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First, the reality is cruel, and the years are ruthless
In 2019, a sensational "female Durban" incident shocked public opinion. This incident brings us back to 2009 - the year when the popular singer Sun Nan and the sketch actor Mai Hongmei announced their divorce after 9 years of married life.
In the face of social doubts, Sun Nan explained expressionlessly that sending her daughter to "Female Durban" was just so that she could learn and inherit the excellent traditional Chinese culture. But puzzlingly, it soon became clear that there was a clear double standard in his attitude towards his children's education.
Mai Hongmei's daughter, Mai Baoyao, attended a school where it was difficult to even obtain a graduation certificate, where she received so-called "traditional cultural influence" and finally only obtained a junior high school degree.
In stark contrast, Sun Nan spent a lot of money to send the children born to his current wife, Pan Wei, overseas, in a race against time, opening the door to success for them.
Sun Nan's discriminatory treatment of his children caused an uproar in the outside world. This idol, who was once highly regarded in the past, is now behaving in a way that is simply puzzling.
Looking back, it is not difficult to find that 2009 was the year when Sun Nan and his ex-wife Mai Hongmei divorced. After 9 years of bumpy married life, this "golden couple" who attracted the attention of countless people by their appearance and value finally chose to part ways.
2. Buy a red girl to chase her dreams
Tracing the past of Mai Hongmei, she was born in an ordinary family, and her parents were ordinary workers. Since childhood, he has longed for military life, which coincides with his mother's dream when she was young.
My mother once cherished the burning dream of serving the country, but unfortunately failed to do so.
The girl Mai Hongmei understood the regret in her mother's eyes, and was determined to put on a military uniform and realize her mother's long-cherished wish. In 1984, at the age of 14, she enlisted in the army as she wished, opening a new chapter in her life.
Life in the army is rigorous and intense, and the training is extremely difficult, but the occasional theatrical performance adds a different kind of passion to this monotonous life.
An unexpected temporary fill-in performance unexpectedly showed Mai Hongmei's outstanding acting talent. The audience was uproaring and full of praise. Since then, she has fallen deeply in love with the profession of acting.
Soon, she successfully transferred to the Art Troupe of the Political Department of the Second Artillery Corps and started her career as a sketch actor.
From 1993 to 1996, Mai Hongmei frequently cooperated with film and television stars, and successfully performed a number of excellent cross talk and sketch works, and her career has been good and her prospects are immeasurable.
It's a pity that Sun Nan, who was killed halfway, intervened in her life trajectory, so that all this could not last.
3. Sun Nan's music dream started
Sun Nan's music dream was bumpy all the way, and finally realized his long-cherished wish in the Beijing Coal Mine Art Troupe. When he was young, Sun Nan once deviated from his parents' expectations and declared his independence in society.
He has worked in a variety of basic positions such as restaurants and construction sites, but the seeds of music have been growing deep down.
By chance, a beautiful melody from the street awakens his love for music. As if by fate, he resolutely regained his musical dream, and soon won the favor of the Beijing Coal Mine Art Troupe with his extraordinary talent and hard work, and became a member of the group.
What's even more enviable is that Sun Nan was fortunate to enter the disciple of the famous composer Professor Gu Jianfen and received valuable professional guidance. With the unsparing support of his lover Xin Xin, he successfully launched his first creative albums "We Are All Sad People" and "Rain and Tears".
In order to support Sun Nan to complete her music dream, Xin Xin not only spent all her savings, but also devoted herself to this relationship, gave up her career in the music industry, and concentrated on taking care of her boyfriend's daily life.
It can be seen that the relationship between the two is not a one-day rush.
On the night of the Spring Festival Gala in 1995, Sun Nan happened to see Mai Hongmei's excellent sketch performance and was deeply attracted by her. Soon after breaking up with Xin Xin, he tirelessly began the pursuit of buying a red girl.
Fourth, the reef of married life is difficult to cross
In 1997, Sun Nan finally reunited with her long-cherished Mai Hongmei on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala. The two began a passionate love, and while getting along day and night, Sun Nan was deeply attracted by the talent and beauty of Mai Hongmei, and the love in her heart became stronger and stronger.
In 2000, with the blessings of relatives and friends, they held a grand wedding and officially entered the palace of marriage. The first days were honey and oil, as sweet and beautiful as the period of love.
