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My name is Li Mei and I am 45 years old. It has been five years since my husband Wang Jun died, and I have lived alone for the past five years, and my life has been very lonely.
Every morning when I get up, I have to take out a photo of Wang Jun and wipe it off. It's a daily part of my routine, and even though the person in the photo is long gone, I still want to talk to him.
"Lao Wang, you said that our old house should be repaired, it was windy last night, and the roof was creaking, which scared me. Why don't we find someone to renovate the roof? When the time comes, I'll paint the house again, and our house will look brand new again. Do you think it's okay?"
Wang Jun in the photo just looked at me quietly and didn't answer. I knew he couldn't hear me anymore, but I couldn't help but talk to myself in front of the picture. It's become a part of my life.
After breakfast, I would silently wash the dishes and vegetables by myself. Our old house doesn't even have a water heater, so I have to wash the dishes by hand under the cold faucet, and in the winter, my hands will be frozen red.
"Lao Wang, the water in our house is too cold, I am panicked when I wash the dishes and vegetables, or we will install a water heater." I see that the wires and pipes in our house are old, and they have been remodeled together. When you come back, you will be able to use hot water, and then I will give you a good hot bath, what do you say?"
After lunch and a lunch break, I usually go out for a walk alone in the afternoon. I walked slowly, aimlessly around the neighborhood. On the way, I saw an old couple with my wife walking hand in hand in the park, and my heart was sour.
"Lao Wang, we are also old, and it is time to visit the park and bask in the sun every day. Every time I go for a walk alone, I don't have you to talk and laugh with me, it's really boring. Why don't you take a walk with me, we can go to the park and feed the pigeons, sit on the benches and talk. Just like those old couples. ”
I looked at the empty bench beside me, and I was the only one talking to myself. Wang Jun will never sit next to me again, I know.
In the evening, after dinner alone, I would watch TV in an empty room for a while and then go to bed. Before going to bed, I still can't help but glance at Wang Jun's photo and say good night to him.
"Lao Wang, rest in peace in the spirit of heaven. I'm here alone too
After living alone for so many years, I gradually felt empty and lonely. After Wang Jun left, my only spiritual sustenance was to look at his photos and talk to myself every day. But as time passed, I felt that my life lacked communication and companionship.
One day, it occurred to me that I could fill the void in my life by socializing online. I signed up for a social networking app, uploaded a photo of myself, and started chatting with strangers.
"Hello, my name is Li Mei, I am 45 years old, my husband has passed away for 5 years, and now I live alone and feel very lonely. What's your name?"
"Hello Li Mei, my name is Zhang Qiang, I am 50 years old this year, my wife also passed away, I also live alone, very lonely. Let's talk. ”
Zhang Qiang's words gave me some comfort, and we began to chat often. I would tell him about my troubles, and he would talk to me, and we became friends online.
"Lao Zhang, I was in a very bad mood today, I had a nightmare last night, I dreamed that Wang Jun scolded me for not forgetting him, I woke up and cried for half the night. What should I do?"
"Sister Mei, don't blame yourself too much. It's normal to have a chat with a confidant, not to betray your husband's memory. Some words will still feel lonely if you only say them to the photo. ”
Zhang Qiang's words gave me a lot of comfort. Talking to him, I don't feel so alone anymore.
But just as we were chatting speculatively, Zhang Qiang suddenly asked me if I could send him some living expenses first, he had been experiencing financial difficulties recently. I hesitated, but still sent him a little money. Later, he actually asked me to remit more living expenses, and I realized that I had been cheated.
"Zhang Qiang, how can you deceive my feelings? I treat you as a confidant, but you just want to cheat me out of my money!"
"Sister Mei, I'm sorry, I wanted to find someone to talk to, but then life was too difficult. Please forgive me. ”
I was deceived by Zhang Qiang, and I felt very sad. I no longer trust people I met online and feel like I was naïve in the first place.
