Text: Azhu
As a mother, every time I see school bullying happening, I am heartbroken, and I can't wait to pick up and beat up those perpetrators who do evil, lock them up permanently, and never come out to do evil again. But school bullying never stopped, never.
The case of three junior high school students suspected of murder in Handan has not yet been concluded, and the information on the Internet has lost its popularity, leaving the victim's family grief and helpless; a girl in Nanchong, Sichuan, who was beaten by a number of classmates in turn, was beaten by a number of classmates in turn, and in a short video of one minute and six seconds, her fists and feet were added together, and the sound of slapping was in her ears, and it is hard to imagine how unbearable the pain and heartache it would be for the girl; a 14-year-old girl from Lingshui, Fujian Province, committed suicide by being bullied on campus, and was forced to transfer 1,200 yuan to the abuser in less than a month.
There was a report that at least 1 in 3 students was bullied, and if this ratio is true, then the cruelty of reality is unimaginable.
Gu Yu, who has just turned 20 years old in "Above the River", will face 3 years in prison for raising a golden python privately, but he suffers from moderate depression, let alone socializing with others, and even basic life cannot take care of himself.
Imagine how a normal person could raise a python, I'm afraid I don't even dare to look at it, the reason is because of the campus bullying he encountered in middle school, and then he didn't go out and didn't communicate with people, but he always had to like it a little when he lived, this kind of cold, slowly wriggling animal became his spiritual sustenance, Gu's mother made money to support the family alone, thinking that if she didn't go to school, she wouldn't go to school, and if she liked to raise it, she liked to raise it, and the matter broke out, and it was another hysterical scolding, until Gu Yu cut his wrists and committed suicide.
To tell the truth, as a mother, I really don't want to put the responsibility on Gu's mother, but the child was bullied, and he became obsessed with raising pythons, and was found to have depression, but he didn't believe that the child was sick, so he just blindly ignored and connived, and the ending would not be good without thinking.
We often say that children will grow up, and parents should let go, but from the moment they give birth to a new life, until we die, it is impossible to leave it alone in this life, because parents are the greatest confidence for children to live.
Split Arm Self-Discipline
Glancing at Gu Yu, you know that he is not normal, he is young, tall, but he is slow, whether he is softly speaking or yelling and scolding, his expression is always dull, as if he is always living in his own world.
When he was about to be tried in public as a defendant, he didn't even know what he had done.
Su Zhuo, as his lawyer, took him for an examination as soon as possible, and the result was moderate depression, but unfortunately Gu's mother didn't believe it, even if the inspection report was in front of her, she would still think that it was a lie made up by Su Zhuo to make money.
When she learned that the golden python raised by Gu Yu was a first-class protected animal and was about to face a 3-year penalty, Gu's mother was angry, and she scolded Gu Yu, who was still silent:
"Didn't I owe you in my last life, you ate me, lived in me, and you caused me such a big thing, why are you, Gu Yu, what am I sorry for you, why are you treating me like this, why? Gu Yu, look at what you have tortured yourself into, why are you doing this? You speak, why don't you speak. Gu Yu, it's because of those things in your house, you are going to eat in prison now, do you understand? Let me tell you, Gu Yu, I won't care about anything you say this time, have you heard it, have you heard it? I have worked hard to raise you since I was a child, I don't know what I am for, books, books are not good, and now people are not good at it. ”
During the whole process of being abused, in addition to picking his fingers and clenching his fists, Gu Yu only covered his face when Gu Mu slapped him, and then stood straight, silent, without a trace of rebuttal.
Gu Yu was not expressionless, he rushed to the room and locked the door, carefully took out the turtle in the glass box, stroked it gently, and even kissed it, and looked carefully at the corner of his mouth with a smile, but it was fleeting, like making up some kind of determination, and like he had rehearsed it hundreds of times in his heart.
Without hesitation, he smashed the glass box, scooped up a glass shard, slowly cut his wrist until the bleeding did not stop, and then slowly lay down, the whole process without a trace of pain, as if feeling the arrival of death.
He has perennial wounds on his arms, scratches and scratches, and when he committed suicide, the middle finger of his right hand was bleeding all the time, but he was even enjoying death, how could he care about these small injuries?
When Gu's mother forcibly opened the door of the room with the key, she collapsed almost instantly, because she was still in anger a moment before opening the door, even if she heard the sound of breaking things in the room, she would even think that Gu Yu was losing her temper, and she, who was a mother, would not be able to rush in immediately and slap a few more times.
Gu Yu lay in a pool of blood, motionless, still without any expression, he didn't say a word before he lost consciousness, and he didn't even leave a word after his death, only giving the only tenderness to a little turtle.
In the hospital, Gu's mother caressed Gu Yu's forehead lovingly, and tried to hold the hand where Gu Yu cut his wrist, but unfortunately Gu Yu's head was turned to the side and his arm was moved.
He was silently refusing, and perhaps that was the only thing he could do. He refused to allow others to break into his world, and never wanted to fit into the real world.
"This kid has never done any evil, let alone harmed anyone, and he shouldn't have suffered this. ”
When Su Zhuo said this, he not only pleaded with the judge for Gu Yu, but also sighed from the bottom of his heart.
