In reality, if you want to suffer less in life and work, you must know how to identify people with "bad hearts".
There is a good saying: "There are only a thousand years to be a thief, and there is no thousand years to prevent thieves." "The kind of person who has a bad heart, his behavior pattern is bad. You watch out for him every day, and it doesn't cost that much.
Therefore, one of the most advantageous ways to identify him and then move away from him is to do so.
Some people are very confused about knowing people, but in fact, it is not too difficult.
Grasp these 3 details, you can identify a lot of "bad-eyed" people, very accurate!
01 Verbal injury
In reality, there are indeed people who "have a knife mouth and a tofu heart". But there are also many people who are knife mouths and knife hearts. You have to distinguish between them.
Some people are very good at using words to hurt others. When he saw others sad and sad, he was very happy in his heart.
Therefore, by looking at a person's literacy when he speaks, you can judge whether his heart is kind or not.
For example, some relatives and acquaintances come to your house.
Do you say that he really doesn't understand some words at his age, and it hurts people? Actually, he understands it very well.
He just did it most of the time, on purpose.
It's just that relying on the relationship between relatives, it is estimated that you are not good at seizures, so I deliberately hurt you.
The truth is as simple as that.
In reality, a person's way of speaking, many times, is a true portrayal of his heart.
There are even some people who use the words "just kidding" and "for your good" to gag you.
But in fact, it is really hurting you with words. You want to identify accurately.
02 Is there a bottom line?
In reality, there is a famous difference between people with bad hearts and people with good hearts:
That is, in the heart, whether there is a line of "self-restraint" for hurting others.
People with good hearts have no tolerance for hurting others, and will avoid it as much as possible. Even after unintentional injury, they will blame themselves very much.
And people with bad hearts have no moral baggage in this regard.
Not a little repentance and doubt, nothing.
That's the difference.
For example, if a kind-hearted person hurts others by speaking, he will apologize. Not to rob others of their interests.
They are more upright and kind in their personal qualities. That's what I ask of myself.
And people with bad hearts have no ideological pressure to hurt others.
Snatching the interests of others, watching others be unlucky, and creating all kinds of gossip, they laugh even more.
That's the basic difference.
In reality, if you find people around you, it's the latter. If you don't have any psychological pressure to hurt others, you should be careful.
This kind of person has a different way of making moral judgments than we do. The bottom line of being a man is also different.
Your best bet is to stay away from him.
03 Inconsistencies
In reality, the most terrible person is not actually the person who has a bad relationship with you. Because you can watch out for him.
The hardest thing to deal with is that the surface is good to you, hee-hee-ha. But they are people who have a lot of malice towards you.
This kind of person usually has an obvious characteristic: that is, he always slanders his family and friends.
It stands to reason that friends and family are people who are worthy of his protection. But he didn't.
The logic of this kind of person's behavior will also be applied to you.
You should have anticipated it in advance.
For example, some relatives and friends, they are very good with you.
But they usually criticize their spouses, children, and friends. Their reputation was never maintained.
Then don't think that you are an exception. Most of the time he is just hiding his true nature from you.
This kind of person is not loved by anyone in his heart, and no one looks down on him. He has a certain amount of dissatisfaction with anyone.
This dissatisfaction, at some point, may erupt into malice towards you, and you must be careful.
To judge a person, don't just look at the surface, but read the logic of his behavior.
Behavioral logic is a more stable thing. If he treats everyone else badly, but treats you well, then it doesn't follow the logic of behavior.
When you look at a person, you should see more of his essence. Don't be deceived by his appearances.