Billionaire finds abducted son: In the happy ending, no one cares about the "repentant" mother
Text | Mi Li's mother
In the past few days, Mi Li's mother's mobile phone is going to be swiped by this news.
"Billionaire finds his abducted son", the "cool text" plot that novels dare not write like this, happened in reality.
In the 25 years since his son was abducted, Xie Kefeng has not stopped looking for him, nor has he given up hope.
Over the years, he has changed from a little-known fruit shop owner and decoration team worker to a big boss with a net worth of tens of millions.
After the successful confession, Xie Kefeng's "trench words" quickly became popular all over the Internet-
"I have prepared three suites, you can choose a car, inherit the family business or start a business, your father is really not bad for money!"
At the same time, his son Xie Qingshuai's personal account rose by one million fans overnight. The day before, he was still plastering cement at the construction site, and he never dreamed that he was the "rich second generation" who was outcast.
In the news, it is a heartwarming scene of a family reunion and hugging with red eyes;
Outside the news, it is everyone's blessings and envy.
No matter how you look at it, this is a happy ending, but the more Mi Li's mother looks at it, the more sad she becomes.
Because in the hot news, the figure of Xie Qingshuai's biological mother is so thin that it has almost no sense of existence.
But on the contrary, she has endured the most pain and suffering, and Mi Li's mother really can't turn a blind eye to her.
The effort to buy a vegetable was lost, and the child was lost
In 1998, Xie Kefeng was not a billionaire, he and his wife opened a fruit shop in Xingtai, Hebei Province, and business had just picked up.
The two have been married for five years, the eldest son is just three years old, and the wife is pregnant with a second child.
Because of the pressure of life, in the late autumn, my wife took her seven or eight months pregnant belly and helped in the fruit store.
But her physical foundation was already poor, and she worked too hard during pregnancy, and her uterus prolapsed after giving birth to her second child.
How serious is this disease?
When Mi Li's mother was writing this article, there was a second-child mother with uterine prolapse who was on the hot search at the same time as Reconciliation Qingshuai.
After giving birth to her second child, the mother thought that her body would recover after confinement, but she did not expect to leave the sequelae of uterine prolapse.
From then on, she could only sit or lie down as "paralyzed", because as soon as she stood up, her uterus would fall to her thighs, and the taste of rubbing against her pants was simply miserable.
Like this mother, it was difficult to walk after her mother's illness, let alone lift heavy objects.
But although she can't help with the work in the store, she can't leave the family affairs alone.
After having a younger son, the husband went out to work alone, and the burden of childcare and housework could only fall on the mother.
That day, as usual, Xie Mother took advantage of her son's sleep time to go to a shop 100 meters away from home to buy vegetables.
But I didn't expect that in just ten minutes to buy vegetables, Xie's mother, who hurried home, found that her son on the bed was gone. The youngest son, who had just turned 100 days, was lost in the deep winter of Layue, and it was 25 years to say goodbye.
At that time, the mother's postpartum recovery was already sloppy, and after the blow, she became more and more sluggish.
At first, anxiety and palpitation, then insomnia, and depression was diagnosed not long after.
But Xie Mu didn't have time to take care of her emotions and body, and she fell into deep self-blame after the child was lost.
"If I had known that the child would be lost, I would not have gone out if I had not eaten for three days or five days. ”
While she was in pain, in order to have one more clue to find her child, she told the police, relatives and friends over and over again how the child was lost.
The clearer the memory, the more desperate Xie Mu became. It is tantamount to revealing her scars, which makes her feel painful.
I owe my husband a "I'm sorry"
After finding Xie Qingshuai, the family hugged each other and shed tears of excitement.
The father happily bought a car and a house for his son, and the sale was a luxury configuration, and the first stop was to take his son to visit the family business.
A series of operations envy netizens, and the blessing formation of "gratifying and congratulating" in the comment area has become a large-scale recognition scene in seconds.
"Dad, I'm the one who is handsome!"
"Daddy Hao, you still have a son waiting for you to take home in Sichuan!"
"Dad, I think you've changed the DNA sequences when you think about it. ”
Under the ridicule of netizens, the story direction changed from "warmth" to "Xuan's father".
For Xie Qingshuai himself, this is indeed a plot that he could never dream of.
After being abducted, Xie Qingshuai's adoptive father died of illness, his adoptive mother remarried, and he was brought up with his grandparents since he was a child.
After a difficult start, he did not let himself fall because of this, but was extremely competitive.
Xie Qingshuai finished college on a work-study basis, and after graduation, he studied interior decoration, and lived every day full of hope.
After returning to his original family, he was not complacent because of "splashing wealth and wealth", and he seemed calm and introverted.
