The tragic childhood forged Ni Ping's independent soul
For any child, the relationship between parents can have a profound impact on their development. Ni Ping unfortunately grew up in an environment where her family was broken. For as long as she can remember, quarrels have become routine.
The fierce verbal quarrels and even physical violence of her parents were deeply imprinted in her young and fragile heart.
At the age of 10, the parents, who were not on good terms, finally chose to break up. To add insult to injury, Ni Ping has not seen her father since. For any girl who needs a father's love, this blow is unbearable.
On the one hand, she resented him for being irresponsible, and on the other hand, she longed for even a hug.
However, the reality is brutal. From a very young age, Ni Ping had to learn to face all kinds of hardships in life independently. Perhaps, it is this environment and experience that has cultivated her firm and strong character.
At the age of 20, she entered the Shandong Art Institute with her outstanding appearance and acting skills, and soon made a name for herself in dramas and movies.
In a sense, this is exactly the fight back of that miserable child. Despite the great pain she paid, she chose to be proactive and continue to break through in her career.
Perhaps, for her, success is the best reward for those who hurt themselves. This independent spiritual temperament also achieved the magnificent legend of the first sister of CCTV later.
Marriage choices after a failed career
At that moment when she decided to leave her first husband, Ni Ping knew that she would never go back to the past. Choosing CCTV means sacrificing love. And she resolutely took this step.
Perhaps, there is a yearning for a successful career. But more than that, she has been lacking the support of her family, and deep down she desperately longs to be understood and encouraged.
This also drove her to choose marriage again after a failed career.
Comedian Guo Da was the first to give her this feeling. The humorous and slightly honest Northwest man seems to come from two worlds with her. But only he can patiently listen to her pour out her troubles when she is in the most difficult time.
Ni Ping finally saw the possibility of another life.
But at the moment, her mother was against all this. may be out of love for her daughter, but in Ni Ping's view, this is tantamount to depriving her of the right to pursue happiness.
Once again, she lost her significant other.
Then came to her side is the super director Chen Kaige, whose career has reached its peak. This was supposed to be the dream marriage. It's a pity that Chen Kaige doesn't plan to accept it at all.
After some arguments of "only falling in love and not getting married", Ni Ping finally chose to let go in frustration.
The career and feelings she fought for were shattered in front of her eyes again and again. Perhaps this is the fate she is destined to endure. She also gradually understood that there is still a long way to go if she wants to be a complete herself.
The son's illness tested the marriage
The encounter with Wang Wenlan has achieved Ni Ping's rare true love. This kind middle-aged man melted her heart frozen by unfortunate feelings with his enthusiasm.
Soon after marriage, the birth of her daughter made Ni Ping believe that she finally had a complete home.
Everything she wanted was fulfilled at this time. has a successful career, a stable relationship, and both children and daughters. The woman who was once struggling with the trauma of divorce seems to be gone forever.
In her place, a happy, middle-aged woman.
However, the condition of her daughter's congenital cataract ruthlessly broke all this. For this seemingly hopeless struggle, she did not hesitate to travel around and spend all her savings.
And all of this is also quietly consuming this relationship.
Wen Lan began to be unable to understand her insistence, and irreconcilable differences arose between the two people with very different temperaments. When the option that could mean divorce appeared, Ni Ping did not hesitate in the slightest.
For her, children are the continuation of her life, and she must not give up. Even if it means losing a rare and beautiful marriage. Perhaps this is the greatness of mothers, who must firmly protect their most important people in the most difficult times.
How the emotional turmoil affected her life
seems to have a successful and happy life, which is completely different from ordinary cosmetics spokespersons. Ni Ping's experience is full of tasteless emotional ordeals, which are traumatic that no success can remedy.
The father's love that was missing when she was a child has always been a knot in her heart. The collapse of her first marriage also made her realize that she had to choose between her dreams and her family. Even relatives no longer support you in the most difficult times, and this feeling of helplessness will undoubtedly increase the hidden pain in your heart.
Her mother's opposition and her partner's change of heart made her pay a heavy price. Even if her career is at its peak, she is no longer the innocent girl. In its place is an independent, resilient heart.
Perhaps, it was the experience accumulated by these traumas that made her gradually understand that this life was destined to end by herself. She doesn't need the gifts of her parents, she doesn't need the comfort of her partner, and she doesn't need the understanding of others.
All she has to do is go straight ahead and don't stop for anyone.
When all the baggage is gone, she finally regains her true heart. Even though she is carrying the pain of an incurable illness on her shoulders, the appearance of that girl is once again blooming in front of the camera.
This is the real Ni Ping, because she has abandoned all kinds of expectations in life, so she can face all hardships bravely and decisively.
That's what she wants to say to young women – don't stay for anyone, live only for yourself. That's what she learned about life.
Put aside the emotional baggage and face life bravely
When Ni Ping stepped over the shadow of divorce and illness again and came to the familiar stage, at that moment, she finally returned to her most primitive self. At the moment of warm applause from the audience, she knew that she was still the girl with a dream, moving forward and not stopping for anyone.
This is the life lesson she wants to convey - don't compromise and slow down for anyone, just run and fight for your own heart.
Perhaps in a sense, she has struggled with "family" all her life. The discord between her parents caused her trauma, she used her own blockbuster in the drama and film industry to make up for it; The first husband's incomprehension, she overwhelmed with her success in CCTV; Her mother's opposition could not stop her from pursuing happiness.
But in the same way, it is these "family members" that make her have to face the cruelty of reality. With no one on her side, she has to face all the ups and downs alone.
In the end, she chose to leave all this baggage behind and fight only for herself.
Her son's illness nearly broke her, but even her closest people left her halfway. But she didn't back down in the slightest, because she finally understood that she could only rely on herself in life.
Without anyone's gifts and mercy, she has to go on without regrets.
That's the advice she wants to tell all women – don't count on handouts from others and don't stop for anyone. We should all take responsibility for our own lives, even if the process is difficult and painful.
This is a metaphor for happiness because it does not come easily.