For many reasons, a woman may want to marry a man because she feels like she is on top.
For example, if you feel that you are old, you may also feel that you want to continue your love and live a long life. Or you want to find someone and live with a partner.
Whatever the reason, in fact, be calm enough. Because talking about marriage is different from others.
This is a significant decision that cannot be easily reversed. If you choose the wrong one, you can't do it all over again, but you have to pay the price.
So, please tell your daughter that talking about marriage with a man shouldn't just be because of love, age, and impulse.
It is very important to see if these 3 points are passed!
01 Experience and mentality
In reality, if you have a daughter, tell her:
Before talking about marriage, her own experience and mentality must be mature enough to be able to understand people's hearts.
The same should be true for men.
With enough experience, she can clearly distinguish the man's character and personality and eliminate hidden dangers. Only when you have a mature mind can you deal with many marital problems.
In addition, if the man is not experienced enough and has an immature mentality, he will also look very naïve after marriage.
For example, some women regret it after marriage because they were blind and saw the wrong person. It's because I don't have enough experience that I don't see people.
Of course, the man has a lot of childish and irresponsible behavior after marriage, also because the man is not mature enough.
It's all the root of the problem.
In reality, please tell your daughter: choose a marriage partner, don't just look at the conditions. Don't be in a hurry just because you're getting older.
Instead, you have to wait for your own experience and mentality to be more mature before you choose.
This choice is more accurate.
02 Whether this relationship is easy to manage
In reality, please tell your daughter: don't choose a marriage that you can't control.
What is an unruly marriage?
It is a marriage with many potential contradictions, or it is beyond one's ability.
Here's an example.
If your daughter, when talking to someone, it is obvious that there are thorny problems in the man's family.
For example, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the problem of living in the world. Then this marriage may be the woman, which cannot be controlled, and needs to be cautious.
There are also marriages where the economic conditions of the two parties are very different, or the right to speak is different.
Then it is obvious that the right to speak after marriage must belong to the strong party.
This is not a marriage that the weaker party can handle.
People can work hard in marriage, but there is a limit to what people can do.
There are some things that are destined to be oneself and cannot be controlled. It's better to give up sooner.
Otherwise, even if you reluctantly get married, you won't be able to get along for long.
03 The other party really has highlights
In reality, everyone knows that when considering marriage, it depends on economic conditions. Otherwise, poor couples mourn everything.
But in fact, people who get married simply according to this model may have a very uncomfortable life after marriage.
On the premise that the economic conditions are qualified, there must be a motive for true love.
That is, the other party must really be able to attract you.
Otherwise, you can't force yourself.
Here's an example.
When a man and a woman consider marriage, in addition to looking at economic conditions, the other party's talent, appearance, or character must really attract them.
Otherwise, even if you are married, the economic conditions are acceptable, but you may also be cold and violent.
Both parties are not in good spirits about marriage. You say, this is not torture, what is it?
Please tell your daughter: When it comes to marriage, economic conditions are important, but the experience, psychological maturity, and respective advantages and attractiveness of yourself and each other are also important.
In addition, consider yourself and whether you can manage this marriage.
It's definitely not something that can be easily passed by simply talking about it.
A rash choice will create dissatisfaction after marriage. This can't deceive yourself.