Did you know that if a person dares to be alone, then he is already a person with a strong heart.
Why?
The biggest difficulty in being alone is killing time. Alone, with no one to talk to, no one to accompany you, how to spend a long night?
You may say, "That's not easy, play a game, watch a video, and the day will go by quickly." But those who really dare to be alone need to spend not just one day, but a year or a few years.
If he relies on these electronic devices every day, then he will have a kind of panic and guilt in his heart that he has wasted his life. Think about it, if you spend a long time doing nothing, staying at home every day playing games or watching TV, won't you feel unsteady and worry about your future?
Therefore, a person who dares to be alone for a long time needs to have a quality, that is, self-discipline.
He wants to know how to spend his day, what to do this hour, what to do in the next hour, and arrange his daily life to the fullest. And this ability is not available to everyone.
Think about it, is every transformation of yourself done when you are alone?
In order to improve their basketball skills, some people get up at 5 o'clock in the morning and go to the basketball court alone to train; some people do not sleep after work at night and study until late at night in order to earn higher wages; and there are many more people who work silently alone in places where no one sees in order to change their fate, which is the power of self-discipline.
In addition, people who really dare to be alone do not mean that they are passively alone because they are not popular, but a kind of active solitude, actively and consciously leaving the noisy crowd.
When we are in a crowd, we will hear the voices of others, care about the eyes of others, and be forced to suppress our true feelings in our hearts. Solitude gives us time to be with ourselves and allows us to hear our truest inner voice.
The vast majority of people have had such an experience, when they encounter some problems in life, they always need to think quietly for a few days, and after a few days of solitude, the soul can be transformed, so as to face the hardships of life more bravely and firmly. On the contrary, if you don't give yourself time alone, you will continue to live in a mess, and wait for 5 or 10 years before you suddenly wake up, and you have wasted all your precious time.
Therefore, being alone is to leave yourself a certain amount of time and space, so that you can reflect on what you really want to pursue in this life.
Also, the human brain has a limited amount of energy.
If all of our brain's computing power is used to handle daily chores and interpersonal interactions, we will enter a state of "false busyness". Although I seem to be very busy and hard working every day, in fact, my ability has not grown much.
Why?
Think about the work we do every day, do most of us already have the knowledge and skills needed to do the job?
Art editors draw a lot of pictures every day, but they use similar techniques, and salespeople sell products to a lot of people every day, but they use the same routine. It seems that he has been busy, but in fact, he uses knowledge that has been repeated for a long time.
Of course, this is not to say that this knowledge is useless, but for ourselves, our growth has stopped. After a few years, when people reach middle age, their energy declines, and we are likely to be replaced by young people who come from behind, thus suffering from a midlife crisis.
Solitude, on the other hand, can open up a whole new phase of our lives.
Du Yuesheng said, "The quieter the person in the crowd, the more powerful he is." Because quiet people can get rid of the temptation of the outside world and control the peace of mind. ”
Quiet people can have more time to think about their needs.
After rejecting useless socializing, we can do things we really enjoy to recharge ourselves, raise flowers, go for a walk in the park, or climb a mountain. If we like calligraphy, we can practice writing, if we like music, we can learn to play the piano, and if we like to study technology, we can take the initiative to further our studies.
In this era of developed Internet, if you can practice your love to the extreme, you may be able to open up a second career by shooting videos or doing live broadcasts.
In addition, people who are alone also have a strong ability to think.
There is a saying in "University", "After being fixed, you can be quiet, and then you can be quiet, and then you can be safe, and then you can be safe, and then you can be safe, and then you can be satisfied." ”
It means that only after a person is determined can he calm down, calm his mind can he be at ease, and only when he is at peace can he think about it thoroughly, and only when he is thoughtful can he gain something.
Therefore, only those who like to be alone can calm their minds and thus gain something.
In short, we can be our true selves when we are alone. I once read a doctor's sharing, he said that he has seen many critically ill patients, and the thing that most patients regret most is that they only care about work and social interaction in life, but never do something they really like alone. So, being alone is a pleasure to live for yourself.
In addition, there is a very popular song called "The Lonely Brave", which means that life is like a lonely journey, and the brave are all working hard in the days when no one cares, and accumulating strength in the time alone. Being alone is also a shortcut to improve yourself efficiently.