In reality, there are indeed families who treat their relatives as "enemies", which is really embarrassing.
In the face of such a thing, the wisest thing for us to do is to do three foolish things well.
You must know that there are some things in life that are confusing, but they are blessings.
For example, if you do these 3 foolish things well, you will be a winner.
01 Don't be easy, go as an intermediary
In reality, if our family members become "enemies" with each other, then our first thing is not to be an intermediary and mediate.
Because this kind of mediation is often ineffective, it will also bring side effects.
Here's an example.
In my family, because of various conflicts, I was very estranged from a relative.
Later, a relative who couldn't hit us with eight poles came to us and accused us of bowing our heads.
Let's just be inexplicable.
Because he doesn't know right from wrong, he doesn't understand the contradictions between us at all, and he is irreconcilable.
It is also mixed with a large number of unilateral accusations, which is really irritating.
The fact is that when you are a mediator, many times it is ineffective.
We don't know what kind of grudges people have. It would be naïve to think that you can reconcile by saying a few words and having a meal.
If there is trouble between relatives to the point of "enemies", it is often a very profound contradiction or a profound conflict of interests.
It's definitely not a "I'm sorry", and a few good words can be adjusted.
So, let's not make our own decisions and reconcile others.
This is most likely invalid. It is also tainted with the cause and effect of others. Is it worth it?
02 Pretending to be confused about each other's gatherings
In reality, if we are the parties concerned, we become enemies with our relatives at home.
Then please keep enough distance during normal times and during the New Year's holidays. For these exchanges, pretend to be confused.
Because "distance produces beauty", it is true here.
Less meeting and hearing less from each other is the best health.
Let's say we have an enemy with a bad relative and tear our faces.
Then don't meet each other.
Don't take the initiative to join in on those occasions during the New Year's holidays. Otherwise, it's adding to yourself.
In reality, keeping enough physical distance is, in fact, one of the best ways.
If you don't see each other and can't hear from each other, you can reduce "emotional stimulation".
Naturally, there is no irritability and pain in your life. Isn't it?
03 Treat the relationship with each other coldly according to the character
In reality, both of us and our relatives have become enemies. Or is it that relatives have become enemies of each other, and we should all learn more about human nature.
Recognize the humanity of the other person, whether it is good or bad.
Take this as a rule for your future relationship and give yourself a warning.
Some people feel that the relationship is stiff, it is someone else's business, and there is no warning effect on themselves. In the end, it leads to itself and suffers a loss.
It's a shame.
For example, some people find that their children have broken down their relationships.
But he himself didn't realize at all that what was the reason for the quarrel between his children?
Is it because one party's character is very inferior?
In the future, this child may treat us in the same way. Isn't it?
Relatives at home are breaking up, and no one wants to see it. But people's temperament and temperament are different, and their character is also different. There's just no way.
This is something we can't control. It can only be a matter of course.
Forcibly saving this relationship will not be saved.