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Text丨Old Song Kanyu
Editor丨Old Song Kanyu
Preface
Hello everyone, today I will tell you a seemingly "curious" but moving story.
The protagonists of this story are the well-known veteran singer Sun Nan and his third wife Pan Wei.
I don't know how much you know about this couple? From being criticized to being praised later, this marriage process can be said to be ups and downs, which is thought-provoking.
Sun Nan's first two marriages had some problems
The first wife's name is Xin Xin, and she is Sun Nan's old friend. The two can be said to have known each other since childhood, grew up together, and had a childhood sweetheart-like relationship. Xin Xin has been by Sun Nan's side when his career was not very prosperous, and the two have even lived together for 10 years. However, in the end, due to some contradictions, Xin Xin stopped at the identity of his fiancée.
The second wife is the more well-known Mai Hongmei. Mai Hongmei is a cross talk actor who was once famous on the stage. Sun Nan fell in love at first sight, and the two soon got married and gave birth to two children. However, the good times did not last long, and soon after marriage, Sun Nan cheated and was caught by Mai Hongmei. The two had a big quarrel and finally ended in divorce.
During this period, Sun Nan and Mai Hongmei can be said to have torn apart for the custody of the child, and the two sides did not give in to each other. The outside world once commented on whether Sun Nan was a "negative man", and public opinion was in an uproar. And Mai Hongmei's mental state at that time was also on the verge of collapse. However, the last two children were raised by Mai Hongmei.
After the marriage change, Sun Nan did not have a good time, and there was news that he once owed a huge debt. But at the lowest point in his life, Sun Nan met the person who changed his fate - Pan Wei.
Pan Wei - a woman who is not afraid of "having a family".
Pan Wei is also a third-married woman, and she was divorced twice when she met Sun Nan. However, she did not shrink from the label of "heavy female marriage", but bravely pursued her own happiness. At that time, some people questioned Pan Wei's "bad conduct" and "marrying a man who has been divorced twice and has two children". But Pan Wei responded:
"Sun Nan is a person who has the courage to pursue his own happiness and should not be judged too much. In contrast, we have both experienced the pain of failed marriages. So we all cherish this fate even more. That was to the point.
After all, in modern society, divorce is not an uncommon thing, and it should not be kidnapped by too much morality. The important thing is that each of us has come out of the pain of the past and has the courage to start a new life.
And Pan Wei is not a person who only knows how to use feelings. She was the broadcast host of the year, and her career has been very good, and she has also hosted golf broadcasts many times. There is no shortage of financial resources. It can be seen that her original intention to pursue happiness is very sincere, and she is not blinded by financial interests.
Pansun people are still old
In 2009, Sun Nan was on the cusp of public opinion and finally came together with Pan Wei. The two started a new married life. However, the road to marriage is not smooth. Although Pan Wei repeatedly said that he wanted to give Sun Nan a chance to start over, the criticism from the outside world did not stop at all.
Some people say that Pan Wei is "a junior who destroys other people's families" and "has bad intentions"; Some people also say that Sun Nan is a "scumbag" and will eventually betray his new love. In the face of all kinds of gossip, the two were also depressed for a while. But fortunately, both of them have enough determination to support each other and get through this difficult period together.
Today's relationship between Pan Wei and Sun Nan is still very good, and even Sun Nan's ex-wife Mai Hongmei is full of praise for Pan Wei. The two have been together for more than a decade and have a daughter.
Life is indeed not as smooth sailing as ideal, but both of them have passed the age of knowing their destiny, and they are relieved to have any regrets. Being able to stay with your loved ones until you grow old is also considered happy. For Sun Nan and Pan Wei, this is already the greatest happiness.
It is difficult to judge the rights and wrongs of a marriage
After reading this experience of Sun Nan and Pan Wei, what do you think of this couple? Should they be whipped, or should they be blessed? Personally, I think that no one else has the final say on the merits and demerits of a marriage. The important thing is whether the two parties themselves are happy and love each other.
It is said that "love is gone". The pursuit of happiness is human nature, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Marriage is also not set in stone, it is a part of life that changes over time. Some go to the end, and some break up halfway, this is all the law of nature.
The important thing is that when a relationship really ends, don't blame right and wrong, let alone hold on to it. Give due respect, and everyone can successfully untie the knot in their hearts. In the same way, when you meet a new relationship, if the other person is also in love with you, then accept it gladly. Don't be held back by the world's eyes, don't be stumped by children or any other reason.
As long as the two of you truly love each other, it will be happy to be together. Just like Pan Wei and Sun Nan, although they were scolded for being like this and that, they finally came together with sincerity and overcoming many obstacles.
Marriage is actually a kind of fate, some people are not destined at all, it is better to simply let go; And some people will make mistakes, but find a better match. Often, the bell must be tied to the bell, and you can grasp the initiative of marriage by yourself, so as to finally create your own happy life path.
Underestimate gossip Gossip looks at life
From the marriage between Pan Wei and Sun Nan, we can also see some interesting phenomena. Celebrity scandals are always the most attractive, basically satisfying everyone's little curiosity and gossip desire. How many people have forgotten what they should be focusing on in the relish.
However, to a certain extent, these "poisonous chicken soup" plots have also brought us some inspiration and reflection. For example, we think about what is the maintenance of a relationship, whether it is profit, desire, or sincerity, and how should those who are abandoned face life.
Marriage is a part of life, it is complex and simple, ideal and realistic. We can't always look at it in one extreme light. Happiness depends on one's own grasp, and the road to marriage also needs to be explored by oneself. The so-called "Saion loses his horse, but he knows whether he is blessed", maybe in the process of you going step by step, you can slowly understand what true happiness is.
Just like Sun Nan and Pan Wei, a couple who have been scolded and praised, they have also moved from chaos to light, from being criticized to finally being blessed. Their stories tell us that as long as we stick to our inner pursuits and are not swayed by the judgment of the outside world, we will one day find a happy home. Everything depends on how you grasp it.
In short, through this experience, we all have some new insights and experiences about life and marriage. Whether you are single or married, I believe these experiences will bring us some inspiration. In this world, finding your own happiness is the most important thing. That's it for sharing it and see you next time!