Having a pair of elderly people who can't take care of themselves in the family will not only drag down their children, but also drag a family into the abyss!
A few days ago, I went to the psychiatric department of the hospital and unexpectedly met my former colleague Lao Ma, who had just come out of the examination room and was in a daze with a pile of examination sheets.
I saw that she had gray hair and a sad face, and she had not seen her for a few years, and she was more than 10 years old.
Lao Ma also saw me, so he came over to greet me, and she said, "Hong, why do you come to see the psychiatric department?"
I said, "I've had an anxiety attack lately, and I can't sleep all night, what's wrong with you?"
Lao Ma shook the checklist in his hand, smiled bitterly and said: Severe depression was tortured by my parents, I couldn't live anymore, and I wanted to take them with me every day.
I felt quite strange, so I asked her: Isn't it the sequelae of your father's cerebral hemorrhage? A few years ago, I heard you say that your father was taken care of by your mother, but I didn't hear of your mother's illness?
Lao Ma said: Don't mention it, when I didn't retire, it was my mother who took care of my father, and in the winter when I was about to retire, my mother heated herself at night and didn't close the gas pipe valve of the coal stove, and both of them were poisoned by gas.
Our neighbor found that my mother hadn't gone out until midnight, so he climbed over the wall to take a look, and when he saw that my parents couldn't get out of bed, they sent him to the hospital.
Two people were rescued, my dad became a vegetative state, my mom was demented, and I had no choice but to take them to my house.
I looked at the old horse's thin body, and it was hard to imagine how she could turn over the tall father, feed her, and clean up the feces and urine.
I comforted her and said, "Your husband is about to retire, right?" You two will take care of it better, and you will not be able to take care of your body alone.
As soon as Lao Ma heard this, tears burst into tears, and she whimpered and said: We have lived separately, I took my parents over to take care of them, but he disagreed, saying that my parents took over and the house became a feces and urine nest, and asked me to send my parents to my brother-in-law's house.
My brother passed away in a car accident the year before last, how could my brother-in-law take care of my parents. I insisted on taking them over, and he moved in with his parents.
I sighed and said, "I can only let your son come and help you when he is resting."
Lao Ma shook his head: My son looks at his grandfather and grandmother like this, and he doesn't want to care, they are all hiding far away, let them come back to eat on weekends, they all hate the dirty food made by my hands, who can count on young people now.
Lao Ma said: My dad is a vegetative person, I use a needle to feed him every day, and it saves him some trouble to manage the urine pad, my mother tosses me at home every day and I am really about to collapse, she can't help, and she makes trouble every day, and I can't see it at a glance, so I'll find you something.
The last time I went out for half an hour without tying my mom to the bed, I immediately broke down when I got home and saw the scene at home.
My mom pulled out my dad's urinary catheter, she pulled out my dad's nursing pad, wiped the feces and urine everywhere, I came back, and she pulled me to show me and give me credit.
At that moment, if I said something unfilial, I wanted to beat her up.
Lao Ma said: I often have a thought in my heart now, take my parents with me, so that we are all free.
I knew it wasn't right, but I couldn't control myself and felt like something big was going to happen if I went on like this.
Today I asked my son to take care of them at home for a day, and I came to the hospital to see if there was something wrong with me, and the doctor diagnosed me with severe depression.
I hurriedly persuaded Lao Ma and said: You must not have such thoughts, if you can't send them to a nursing home, don't drag your body down.
Lao Ma said: Both of them are old farmers, they have been digging in the soil all their lives, and they have no pension when they are old, so I have a pension of 5,000 yuan a month, where can I afford it, and I will boil it slowly.
After Lao Ma finished speaking, he separated from me and went to the pharmacy below to get the medicine.
I looked at the back of the old horse leaving, imagining that she would have to face two elderly people who could not take care of themselves when she returned home, and her emotions were constantly in a state of collapse, and I felt that no medicine could save her.
A pair of seriously ill parents can really drag a family into the abyss, and no matter who is put on it, such a thing will probably collapse.
Having an elderly person who can't take care of himself for a long time is really a disaster for a family!