On a Chinese New Year's Eve night in 1995, Sun Nan, who was still Nan Nan at the time, happily sat in front of the TV and watched CCTV's Spring Festival Gala.
The glamorous and moving Mai Hongmei on the screen deeply attracted his attention, his eyes lit up, and he said to the family that he must marry her as his wife. The family laughed and didn't take it seriously.
Five years later, Sun Nan became famous, and finally got his wish and appeared on the stage of the CCTV Spring Festival Gala. It's a pity that Mai Hongmei, who was in her heart, didn't participate. Sun Nan secretly made up his mind that he must find a chance to meet her and confess to her.
In 2000, during the recording of a program, Sun Nan was fortunate to meet Mai Hongmei, who seemed to be a member of a fairy. As a powerful singer who has already achieved a little success, he was naturally completely conquered by Mai Hongmei's bright smile and moving charm.
After plucking up the courage to confess, Mai Hongmei was also moved by his secret love for many years and agreed to be together. The next day, the two registered their marriage in a hurry.
At the wedding scene, the scene where the bride and groom should have stayed and flew together became Mai Hongmei's own responsibility. Sun Nan was unashamedly delayed because of work and did not attend his wedding.
After buying Hongmei to be busy alone, she has to help him deal with the guests.
The dream lover who has been pursued for many years finally succeeded, but Sun Nan was absent at the most important wedding. This may be the first sign of a rough road in this relationship.
In the sweet period of the newlywed Yan'er, Sun Nan was extremely gentle and considerate to buy Hongmei. Every time he comes home, he always brings a bouquet of flowers or a small gift to create a small blessing. In order to understand that the parents-in-law miss their daughter, they took the initiative to take the two elders to live at home and take care of their daily life.
He also personally peeled shrimp for his father-in-law, picked lobster meat and fed it to his mouth, so that the old man was happy.
After getting married, Mai Hongmei gave up her acting career and tried her best to teach her husband and children. She did not hesitate to give up her career development, just to let Sun Nan pursue her music dream without distraction.
Within a few years, Sun Nan was in full swing, and the list of popular singers rose sharply. But he gradually stopped caring about the family, which was built on the sacrifice of his wife.
Busy work makes Sun Nan not at home all year round. In his spare time, he is in the company of golf and wine table friends. Mai Hongmei begged him to pay attention to his family, but he just casually agreed, and turned his head and forgot about it.
Mai Hongmei, who was pregnant, also had to take care of her daughter's life, and Sun Nan not only had no sympathy, but also accused her of overreacting.
Married life went from sweetness to twists and turns, and Mai Hongmei began to lose confidence. She tossed and turned, thinking hard about how to save Sun Nan's heart.
Sun Nan, who was increasingly estranged in her married life, met Pan Wei on the golf course. This woman with an elegant temperament and charm is right in his cuteness. The more the two played, the more speculative they became, and Sun Nan completely fell into this secret and exciting extramarital affair.
One day, Sun Nan returned from a trip with Pan Wei in a couple's style, and happily filed for divorce from Mai Hongmei. Mai Hongmei's whole world collapsed, she couldn't believe it, it turned out that her efforts and waiting were all built on nothing.
In order to save this family, she took care of herself again and returned to the entertainment industry. originally wanted to rely on his career to revive Sun Nan's affection, but he was already dead and decided to switch to the arms of his new love Pan Wei.
In the end, after nine years of buying Hongmei, she finally agreed to the divorce.
What made her even more unacceptable was that only a month later, Sun Nan registered her marriage with Pan Wei. And Pan Wei also gave birth to a daughter for him soon after, building a new complete family.
The blow of this series of changes to Mai Hongmei can be imagined. She suffered from severe depression and even wanted to end her life at the beach. Fortunately, she remembered in time that she still had two lovely children, which relieved her not to collapse in the emotional wound.
After Sun Nan and Mai Hongmei divorced, Mai Hongmei lost control of her emotions for a while and refused to let him visit her children. Sun Nan was furious about this and took her to court to fight for child custody.
In the courtroom, the two blamed each other back and forth. Sun Nan's friend also said that Mai Hongmei cheated first, causing him to be disheartened before divorcing. Mai Hongmei did not defend herself, she has been alone in the days after the divorce, and it is impossible for her to have an affair.
For the future of their children, the two sides fought until the court for several years unresolved. This invisible "war" has caused invisible damage to the children's immature hearts. Mai Hongmei couldn't bear to let her own flesh and blood suffer again, so she took the initiative to negotiate reconciliation with Sun Nan.
Eventually, they reach an agreement to co-parent. Mai Hongmei's generous mind to give in avoided the continued escalation of this "litigation war", which may cause more damage.
And this also indicates that the grievances and hatreds between Sun Nan and Mai Hongmei will slowly fade away over time. They also need to work together to contribute to the growth of their two children, which is their unshirkable responsibility.
Mai Hongmei, who experienced an emotional trough, slowly walked out of the haze with the comfort and encouragement of relatives and friends. She regained her fighting spirit and went all out to devote herself to her acting career.
With the contacts and popularity accumulated in the past, she soon received invitations to several shows.
In 2011, the stage of the Spring Festival Gala was once again illuminated by Mai Hongmei. What the audience sees is a calm woman who understands the world, not the innocent girl in the past.
The success of her career also allowed Mai Hongmei to find her other half. She married Mr. Sun Yulun and formed a warm new home.
In stark contrast to Mai Hongmei, Sun Nan's popularity and career plummeted. The notoriety of "scumbag" spread in both sex circles, and he had few fans.
In 2015, he withdrew halfway through the singer competition show and was accused of lack of professionalism. This move directly annoyed the TV station, and in the end he was completely blacklisted in the entertainment industry.
The glamorous stage is no longer open to Sun Nan. All his energy was focused on his new wife Pan Wei and daughter. The family stability that he finally established also made him have no time to take care of his former bad fate.
In 2019, Sun Nan and Mai Hongmei's daughter were revealed to be studying in the so-called "Chinese Studies Class". Such institutions have been accused of being "female Durban" that discriminates against women, emphasizing traditional obedience to marital values.
And Sun Nan and Pan Wei's daughters have the opportunity to study abroad. This obviously different treatment once again pushed Sun Nan to the center of the whirlpool of public opinion.
"Bad father", "machismo", netizens once again condemned Sun Nan's fatherly love as unfair. This scolding rose wave after wave, and the reputation of Sun Nan's family fell to its lowest ebb.
And Pan Wei, who is in a foreign country, is also angry at what her husband did.
It can be said that Sun Nan is paying a heavy price for his wrong decision 20 years ago. Not only did he lose his career and popularity, but he also broke up the original relationship between his two children because of a new relationship.
Now the daughter is growing up in the shadow of the "female Durban" scandal, and the son is living in isolation abroad.
In contrast, Mai Hongmei has successfully cleared the stigma of "abandoned women" by relying on her unremitting struggle. She stands at the peak of her career and relationship, and has become a female role model who abides by her duties and persevers in the eyes of the public.