But when a lot of remarks and attention were focused on the father and son, Mi Li's mother subconsciously paid attention to the reaction of the mother, and her tears seemed to be inexhaustible.
After retrieving her son, Xie Mu also quickly shared the good news on her personal account.
Flipping through her homepage, the more Mi Li's mother looked at it, the more distressed she became. After learning to post videos, Xie Mu posted hundreds of updates, each of which was to find her son.
Compared with the father's thank-you banquet for thousands of people, the way my mother expressed her love was much more restrained and simple.
She just peeled an egg for her son at breakfast.
Then, I made up for my son's 26th birthday and made dumplings with my son...... In the steaming life scene, Xie Mu's expression finally changed from excitement and anxiety to relief and satisfaction.
Perhaps she is more concerned than material compensation about missing every stage of her son's growth, which is difficult to make up.
But when she was interviewed, Xie Mu didn't mention the pain of physical and mental damage over the years, and just spoke with a crying voice:
"I owe my husband a word of sorry. ”
Although Xie Kefeng said that he couldn't blame his wife for losing his child, in the past 25 years, Xie Kefeng's mother has been tortured by guilt all the time.
But looking carefully at these years, where does she "owe"?
In the past 25 years, Xie Mother has dragged her sick body to accompany her husband to start a business, from an unknown mom-and-pop shop to the current assets.
After losing her youngest son, her body obviously suffered serious birth injuries, but she still gave birth to two more children one after another.
When the third child was seven or eight months pregnant, she followed her husband into the mountain village to find her son for a clue.
Mi Li's mother almost can't imagine how hard it is for her mother to live in reality behind the countless child-seeking videos.
Her pain is shared by no one
When the public opinion boom cooled down, more and more people began to pay attention to the trafficking case itself-
Xie Kefeng's search for his son's family-seeking app, the voice of calling for the same crime and severe punishment of human traffickers, as well as Xie Kefeng's heart-warming move to help more than 20 families reunite in the search for his son for more than 20 years, etc.
These voices are very valuable, and Mi Li's mother completely agrees.
But today, Mi Li's mother still wants to leave more pen and ink to the mother who is low to the dust.
In almost every story, the female narrative is thin enough to be brushed aside. But under the thin words, there is a deep pain.
Before recovering Xie Qingshuai, Xie Qingshuai's mother always felt that she "owed" her husband and "owed" her son, and she took the mistake on herself.
The child was lost when she was taking care of her, but in the whole thing, Xie Mu is actually the most helpless and unchosen person.
As a mother, Mi Li's mother can fully empathize with the pain of her mother losing her child, but no one shares this pain for her.
Even for a clue and a hope, she suffered from depression and had to constantly regurgitate her nightmares.
Thousands of nights in an emotional cage and unable to sleep, eating empty bottles of medicine for more than ten years, and even self-harm......
Xie Kefeng mentioned a few words about his wife in the interview, which made Mi Li's mother red-eyed several times.
The son was found, and the ending was happy. Thinking about the days and nights when I missed my son in the past, it was like having a nightmare, and I just woke up from the dream, and I still have palpitations. It's distressing to think about.
Some time ago, Mi Li's mother saw such a piece of news.
A post-80s couple shared a slice of their life "on the road". "On the road" is not traveling, but working.
In the video, the husband is a long-distance truck driver, and the wife takes care of the car, known as "sister-in-law".
On the long-distance freight journey, the wife poured water and noodles, prepared ingredients and stuffing, and made a hot dumpling for her husband.
After the video went viral, netizens made voices of admiration and envy.
"Happiness is actually very simple!"
"Where you are, where you are, where you are!"
But when Mi Li's mother watched the video, she noticed the husband in the background who was watching his wife busy with work, but only cared about playing with his mobile phone, and didn't even bother to raise his eyes to look.
When his wife is ready, he sits in the center of the picture and feasts on it.
Some people may say that this is the division of labor in the family, and the husband is also tired of driving long distances.
But in fact, the wife of the "virtuous helper" who is praised by everyone is also a truck driver, not just the so-called "sister-in-law".
From other videos they shot, it can be seen that the husband often pulls his sleeping wife up, and the two drive on the road in shifts.
But the comments of most netizens one-sidedly and cruelly drowned out the value of women themselves.
The fact that women are invisible in the story is not an accident, but a Xi.
But it is this natural Xi that has given birth to one tragedy after another.
Taking advantage of this news of "Billionaire Successful Child-Hunting", Mi Li's mother called on everyone to pay attention to abducted children and crack down on human trafficking crimes, while also hoping that everyone would give women more space to narrate.
The hard work of pregnancy, the responsibility of childcare, the dedication of career, the management of housework, and every work that women make for their families and society are all worthy and seen.
Because after seeing it, we can usher in change.
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