Written by / First Psychology Writers
Editor / Tommy
With the rapid development of the Internet, social software has become an important tool for us to communicate.
Often, after we add a new friend, we will browse the other person's social activity to understand the personality and interests of the new friend. For old friends we haven't seen in a while, we can keep up to date with their social feeds.
In this way, social dynamics become a window into our understanding of others.
However, with the introduction of WeChat's "dynamic visibility for three days" setting, social dynamics seem to have lost their former liveliness.
When we were excited to learn about our friends' latest lives, we only saw a cold reminder that showed "I can only see my friends for three days", which made people feel that the distance between them seemed to be narrowed all of a sudden.
In the early days of WeChat, most of the people we added were relatives and friends, and the social circle at that time was relatively simple. We can share the moments of our lives without fear of having our privacy compromised.
But with the popularity of the Internet, communication through WeChat has become commonplace, and our friend list has gradually increased to many people who are just nodding friends.
In this case, out of the protection of privacy, the function of WeChat came into being, which can not only satisfy our desire to share, but also protect personal privacy and avoid being snooped on by unfamiliar people.
In addition, some people choose this setting because they are afraid that others will label them with a single view. From the perspective of the owner of the social dynamic, this is a strategy to prevent privacy leaks and avoid unnecessary accusations.
However, from a friend's point of view, this setup can sometimes cause them to be unhappy.
They may think:
Some people just care about their friends in the first place, but the setting of "visible for three days" makes them feel cold, and even the willingness to take the initiative to contact the other party disappears.
The "visible in three days" setting is like a sharp pair of scissors, cutting off communication between friends.
For those friends we haven't seen in a long time, we usually start by checking their social feeds as a conversation to start a conversation and make them feel that we care about each other despite our busy schedules.
From time to time, we lament that some of our once close friends drift apart because they don't know each other's latest lives, and the common topics of conversation are diminished.
Individuals are in groups, and different groups make up the whole society.
Jürgen Habermas, a well-known German philosopher and sociologist, has conducted an in-depth discussion on the communication behavior of individuals in society. He noted,
Communication between individuals is based on real meaning, and if two or more parties want to communicate, they must understand the meaning of each other's words or actions.
In such a network of individual exchanges, the public sphere of society emerges.
Especially with the high development of Internet and mobile technology, such as WeChat and its Moments function, these tools have become an important part of people's social life and public space.
To put it simply, when you post a message on your social media, individuals in the social network, including yourself, perceive the message as "real", "meaningful", and "socially valuable".
Moments provides an excellent interactive platform for busy people, so that they can learn about each other's life conditions and deepen emotional connection in their leisure time.
The "Three Days Visible" function is like a sharp pair of scissors, cutting off communication between friends. It's like when you happily go to a friend's house, only to be coldly told by your friend:
This setup immediately creates a gap between you, and as time passes, the two of you gradually lose touch and eventually become familiar strangers in their respective circle of friends.
"Three days of visibility" can also hurt those who care about you the most.
We are often too busy to go home because we are busy with work or study in other places. When family members miss us and worry that they will disturb us on the phone, they usually check out how we are doing through their circle of friends.
However, when they open the circle of friends with joy, only to see the "visible for three days" prompt, the elders who are not aware of this new feature may mistakenly think that they have been deleted.
This misunderstanding inadvertently hurts the family members who care about you, and they sometimes don't speak up because they are concerned about face, which slowly creates a gap between family members.
The original intention of Moments is to record the bits and pieces of life and share your emotional fluctuations with friends and family.
In fact, most people are very busy and don't check their moments frequently, and only people who really care about you will pay attention to your dynamics and find out how your life is going.
They will rejoice in your joy and provide solace in your sorrow. At the same time, people who don't know you don't care about what you're doing, and what you share doesn't touch them.
The people you can block are often those who really care about you, and it's these people who are most likely to hurt.
Therefore, the feelings of those who genuinely care about you should not be ignored because of some people with shallow relationships.
In today's fast-paced society, we rarely have the opportunity to communicate deeply with our family and friends.
The circle of friends, as a bridge, was supposed to help us connect with our relatives and friends and understand each other's lives, but the setting of "visible for three days" ruthlessly cut off this bridge.
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