But soon after the marriage, contradictions began to arise.
Sun Nan is devoted to his career, and he seems to ignore the needs of the family when planning and preparing for the wedding. As a new housewife, Mai Hongmei is difficult to fully adapt to the new lifestyle, and the common topic between her and Sun Nan is gradually decreasing.
Pan Wei is a successful woman who has worked hard in the entertainment industry, independent and brave, with a strong personality, which is in stark contrast to Mai Hongmei, a housewife who has become traditional and stable. The kind of self-confidence and ability shown in Pan Wei's personality invisibly aroused the last desire in Sun Nan's heart.
Soon, Pan Wei replaced Mai Hongmei and became Sun Nan's new confidant. As a result, the gap between husband and wife widens, and it is impossible to return to the intimacy of the past.
Although Mai Hongmei desperately hopes to keep this marriage, Sun Nan's mind has long been far away.
It wasn't until 2009 that the two finally broke up officially, ending their 9-year relationship entanglement. In the court's judgment, the custody of the two children was fully awarded to Mai Hongmei.
The enthusiasm of the prosperous love affair has completely disappeared, and only the cold separation fee payment remains. Mai Hongmei hoped to maintain a good relationship with her ex-husband and children, but when Sun Nan proposed the right to visit, she was ruthlessly refused, and Sun Nan was heartbroken and had to resort to law, becoming the opposite of her ex-wife.
This "golden couple", who were envied by everyone at the beginning, finally chose to part ways after 9 years of married life. The once happy family was shattered, leaving two innocent children to suffer trauma in it.
Fifth, the years are ruthless, and people are affectionate
After the divorce, Mai Hongmei regained her career and had a bright future in her life. Over the years, she has participated in and starred in many excellent film and television dramas, and has also actively participated in various variety shows, re-showing her unique vitality and excitement.
What's even more enviable is that after this ordeal, Mai Hongmei seems to have found a new happiness - a sweet love focused on her career. Different from the situation in the past when she had to give up herself for Sun Nan, this time she took both career and love into account, and worked hard to realize her self-worth in life.
But in stark contrast, Sun Nan's life trajectory has fallen deeper and deeper and has been condemned by public opinion. He tried to "edify" his daughter Mai Baoyao by forcibly sending her to the so-called "female Durban", which is known as "inheriting traditional culture", which immediately aroused heated discussions and questions in the society.
It was found that Sun Nan had obvious double standards in his attitude towards the education of several children. Mai Hongmei's daughter Mai Baoyao only obtained a junior high school degree and attended a school where it was difficult to even obtain a graduation certificate; The children born to Pan Wei were sent overseas by Sun Nan in every possible way to further their studies, and they were given a valuable opportunity to succeed.
This distinction has sparked an uproar.
Sun Nan's performance in the entertainment industry is also ridiculous. This man of the hour frequently behaves incorrectly in front of the public, not only does he seem chaotic in housework, but he also makes low-level mistakes when participating in various programs, which is similar to his past demeanor, which makes the audience cry and laugh.
Sixth, reality is far more tortuous than fiction
Reality is far more tortuous and bizarre than fiction. In the face of these controversies, should we examine the situation of everyone in this marriage? After all, love is just as important as career, and ordinary life can be lived to the fullest.
Marriage is like a mirror, reflecting everyone's joys, sorrows, and sorrows. Mai Hongmei gave up her career dream for the sake of her family, but was eventually abandoned by her husband; Pan Wei was strong and independent, and finally won Sun Nan's favor.
Everyone has their part to play in this play.
It may be difficult for us to judge right and wrong, but at least we can see one fact: the years will eventually smooth out all the peaks and turns, leaving us with only understanding and tolerance.
Today's Sun Nan may have realized how painful the decision was back then, and Mai Hongmei can finally regain her old dreams and glory.
Life is a big play, and they are all people in the play. When this drama finally comes to an end, should we also learn to let go? No longer pursue the merits too much, and look for the wonderful in ordinary life? After all, love and career are equally precious, and neither of them can be completely left behind.
Although the survival of marriage has brought trauma to Mai Hongmei and Sun Nan, this ordeal has also allowed them to gain a new understanding of life. This is perhaps the cruelty and excitement of real life, which is more twisty and moving than the plot of any novel.