Recently, a video of a subway woman saying that she was stared at by a strange man went viral on the Internet, causing widespread discussion. According to the video, on April 25, at a subway station in Tianjin, a woman suddenly stepped forward to film and questioned a male passenger "why did he keep looking at us", and then accused the other party of "sexual harassment" to the public. After the incident, the woman uploaded the video to Douyin, saying that she had called the police to deal with it.
However, the incident has sparked a lot of controversy. Netizens who supported the woman said that it was uncomfortable for a person to be watched in public for a long time, but some netizens pointed out that simply watching others did not constitute a legal offense, and the woman publicly accused the male passenger of being mistaken.
It is even rumored that the friend of the woman in the video also joined in the subsequent accusation against the man, but there is no factual evidence. Whether the whole incident has been hyped or not, netizens have a lot of controversy.
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We have to ask: is being watched in public really "harassing"?
In public places such as the subway, eye contact and brief stares are inevitable to some extent. It is not theoretically illegal for an individual passenger to subconsciously look at others for specific reasons (e.g. looking at their clothes, looking around, etc.).
Of course, if the gaze stays too long or shows obvious indifference, it may make the other person feel uncomfortable, but it is difficult to conclude that the other person is "harassing" based on the sight alone.
In addition, even if the eye contact gives people all kinds of bad feelings, directly being present at the scene to name and publicly accuse the other party is inevitably a bit arbitrary and uneasy. The best way to do this is to express your discomfort with euphemism and seek witnesses, and if the other person is misleading or harassing, you can report it to the staff in a timely manner to resolve the problem and solve the problem.
And accusing others with great fanfare on the Internet requires room for maneuver. If you make a big fuss about subjective assumptions alone, once the facts cannot be established, you may face legal consequences. This is also not conducive to safeguarding personal reputation and legitimate rights and interests.
Taking a "peace first" approach may be a smarter way to deal with relatively simple disputes. It's true that eye bumps in public are a concern, but to distinguish between situations, subtle discomfort is not the same as illegal trespassing. Blaming others in an overly aggressive stance can itself be questionable.
There is insufficient information about this incident, and it is not appropriate to make a conclusion that either party is at fault. However, judging from the statements and behaviors in the video, it may not be appropriate for the woman to publicly criticize the male passenger directly at the crowded subway station. Impulsiveness can lead to an escalation of the situation.
We should face such disputes in a more rational and thoughtful manner. For example, the woman can politely ask the other party for the purpose of her behavior at that time, and if she sees that the other party has a bad attitude, she can report it to the station staff instead of directly making a video accusation. The man should also respond politely to clear up the misunderstanding.
In addition, it is too presumptuous for the woman to go online and accuse others of implicating others. If sufficient evidence is not provided in a bus incident, the public naming is likely to have a negative impact. We should all be careful to protect our own reputations and those of others.
Regardless of the truth of the event, this incident may give us several inspirations: In public, we should pay attention to whether our words and deeds are reasonable and thoughtful; in the face of disputes, we should handle them with a rational and cautious attitude to avoid impulsive accusations and expand the situation; and before expressing our stance on the Internet, we should also be cautious in making judgments to reduce the possibility of misleading others.
Only by watching over each other and teaching peace can we get along more kindly in public. If we encounter a similar situation in the future, I hope that all parties can resolve their differences in a more mature and rational manner. This may be more helpful in maintaining order in the community.