In reality, what is the greatest sorrow of a family?
Some people think that some life events are not done well.
For example, if your children don't get married, it's your own failure. Or your house is not big enough, you are not successful enough.
In fact, for many families, it is a great sadness to have children, but when the children are 30 years old, they are still doing three things.
It's not a shameless thing.
It's something that really has a full impact on the family.
01 The concept of consumption is very devastating
In reality, once a person's concept of consumption is formed, it is difficult to change.
The exaggerated concept of consumption has a huge impact on people's lives.
Even getting married or getting old can destroy a person's life.
If the children in the family are already thirty years old, or even older. But the concept of consumption is extremely unbearable. It doesn't match his own income.
Then, there may be a lot of follow-up troubles.
For example, some children are in their thirties and forties, and their income is mediocre.
But his consumption has always been the pursuit of high-end and face.
With his own income, he would never be able to cope with it. So you say, who's going to pay for that?
Will he be able to accumulate wealth for his little family, for his children?
When something happens, can you afford it? It's not your parents, help clean up.
As a parent, you should be aware of this aspect as early as possible.
Some children, when they are young, are brought by their parents to enjoy life. After growing up, the children's consumption concept has further risen.
may not match their own income level at all.
This can easily lead to a series of problems.
It is a great hidden danger of life.
02 In life, there is no weaning at all
In reality, many parents have the "consciousness" to take care of their children's lives.
But in fact, many abilities are used in advance and retreat.
Children have never known how to live, and they leave it all to their parents. Then this ability to live will plummet.
Over time, children will also open their mouths and make more demands on their parents.
In the end, it was very ugly. My parents were still tired and half dead.
For example, some parents have no freedom at all, even if they are retired.
We should dedicate all our time and energy to our children.
Even if you go out shopping in the afternoon, you have to pinch some time to go home and cook for your children's small family.
You said that your children don't bear any responsibility for their own lives. How long will parents be held responsible?
In reality, parents should be clear in this regard:
It's not that if you take care of you too much, your children will be grateful and will repay you in the future.
Sometimes, it's a kind of doting on children.
I'm afraid that the children will be more advanced in the future.
Even the sad situation of the "white-eyed wolf" may appear.
03 Lack of "shoulders"
In reality, if a family has children who reach the age of 30, they are still lacking shoulders. In many ways, I can't afford it.
That's the troublesome thing.
You can't expect such children to be able to take on their own small family and solve their own life problems.
You can't expect him to be filial to you in the future.
For example, in some families, children buy houses and cars, and all the food, drink and Lazar are all borne by the parents at home.
At work, I can't take any responsibility. I'm old, and I'm still a mother's baby.
Then, you can't expect such children to have the ability to honor you. Nor can we expect any big development in the future.
Because of all the challenges of life, he ran away and left it to you to deal with, didn't he?
The ancients said, "Thirty and stand". Modern people do not apply to this because they live longer and spend a lot of time reading.
But even so, a thirty-year-old child is no longer a child. At the very least, they must be able to stand on the social footing and be self-sufficient.
It is difficult for a child who is very lacking in this area to cope with his life problems, let alone be filial to his parents. You tell me?