A sensible and filial girl buys a red girl
In 1970, in an ordinary family in Pingdingshan, Henan Province, the girl Mai Hongmei was born. An unremarkable starting point, but it gave birth to her extraordinary life.
Mai Hongmei has been sensible since she was a child, and no matter what she does, she is always extra attentive. She is well aware of her limited conditions and avoids those who like to compare.
Instead, she prefers to spend time on schoolwork and household chores and strive to be a qualified child.
In addition, Mai Hongmei is also extremely filial to her parents. She is more considerate of her parents' feelings than her own thoughts. I remember one time, my mother casually said that she wanted to eat watermelon, it was the middle of winter, where was the watermelon? The next morning, she took the bus at the rising sun and rushed to the market 30 kilometers away, just to buy a fresh watermelon and come back.
When she rushed home, holding the watermelon in her hand, her mother was pleasantly surprised, and said "Silly girl, such a cold day"; While putting down the work in his hand, he happily enjoyed this precious melon with her.
's mother has a heart that admires soldiers, which also affects Mai Hongmei. By chance, Mai Hongmei and her friends took an army recruitment exam and passed it in one fell swoop.
When she returned home in her brand-new military uniform, her mother was so excited that she couldn't even speak.
TV screen encounters are destined for marriage
A Spring Festival Gala in 1995 greatly changed the trajectory of Mai Hongmei's life.
At the age of 25, she was already thriving in the art troupe, and her outstanding acting talent made her the best choice for the New Year's Spring Festival Gala sketches. In order to get closer to the role of a middle-aged woman, Mai Hongmei "grew older" by 15 years under the careful dressing of the makeup artist.
When she and her partner Guo Donglin appeared on the CCTV stage, the laughter and laughter of the audience were interrupted, and all eyes converged on them.
This was the first highlight of her life. The sketch "Blind Date" spread to thousands of households through TV signals. Many viewers laughed to tears in Mai Hongmei's vivid and witty performance.
This joke with no beginning and no end came true 4 years later. In 1999, Sun Nan, who was already famous, and Mai Hongmei actually "hit head-on" at a program recording site.
At that time, Sun Nan didn't know that the actress in front of him was the "Spring Festival Gala Sister" that he missed. It wasn't until the host introduced Mai Hongmei that Sun Nan's eyes widened, unbelievable but relieved.
After the recording, Sun Nan couldn't hold back his mind anymore. He took the initiative to ask the red girl to have dinner with him, and plucked up the courage to make a formal confession under the candlelight in the hotel private room.
In the face of the sudden confession, Mai Hongmei just pondered quietly for a few seconds, and then said one word softly - okay. It turned out that when she was 16 years old, she once said to her mother that if the son of heaven said "marry me", she would be content.
Now, this fairytale scene has miraculously appeared.
In 2000, the wedding of Sun Nan and Mai Hongmei was held in Beijing. It was early summer, and together they promised a 100-year reunion in church.
Seemingly happy married life
If how did Mai Hongmei and Sun Nan's marriage start, then how did they spend their daily lives?
At the beginning of the marriage, Sun Nan took good care of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, which made Mai Hongmei feel warm. On holidays, he is always the first to get up and personally prepare a sumptuous three meals a day for his in-laws.
Once, Sun Nan deliberately peeled a prawn and handed it to his father-in-law's mouth. The father-in-law is middle-aged, and he can't help but have some traditional concepts, so he is embarrassed to open his mouth. Sun Nan brought a low stool and sat down in front of him, and persuaded him over and over again to taste how delicious the shrimp he peeled by himself was.
In the end, the father-in-law still couldn't bear him to be so attentive, so he smiled and took a bite.
This little thing made Mai Hongmei see it in her eyes and hide it in her heart. She understands that she has found a good partner who will care about her parents. In this regard, she also tried her best to treat each other with courtesy.
Sun Nan has an interest in golf, so she took the initiative to help him book a venue and clean the equipment; In the dead of night, he will also be gently massaged when he is exhausted.
However, the good times were short-lived. Sun Nan gradually became obsessed with golf, and ran to the course all day long. He would get up when the fish belly was white, hurriedly drink a few sips of the soy milk prepared by Hongmei, and happily rush to the club.
It wasn't until the sun went down and the moon was on the willow tops that he returned home with a ruddy face, and fell asleep with his wife.
Mai Hongmei was still considerate at first, but later she couldn't help but be depressed. She tried to persuade Sun Nan with good words, but after all, she couldn't stop her husband from continuing to "lose his mind". At that time, how could she have thought that this golf ball not only occupied most of Sun Nan's life, but also became the fuse for the breakdown of their marriage.
The bubble bursts, and divorce sparks a battle
If feelings are like a bar of soap, then it may be slowly dissipated in the long river of marriage until it disappears.
In 2009, rumors of the marriage of Mai Hongmei and Sun Nan have quietly circulated. And the real reason for the divorce of this golden boy and girl is another woman - Pan Wei.