It became a knot in my heart. I no longer dare to trust others casually, and I no longer bother with Wang Jun's photos as I used to. I felt hurt and deceived and my life became more lonely and hopeless.
Until one day, my old neighbor aunt came to see me, noticed that I was in a bad mood, and asked me with concern what was going on. I finally couldn't help but confide in her what had happened to me.
When my aunt heard this, she was very sympathetic to me, and she said, "Mei'er, don't doubt everyone because of this. There are still many kind people in this world, you should continue to talk to people, don't put it
So I started talking to some of my old neighbors and inviting them to come and sit at home. At first I was a little reserved, but the neighbors quickly made me feel kind and comfortable.
My old neighbor, Aunt Yang, often came to visit me, and she always listened to me patiently, which made me feel very warm: "Mei'er, you said you want to repaint the house? By the way, I baked a cake over the weekend, so be sure to try it!"
Aunt Yang is like my loved one, and I will do my best to help her. Once she sprained her foot, I delivered meals on time every day and took care of her daily life.
"Mei'er, thank you for taking care of me these days, it's really hard for me to do it alone. You are like my relatives, and I am relieved to have you. Aunt Yang said gratefully.
"Aunt Yang, what are you polite, you should be. I also thank you for speaking with me during this time, I don't feel lonely anymore. I laughed.
In addition to Aunt Yang, I also got to know other old people. I would go to the park regularly to dance and chat with them, and life became richer.
One day, my old friend Lina came to visit me, and she had lost her husband for some years. I invited her to join our dance group, and she readily agreed.
"Mei'er, it's a blessing to meet you. You gave me the courage to keep looking forward. Lina said with emotion.
"Lina, I've actually learned a lot from you. People need friends and warmth, and I will continue to work hard to live. I smiled and hugged her.
I began to learn to keep looking forward, and the pain of the past faded away. I will regularly clean Wang Jun's tomb and tell him about my current life.
"Lao Wang, I'm doing well and making a lot of friends. You can rest assured in the Heavenly Spirit. I will continue to live and live well. I whispered into the tombstone.
Life goes on, and I've learned to face it. I know that Wang Jun will want me to live happily. I owe it all to my friends who have warmed my heart and restored my hope. I will cherish these friendships forever.
My life is finally laughing again. With my friends, I no longer feel lonely.
One day, at a dance group meeting, my friend Lina said to me, "Mei'er, I have an idea, can we start a group and organize some activities on a regular basis, so that everyone's life can be richer?"
I thought about it and thought Lina's idea was a good one: "This is indeed a good proposal! We can have regular parties, outings, etc., which can not only strengthen friendships, but also enrich life." ”
So, we decided to set up a "Happy Retirement" group to organize activities for empty nesters. I volunteered to be the team leader and was in charge of coordinating the work.
The outing was very successful, everyone had a good time and asked for such events to be held regularly. When I saw the smiles on everyone's faces, my heart warmed, as if I had returned to my youth.
After that, we held various activities such as hiking, barbecues, movies, etc., and I made more friends who had the same experience. My life has become colorful and full of positive energy.
Until one day, my old friend Yang Li came to me, her husband had also passed away for many years, and she was living alone. I noticed that she was very depressed, so I asked her with concern, "Reiko, what's wrong with you?
I hugged her in distress and comforted her softly: "Reiko, I understand your feelings, and I have experienced it too." But you can't live in the past, you have to learn to keep looking forward, there are many beautiful things in life waiting for you to discover. Come, join our activity group, live with everyone, and you won't feel lonely. ”
Yang Li wiped away her tears and nodded. I know that she will come out slowly because she is no longer alone. I am determined to let more people like us feel the power of friendship and regain the sunshine of life.
Looking at her departing back, I couldn't help but think of my confused self in the past. Thank you to every friend around me, it is you who have warmed me and made me see the meaning of life again
In the "Happy Retirement" group, I have met many friends who have had similar experiences. Everyone got together, discussed their experiences, and talked about their feelings.