But waiting for Gu Yu's punishment will not disappear, and it will be difficult to change the rest of his life.
3 years in court
Gu Yufeng raised a golden python, and in front of the protection of animals, people should be punished. Just like the Golden Eagle case, although Yuan Xiaoxiao wanted to rescue the dying Golden Eagle out of good intentions, when the transaction occurred, it was a violation of the law, and she was finally sentenced to three years in prison.
The only fortunate thing for Gu Yu is that the golden python is not like a golden eagle, which will destroy the natural environment, but is the product of genetic mutation.
The presiding judges, Mo Li and Luo Yuan, out of responsibility for the facts of the case, and Gu Yu's suicide, decided to postpone the trial, which can be regarded as a glimmer of life.
With the help of Xia Weidong, Luo Yuan received a positive response from Beijing zoology experts, and finally ushered in the result that the golden python was downgraded from a first-class protected animal to a second-class protected animal.
Although Gu Yu could not escape the criminal law, the case was mitigated, and he was finally sentenced to 2 years in prison, suspended for 3 years, and compensated in the form of labor compensation through community corrections.
When Gu Yu faced Mo Li and Luo Yuan, there was emotion in his eyes, even if he couldn't say the word "thank you" in the end, a deep bow already represented all his emotions.
It was the first time in many years that he had a positive contact with the outside world, and the first time he had a second expression.
Parents are the foundation of their children's lives
Gu Yu was silent when he was young, introverted, had a little money in his hand, liked small animals very much, and became the target of campus bullying.
At that time, Gu Yu had not yet developed into standing still and being beaten, he would run, he would hide, but it was pitiful that he was still caught, three or four abusers went up with a punch and kick, threw away the little turtle that Gu Yu was holding in his hand, and pulled his hair to warn, until he saw Gu Yu's frightened and helpless expression before he left satisfied.
Gu Yu had nowhere to hide, no one to help, and Gu's mother was busy with her own hot pot restaurant, only knowing that he had changed, and he had trouble when he dropped out of school, but Gu's mother didn't do it in the end, because Gu Yu didn't like to study.
Since then, it has been difficult for the mother and son to get along peacefully, the mother hates iron but not steel, the son keeps his mouth shut, and over time, Gu Yu becomes almost silent, only staying in the room in silence, tending to a room of chilling animals.
"The patterns and colors on his body are so beautiful that I can look at them all day. ”
This is Gu Yu's description of the golden python, and in this world, I am afraid that few people can describe this cold reptile like this, except for zoologists.
But Gu's mother would rather give money for Gu Yu to buy these things, and at the same time keep them at home for several years, and she never thought of finding out what happened to Gu Yu.
After watching "On the River", you can't bear to criticize Gu's mother, you haven't seen Gu's father since Gu Yu was born, she has to make money and support Gu Yu. Although he hated Gu Yu for getting into a lawsuit because of these strange hobbies, after Gu Yu cut his wrists, he couldn't wait to take all the blame, and even did not hesitate to kneel, and his face was sad all day long.
She is an ordinary mother and a qualified mother, but the child still loses the confidence to live because of her.
Gu Yu in middle school was constantly injured and injured, and he must have known that he lived under the same roof, so he never mentioned the words "school bullying" until he dropped out of school, it is obvious that for Gu's mother, instead of worrying about whether Gu Yu was bullied to the point of not going to school, it is better to beat him up and be more angry.
Until now, raising a golden python would also rather give money than why Gu Yu would become strange. Something happened and he was sentenced, and he was slapped again.
Why did Gu's mother work so hard to raise Gu Yu alone, but she didn't care about Gu Yu's body and mind, and let Gu Yu become the current moderate depression step by step?
Seeing Gu's mother and Gu Yu, you will naturally feel sorry for Gu's mother who is working too hard, and you also sympathize with Gu Yu's experience, but it is not impossible to change such a family.
Gu Yu's pocket money in middle school kept going, which showed that the conditions of the Gu family were not bad, so if he knew that Gu Yu was not going to school, could he change schools, or be patient to know more about what Gu Yu had experienced. Especially when raising pythons, lizards, turtles, etc., it is not to buy peace of mind with money, and complain when something happens.
In this world, why is family affection the most valuable?
The biggest reason is confidence, because no matter what mistakes you make or what you do, you are no longer lonely and will not die easily.
It's not easy to live, but it's very easy to die.
Gu Yu's changes, every step is inseparable from Gu's mother, she loves the child and feels sorry for the child, but she is reluctant to give the child hope to live, usually she scolds and gets angry, and when something happens, she cries bitterly and regrets, so what do you usually do.
I once saw a video that said that there are three ways to avoid bullying in school:
One is to be a good student and be protected by a teacher;
the second is to become a popular person, protected by classmates;
Third, the family relationship is harmonious, and there is the protection of parents.
The first two are uncontrollable, sometimes it is not about whether you work hard enough, whether your classmates are happy or not, and it is related to temperament, but the last point is at your fingertips, as long as parents are willing to pay attention to their children's physical and mental health.
When the child is still a child, don't be harsh, don't scold, let them know that no matter what happens, there is the support of their parents, so that unpredictable things will not happen.
It's not easy to be a parent, and it's not easy to be a child, but please be a parent and love your child more!