Author: Insight Muye
The three views of parents are the beacon of a child's life.
Dong Yuhui has talked many times in the live broadcast room about the influence of his parents' three views on his growth.
Dong Yuhui was born in the countryside, and his ancestors have been farmers for three generations.
It stands to reason that such a family has a very strong desire for material things, but Dong Yuhui's parents are not like this.
They love books more than material things, and they also guide Dong Yuhui to read.
Therefore, Dong Yuhui's material desire is not high.
Some time ago, after the "small composition incident" happened, many companies offered sky-high salaries to poach him, but he refused them one by one.
He said that making money is never the first pursuit in life.
Dong Yuhui said that after he became popular, he appeared on the local TV station, and his parents were very happy to watch it.
After that, he went to CCTV again.
When the son appears on CCTV, probably all parents will show off everywhere, this is human nature.
But Dong Yuhui's parents remained silent and did not show it to anyone.
They also told Dong Yuhui to keep a low profile: showing off and attracting hatred.
You can also feel his low-key humility in Dong Yuhui.
This is also the reason why the "mother-in-law" likes him.
Children hide the true character of their parents.
Dong Yuhui also said: The truly valuable educational resources are not expensive school district houses, but the correct values passed on to children.
The three views of parents will be infiltrated in the soul of the child and affect every step the child takes.
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If a child's education is compared to a river, social and school education is not appropriate, and it only pollutes the water flow.
If the parents have incorrect views, they are directly polluting the source.
Seen a true story.
The boy grew up in a wealthy family, and every time he got into trouble outside, his parents would use money to help him settle it.
Gradually, in the boy's cognition, there is nothing in this world that money can't solve.
When he grew up, he did everything he could to make money, and finally embarked on the road of crime and went to prison.
Parents are the first mentors of their children and the best guides for their children.
If parents do not have the right view and do not distinguish between right and wrong, their children will inevitably go astray.
China Daily reported such a news.
A couple of parents took their 6-year-old child on vacation abroad, and after boarding the plane, the child kept harassing the passengers in the adjacent seat and kicked each other several times.
The passenger approached the child's father and hoped that he would take good care of the child.
In the face of the child's rude behavior, the child's father did not stop it in time and gave the child a correct value education, but continued to let it go.
After three hours, the passengers finally had enough and stood up to blame the family.
When the child's father heard this, he was angry on the spot, and excitedly stepped forward and grabbed the other party's neck.
Because of the beating, the family was denied entry by customs after the plane landed and repatriated to China.
Children will inevitably make mistakes on the road of growth.
It's not terrible to make mistakes, it's the wrong guidance of parents that is terrible.
Parents who have three wrong views and condone and protect their children without any bottom line will only ruin their children's future.
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Swiss child psychologist Jean Piaget said:
"The personality and character of parents will be passed on to their children like germs, and finally the child's three views and behavior patterns are guaranteed to be the essence of your bones. ”
The original family is the background color of a child's life and affects the child's life.
Writer Li Yue has a classmate D, whose parents both work in public institutions and are more persistent in power.
The content of the family's after-dinner chat is either talking about how to get promoted, or discussing who has been promoted in the unit.
Since elementary school, his parents have asked D to be elected as a class leader.
"Being a leader is a winner in life" has become a value engraved in his bones.
But the biggest trick of fate is that D is not suitable to be a leader, he lacks leadership ability, and he is not good at eloquence.
On the contrary, he has a strong Xi ability and is more suitable for taking the academic route.
At the request of his parents, after graduating from graduate school, he still took the career editor's exam, and then worked at the grassroots level for eight years.
Because of his poor handling of interpersonal relationships and the lack of hope for promotion, he felt that he was a failure in life.
Later, a colleague who entered the unit at the same time as him and was two years younger than him was promoted, which hit him very hard, and he suffered from depression from then on.
Now, except for the Spring Festival, he will go home to visit his parents once, and he will not go to his parents' house the rest of the time.
Because his parents are always concerned about why he hasn't been promoted.
What's even more terrifying is that to this day, D's parents can't understand why their son is depressed, why he is reluctant to go home, and why he hasn't been promoted.
Li Yue said with emotion: The original family basically creates people's three views, and the three views will directly determine people's happiness.
The family of origin determines the child's perception of the world, the view of life, and the measurement of value.
You are selfish and indifferent, and you love money like your life, and the children you raise are cold and utilitarian.
If you are sincere and open-minded, your adult children will be kind and strong, gentle and independent.
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Parents' three views, like a lighthouse, can affect the course of a child's life.
I think of the experiences of two child stars, one is Deng Minghe, and the other is Zhao Xinpei.
When it comes to Deng Minghe, many people are relatively unfamiliar, but you must have heard of "New Year's Doll".
6-year-old Deng Minghe once appeared on CCTV's Spring Festival Gala in the Year of the Dragon, and his festive image was loved by many audiences, and he was affectionately called "New Year's Doll".
After the Spring Festival Gala, Deng Minghe received various commercial performances, and the continuous activities made the 6-year-old child tired.
Deng Minghe's parents didn't take it seriously, even if he had a high fever, they let him take his illness to participate in the rehearsal of the performance.
Due to long hours of sleep deprivation and mental stress, Deng Minghe suffered from leukemia.
After treatment, Deng Minghe's condition gradually stabilized, and when he was discharged from the hospital, the doctor specially instructed him not to overwork.
But his parents only had money in their eyes, and Deng Minghe started to take on commercial performances again a month after he was discharged from the hospital.
In the end, Deng Minghe's leukemia relapsed, and he died after rescue efforts failed.
Compared with Deng Minghe, Zhao Xinpei is much luckier than him.
After the broadcast of "Journey to the West", Zhao Xinpei, who played the role of Red Child, quickly became popular because of his cute appearance.
Many directors, advertising companies, and brokerage companies came to the door and offered extremely high salaries.
With these salaries, adults don't have to go out to work hard, and Zhao Xinpei will soon be able to gain fame and fortune.
But in the face of the sudden temptation, Zhao Xinpei's parents maintained a rare sobriety and sanity.
They didn't want to consume their son and turn him into a money-making machine, but instead let him leave the entertainment industry and return to school to continue studying.
Zhao Xinpei was very interested in computers, so his parents took out all their savings, bought a computer for him, and sent him to further study and Xi.
After graduating from high school, Zhao Xinpei was admitted to the Department of Computer Science of Peking University, and was also sent to the Chinese Academy of Sciences for further study and obtained a doctorate.
After that, he and his friends founded a company, invested in many enterprises, and now has a net worth of more than 100 million.
The end of many child stars is to become like dolls and be manipulated by adults, turning into pathetic money-making machines.
Why is Zhao Xinpei an exception? Because he has a pair of parents who have three very positive views.
An excellent family must begin with companionship, be trapped in education, and be loyal to the three views.
The influence of parents on their children is like the relationship between soil and vegetation.
If the soil is fertile, anything planted will grow well, but if the soil is poor, anything will wither quickly.
Parents with positive views are the greatest blessing for children, and they are also the most powerful spiritual nutrients on his way to growth.
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Soong Ching Ling once said:
"In the final analysis, children's character and talents are most influenced by their families and parents.
School plays an important role in the development of young people, but it is the family that leaves an indelible mark on a person. ”
The future of children is hidden in the words and deeds of their parents, and even more in the three views of their parents.
What you sow to your children, your children will become.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage all parents.