It turned out that Sun Nan fell in love with Pan Wei, who shared a common love of golf, as early as 2004, and has been living with her since 2009. A year later, in 2010, Sun Nan officially announced that he and Pan Wei had registered their marriage, and his marriage relationship with Mai Hongmei had collapsed shortly before that.
It was in this year that in order to fight for the custody of the child, Sun Nan sued Mai Hongmei in court. At that time, Sun Nan seemed to have no mercy for the "former lover", and he repeatedly claimed that Mai Hongmei was not worthy of raising two children.
In the face of the accusations, Mai Hongmei just silently shed tears, she couldn't believe that her 10-year married life was trampled on by the person she loved the most.
This lawsuit has caused an uproar in the entertainment industry, and countless moral judges have "sharpened their knives" on the Internet. Fortunately, the two sides finally chose to compromise. The man and woman, who can no longer be husband and wife, shook hands again and made peace, temporarily reining in their edges for the sake of the two children.
They would also make a phone call every now and then to ask how the children were doing. It's just that the voice on the other end of the phone no longer has the warmth and affection of the past.
So far, Mai Hongmei and Sun Nan's short 10-year marriage has ended in quarrels and incoherence. Love is like a box of chocolates, you never know if the next piece will be sweet or bitter.
Walk through the pain alone
At this point, Mai Hongmei has become a person. She begins to face a collapsed home and two children who are still in kindergarten.
She didn't want her parents to worry, so she rarely took the initiative to bring it up. Facing the concerns of her friends and the entertainment industry, she only smiled faintly. Instead of even going to a lawyer to get more financial compensation for herself, she chose to swallow her anger.
In fact, buying a red girl will also be sad and will shed tears. In the dead of night, she would run to the beach alone and let the sea breeze dry the tears on her face. She would ask herself what she didn't do well enough to marry this man when her head was hot.
She will also secretly be wronged in her heart, she has paid so much, but she can't get the return she wants.
Soon, though, she would sort out her thoughts and hide her unhappiness deeply. She understands that life has to go on, and she still has two little lives to take care of.
Fortunately, Mai Hongmei decided to devote herself to her work. Filming provided her with financial resources, so that she had no time to think about those sad pasts; At the same time, it has also become a way for her to find solace.
As long as there is a play to play, she can forget the pain for a while.
In this way, Mai Hongmei has been alone with her children for 4 years. Four years is not a long time, but it is not a short time. Now that the children have grown up, her heart has gradually calmed down.
She only wants to give them a complete and harmonious home, as for herself...... Maybe she'll keep waiting, waiting for someone who won't break her heart.
The future is still waiting for true love
Time flies, years change. After the divorce, Mai Hongmei chose to isolate herself from the world, and she was no longer as keen on attending various social occasions as before. Now she lives an extremely low-key life, rarely appearing in public except for work.
However, even though she is 51 years old, Mai Hongmei's love life is still the focus of attention from the outside world. Over the years, there have been all sorts of different rumors brewing. One of the most popular is that she is dating a man named Sun Yilun.
The identity of the mysterious man is unknown, and it is rumored on the Internet that the two are considering marriage. But Mai Hongmei herself has been silent about this.
On the other hand, Sun Nan and Pan Wei's marriage is not as happy and complete as imagined. What frequently appears in the headlines of major entertainment pages is always their negative news.
This time, it was Sun Nan's turn to endure betrayal and abandonment.
So, what does Mai Hongmei think about this? Will she secretly rejoice and rejoice in the compensation she once had? The answer is no. After all, after so many years, she has long forgotten about Sun Nan's affairs, and this emotional turmoil can no longer stir up her waves.
She just looked forward calmly and firmly, looking forward to the day when someone who was genuinely good to her would appear.
Maybe in the near future, we will see a brand new Mai Hongmei. When true love comes, who will remember the detours they have taken in the past?
Analyze the lessons of failed marriages
Mai Hongmei and Sun Nan's marriage ended in failure. There are too many factors in this that you and I can't blame them all. However, when we detach ourselves from specific people and aftermaths, some of the deeper revelations contained in them may also be worth reflecting on.
Mai Hongmei chose the intricate entertainment industry, and she could have found a more suitable object for herself. Sun Nan is obsessed with golf, and he could have controlled his hobby instead of indulging in it completely.
Looking back today, do they also sigh like this? Marriage is built on the basis of feelings, and it needs more rationality and restraint. Only in this way can we be together for a hundred years.
Of course, love is often blind. It allows us to surrender all our trust when we are most vulnerable, but we are also destined to suffer the deepest damage. Thinking back to Mai Hongmei, who had just met at that time, would you think of the pain of breaking up? Will you foresee the pain of betrayal? The answer is no.
As Henry Dewey said, "Love begins without any thought."
Therefore, we cannot be harsh on those who have truly loved each other. Love gives them the most beautiful imagination, but life gives them the cruelest reality. What we can do is to preserve the original beauty of their love, and learn Xi be more rational about marriage in reality.
This is the end of the story of Mai Hongmei and Sun Nan. And what kind of chapters will you and I continue to weave on the road of life in the future?