I, Xiaoxue, 35 years old, is an ordinary housewife who has been married for ten years and has two children. We lived an ordinary and warm life, until one day, my brother-in-law brought his girlfriend to live in my house, which made waves in this peaceful home.
My husband's family is rural, and he has a younger brother who is 4 years younger. When we got married, my parents gave us half of the money to buy a house. Now it's time for my brother-in-law to buy a house and get married, and the family really can't get it, so I let my brother-in-law and his girlfriend live with us temporarily.
That day, my husband and my brother-in-law were drinking tea in the living room, while I entertained my brother-in-law's girlfriend Xiaolan, a delicate junior girl. While chatting, I suddenly remembered that the bed in the upstairs room was not made, so I asked my husband for instructions: "Husband, the bed in the upstairs room has not been made yet, I'll go clean up first." ”
My husband smiled and nodded, and I was about to go downstairs after finishing my work, but I heard a conversation between my husband and my brother-in-law in a low voice. Curious, I approached quietly, only to hear my husband say, "Why is your girlfriend so young and ignorant? Our family is not obliged to help her with laundry and cooking." ”
The little uncle smiled awkwardly: "She's just a little lazy, and she likes your Xiaobao very much, and she can also cultivate a relationship with Xiaobao this time." ”
My heart sank, remembering that two days ago, Xiaobao wanted to play with that girlfriend, but she refused for various reasons. At the time, I thought Xiaobao was naughty, but now it seems that that girlfriend doesn't like children at all, let alone being a nanny to take care of children.
I became more and more dissatisfied, and continued to listen. The husband said, "If you want to be with her, you can take her back to meet her parents, but if you want to get married, you should think about it again." After all, you've only known each other for a short time, and you don't know each other well enough. ”
The little uncle said impatiently: "I know, I know, I will talk to her." You can rest assured. ”
I don't like my brother-in-law's girlfriend, she lives at home for a few days, she looks like a disabled person, she doesn't do any work, she has to send her brother-in-law to the room for meals, and her underwear is thrown into the washing machine and not washed.
That's it, the key is that the girl really regards herself as the master, and it doesn't matter if she doesn't help me take care of the children, she often asks me to do this and that, and she won't even say a few kind words. Sometimes I get tired and paralyzed to take care of my two children, and I really want to leave.
I couldn't bear it anymore, and when my brother-in-law and her girlfriend went out, I complained to my husband: "Your brother's girlfriend is really too much, every time she comes, she doesn't help with the work, and she still criticizes me." What the hell do you think?"
The husband said disapprerovingly: "After all, she is the girlfriend of the younger brother, and she is also young, so you should take care of it more." ”
I was so angry that I didn't want to pay attention to him.
A few days later, my mother-in-law suddenly fell ill and needed to be hospitalized. My husband and I took turns taking care of my mother-in-law and the children, and our days were very tiring. However, the girlfriend never offered to help take care of the children or visit her mother-in-law in the hospital.
I felt chilled. My mother-in-law's illness was uncomfortable enough, but that girlfriend was indifferent to our family's difficulties. I decided to make it clear.
One night, I pulled my husband into the bedroom, closed the door and said, "I've had enough of that girlfriend." She doesn't respect our family at all, and she doesn't respect our family members, and I think we should talk to her. ”
My husband was a little hesitant and was about to speak.
I interrupted him and said, "What the hell do you think? Do you want to be with that girlfriend or do you want to be with me? If you want to be with me, we're going to have to figure out how to solve this problem, and if you want to be with that girlfriend, we're going to have to talk about how to deal with the relationship." ”
My husband was silent for a while and said, "You're right, let's find out." I'll talk to that girl. ”
The next day, my husband called my brother-in-law and his girlfriend together and had a serious conversation. He expressed his concerns and dissatisfactions, as well as our position and demands.
The brother-in-law's girlfriend seemed a little unimpressed, but her husband's attitude was very firm, and she finally promised to change her behavior.
After this conversation, the brother-in-law's girlfriend obviously restrained a lot, stopped dictating to our family's housework, and began to take the initiative to help take care of the children.
However, I made up my mind in my heart, I must drive this girl out, a person can be so blind, even if it changes now, it will not be long before it will still be the same as before, anyway, I don't believe that girl.
It didn't take long for the girl's to finally reveal her purpose.
Since the mother-in-law saw the girl in the hospital, the mother-in-law did not understand her and thought that the girl was not bad, so she asked the brother-in-law when she would get married.
Now the girl still put forward her own requirements, in addition to the bride price of 180,000 yuan, but also to have a house of more than 100 square meters in the urban area.
The brother-in-law couldn't take out the money at all, and the mother-in-law didn't have it, but for the sake of the brother-in-law's marriage, the mother-in-law actually talked to us.
That morning, my mother-in-law came to our house with a large bag of souvenirs. My mother-in-law's idea is very real, she just asked us to sell the house, and used the money to let us and my brother-in-law take out a loan to buy a set each.
When we bought this house, we bought it for 1.8 million yuan, and our family paid 900,000 yuan, and if we want to sell it now, the market price can be sold for more than 3 million.
According to my mother-in-law's idea, we will give 1 million to my brother-in-law a down payment to buy a small three-room, and then the rest of the money will go to us. My mother-in-law's wishful thinking is really loud, and I naturally won't agree with it.
There are four of us in our family, and my mother-in-law or my parents sometimes come to stay for a few days, so we have at least four rooms. Now I live in the top of the complex, only barely made 4 rooms, if you buy again, it is estimated that the remaining more than 2 million will be enough for the down payment.
That day, my mother-in-law saw that my face was wrong, so she hurried away.
In the evening, I talked to my husband about it again, but my husband's ambiguous answer made me even more angry, and I ignored him all night.
Later, we decided to sell the house and divorce, and the reason for doing so was that we also had our own considerations, plus my mother-in-law also paid some price.
First of all, where we live now, the school is not very good, we want to find a good school, and secondly, the house is also old, and the value-added potential is basically over, so it is better to change to a new one.
The reason for divorce is that in our place, as long as there is no house under the name of the divorce, it can be regarded as the first set, and you can make a down payment of 30%.
I talked to my husband about my idea and he was shocked. But after some explanation, he understood my idea and agreed with my decision. We started looking for the right house and also started preparing to sell our current house.
Although the process was hard, I felt that it was worth it. I feel that the relationship between us as a husband and wife has become stronger after this test. At the same time, we also have a clearer plan and expectation for our future life.
A month later, we found a suitable buyer and sold our house. We moved to a new house with our children and started a new life.
The new home is a four-room of 143 square meters, hardcover delivery, we made a down payment of 2 million, and my mother-in-law subsidized her pension to us by 300,000. Although the money will eventually be kept by the mother-in-law, at least the mother-in-law's sincerity is also seen.
Although there are still some discomforts and challenges in the future life, we are all working hard to live for the mortgage.
Looking back on the past year, I feel that we made the right decision.
Although the relationship between my brother-in-law and his girlfriend did not last, our family became more harmonious and happy because of it.
I believe that as long as we maintain communication and understanding, our future will be brighter. #看见人间百态#