and raise children, how can you have the courage to ask men to work hard and provide you with good living conditions?
Marriage is extremely important to the family, and a stable and beautiful marriage can not only make the family harmonious and happy, but also enable the elderly and children to live a long and healthy life, which is the basic condition of society. The essence of marriage is not to take, but to give, which is also equal and a responsibility. If you unilaterally only ask men to pay, and women sit back and enjoy the benefits, and choose from all kinds of things, this is actually not the pursuit of equality, but a kind of self-humility. It can be said that only humble women will treat themselves as a commodity, and will treat marriage as a transaction. A truly strong woman will not lose her luster because of marriage, but can take care of the family and maintain the marriage well, so that she can bloom more femininely.
In that case, why do some people with ulterior motives always advocate feminism? In fact, for the whole world, why China is strong and why it has lasted for thousands of years is mainly due to our sense of identity with our ancestors. I believe that every Chinese person knows very clearly that we Chinese are the sons and daughters of China and the descendants of Yan and Huang, and this concept has been deeply imprinted in everyone's bones since ancient times with the development of the Chinese family. In other words, the feelings of family and country are the bonds that can make Chinese civilization last for thousands of years, which is not only a part of traditional culture, but also a traditional moral concept. The development of feminism can effectively combat this kind of family and country feelings, because since ancient times, the mainland has been dominated by men, even in the era of Wu Zetian, in the end, considering the inheritance of the family, he also gave up letting his martial arts family take over, but also gave the Li family a prosperous life.
Moreover, to some elites in modern society, women are like playthings in their eyes. By promoting this extreme feminist ideology, it can provide a good excuse for these women to pursue material interests. As we all know, it is not ordinary people who can provide huge material benefits to women, only the elite group can do it, and because of this, some women are crazy about pursuing money and enjoyment at the same time, they are slowly entering the cage of the elite group. I believe that everyone has heard of the Epstein incident in the United States, and you can see that in that incident, although it is a beautiful country that has always preached equality between men and women, where is the status of women? What is the significance of women's existence other than becoming the playthings of some elite groups? And who are the male protagonists involved in the Epstein case? Either princes or nobles, presidents or politicians, is this phenomenon not the result of many of our women's pursuit of material comfort?
In fact, whether in modern times or in ancient times, women who over-demand from men rarely have perfect results, but some women who know how to be self-reliant, know how to think for men, for their families, and for life are happier in life. Because of this, I also advise some contemporary women: don't take yourself too seriously, the sense of security does not all come from material security, but more importantly, the two are happy, have a stable family and perfect love. Only by treating each other with trust can we keep love eternal, and only by treating each other with a sincere attitude can we make the road of marriage wider and wider. Only in this way can the flower of happiness truly bloom tightly for a long time. Only by lowering one's posture can one truly understand a person's character, and blindly asking for it will only make oneself suffer bitterly. I sincerely hope that all lovers in the world can use wisdom and courage to face all kinds of difficulties in married life and create a happy future together!