Aunt Li is the oldest in our group, and it has been more than 10 years since her husband died. Today she suddenly said to me: "Xiaomei, it is really my blessing to meet you." After my husband left, my children were busy with their own lives, and I felt at a loss for the future. Now that I have you friends, my life is meaningful again. ”
I held Aunt Li's hand and said with emotion, "Aunt Li, it is also my blessing to meet you." Everyone supports each other and lives together, and this is the meaning of life. ”
Aunt Li nodded, tears welling up in her eyes: "I'm so lonely, you gave me the courage to continue living." ”
"Auntie, don't be sad. We've all been there, so it's important to encourage each other. Your story also inspires me and gives me hope. I comforted softly.
Looking at the back of Aunt Li leaving, I couldn't help but think of my past. How I wish someone had helped me in the first place, instead of facing that pain alone.
"Mei'er, what are you thinking? Standing here alone in a daze. Lina's voice suddenly rang in her ears.
"Ah, Lina, nothing. It's just a sudden reminder of the past. I smiled.
Lina nodded and said earnestly, "In the past, we were too hard, and we endured that kind of pain alone. Now we need to help each other and get more people out of the way. ”
"You're right, we want everyone to feel loved and warm. That's why I joined this organization. I said firmly.
In the group, I saw many touching stories. Everyone finds solace here and makes me feel that what we do is very meaningful.
After an event, Yang Li found me and said excitedly, "Mei'er, thank you for letting me join this big family." Everyone here is an angel, and I don't feel lonely and hopeless anymore. ”
"Reiko, I'm so happy for you. That's exactly what I want to see. Your little things have also become the motivation for me to keep going. I smiled and hugged her.
Watching her leave happily, I was filled with emotion. Because of these friends, my life is full of sunshine. I will continue to work hard to let more people feel this warmth and hope. Along the way, thank you for everyone's company, you are the most beautiful scenery in my life.
In the Happy Retirement group, I saw many touching stories that made me more determined to help more people like this.
One day, a new neighbor came to the community, Ah Zhen, and I found that she was moving alone, looking lonely. I stepped forward and said, "Hello, I'm Li Mei, do you need help?"
Ah Zhen wiped her tears: "Thank you, I just lost my husband, I moved here alone, and I feel very lonely." ”
I immediately said, "I understand your feelings, come on, join our group, we all have similar experiences, we will give you warmth and support." ”
Ah Zhen nodded, tears welling up again: "Thank you, I need this kind of support so much." It's too hard to be alone. ”
I patted her on the shoulder: "I know, you will come out slowly, because you are no longer alone. We will help you. ”
In the group, Ah Zhen gradually opened up and talked to everyone about her story. She said that she was very dependent on her husband, and after he left, she felt that the whole world had collapsed, and even had thoughts of suicide.
Hearing this, I took her hand and whispered, "Ah Zhen, I have also experienced such despair, but life must go on no matter what." We will always be with you, and you will be able to regain hope. ”
I am sincerely relieved to see Ah Zhen gradually coming out of the shadows. This reassured me that everything we do is meaningful.
After a party, Ah Zhen caught up with me and said excitedly, "Mei'er, you changed my life! If it wasn't for your invitation, I can't imagine where I would go." I will be forever grateful to you!"
"Ah Zhen, in fact, I also found motivation from you. People help each other, and that's why I keep doing it. I hugged her tightly.
I will continue to work hard to make this warmth feel to those who are living in pain. Along the way, thank you for everyone's company, you have made me and each other. In the days to come, we will continue to move forward hand in hand.
There is no hopelessness in life, as long as the heart is still there, we must continue to move forward. That's what I want to say to more people. When despair strikes, remember that you are not alone. Because we've all groped through the pain, and we know that feeling best. Allow us to reach out and feel the most beautiful warmth in life.