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After filming "My Assistant is Not Simple", Deng Jie recently revealed some daily life with her husband Zhang Guoli in marriage in an interview column.
Faced with her workaholic husband who worked 18 hours a day, Deng Jie was very helpless. She complained to the host: "Complain, often complain, but it doesn't work." ”
In marriage, you need to be alone for a long time, how to deal with loneliness and loneliness day after day?
Deng Jie, as a person who came over, told her own mental journey and way of dealing with it.
She said: "There may have been a time when I thought that all of a sudden, why was it like this, but I quickly adjusted myself and said that since this is the case, I will have fun for myself." For example, I didn't film much later, so someone in the family had to take care of it. ”
"I can only save myself, no one can save myself, the key is to have a child later, that is the biggest thing, then I found a new life, so cute children are enough, I don't want anything."
Marriage, standing up means everything. How to stand up is inseparable from wisdom.
Deng Jie's wisdom has been demonstrated in marriage.
In the impetuous and changeable entertainment industry, after 34 years of marriage, her marriage with Zhang Guoli is still happy, and only Deng Jie knows best how many sighs and hardships there have been behind this. However, with the blessing of wisdom, she opened the road and built bridges in the mountains and rivers, and survived one by one.
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Shi Tiesheng wrote in "Me and the Altar of Earth": "Since the suffering has pushed me to the edge of the cliff, let me sit down on the edge of this cliff, look at the mist under the cliff by the way, and sing a song to you." ”
Life is changeable, and unsatisfactory things are nine times out of ten. Dealing with suffering with optimism and rationality is a must for a happy life.
From the original family to starring in "Wang Xifeng", to marrying Zhang Guoli, being a stepmother, and not being able to have children of her own, Deng Jie's strength, resilience, courage, and tolerance are admirable.
In 1957, Deng Jie was born in Chongqing to an art family. Her parents are both Sichuan opera actors.
Unfortunately, when she was 3 years old, her father died. The mother, who was busy with work, had no time to take care of her young daughter, so she had to send her to live at her aunt's house.
Later, Deng Jie was sent by her mother to live at her grandmother's house.
The experience of being under the fence when she was a child prompted Deng Jie to engrave the words independence and strength in her bones.
Influenced by her family, Deng Jie has an innate love and talent for Sichuan opera. At the age of 16, Deng Jie entered the Sichuan Opera School in Sichuan Province, where she studied Hua Dan.
After graduating from the Sichuan Opera School in Sichuan Province, Deng Jie was assigned to the Sichuan Opera School in Sichuan Province as an actor. While working at the Sichuan Theatre, she gained her first marriage. The man is three years older than her, is a lighting engineer, and works in the Emeishan Film Factory.
This marriage ended after only four years.
Later, her ex-husband recalled: "As a husband, I couldn't bring her happiness at that time, and I couldn't give her happiness, so I might as well let it go." ”
Break up and see character. For various reasons, although this marriage did not last to the end, it was a good ending to get together and disperse.
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In this life, Deng Jie's label of "Wang Xifeng" can be said to be deep-rooted.
The "Wang Xifeng" she portrayed is ruthless, exquisite, shrewd and capable, from the hair to the heels, there is drama everywhere, as if it came out of a book.
Deng Jie, who played "Wang Xifeng" alive, may be destined to play "Wang Xifeng".
However, after looking at Deng Jie's interview clips with the crew of "Dream of Red Mansions", I realized that she had paid for this role.
She is relatively low and her skin is still dark, compared with the actresses Zhou Yue and Le Yun who compete for "Wang Xifeng" with the crew, there is really no comparison.
Especially the Shanghai girl Le Yun, who is tall, fair-skinned, born with a pair of Danfeng eyes, and is a first-class beauty in both figure and appearance.
In such a contrasting situation, Deng Jie undoubtedly had to bear tremendous pressure in her heart.
Even if Le Yun later withdrew from the crew of "Dream of Red Mansions", Deng Jie won the recognition of director Wang Fulin with her excellent acting skills and strong aura exuded by her body, and successfully got the opportunity to play "Wang Xifeng", she still faced a not very friendly situation.
She recalled that for three years, she was relatively depressed.
Tough and strong like her, she turns pressure into motivation and devotes herself to figuring out the role and reciting the lines.
In order to play "Wang Xifeng" well, Deng Jie really worked hard.
The scene where he died in the Temple of the Prison God was filmed in snowy Harbin, when the temperature was more than 30 degrees below zero.
In such a cold weather, Deng Jie only wore a thin cotton jacket, was wrapped in a mat, and dragged the same movement and route on the ice and snow eight times, and people were frozen and had no feelings.
This kind of dedication is moving. No one can succeed casually, Deng Jie can shape "Wang Xifeng" into three points, which is inseparable from the unimaginable efforts of ordinary people.
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Every effort will not be disappointed, and every perseverance will be rewarded.
Whether it is career, love, or marriage, Deng Jie chooses to be true to her heart and perseveres to the end.
After divorcing her first husband, Deng Jie and Zhang Guoli became acquainted because of the play. Zhang Guoli's dedication to work attracted Deng Jie, who felt that he was a smart and attractive man.
Deng Jie's beauty and unique artistic temperament also captured Zhang Guoli's heart.
It's just that Zhang Guoli was married and childbearing at that time. He and his wife Luo Xiuchun married in 1982 and gave birth to a son, Zhang Mo.
Most extramarital affairs do not end well, whether it is fate or calamity, you must be cautious.
is as smart as Deng Jie, it is impossible not to consider the nature of this relationship. Do you want to go down with this man desperately, or do you turn around and leave? Deng Jie is faced with an important choice.
Zhang Guoli should really love Deng Jie. In order to be with Deng Jie, Zhang Guoli planned to divorce Luo Xiuchun.
As compensation, Zhang Guoli gave Luo Xiuchun the money to risk his life to go to the Antarctic research station to make a documentary, and also bought her a house.
In this regard, he is really not a scumbag.
Luo Xiuchun saw Zhang Guoli's determination and sincerity to divorce, and in 1988, she agreed to divorce, on the premise that he and Deng Jie could not have any more children after they got married.
Zhang Guoli agreed, and did it.
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In 1989, Zhang Guoli and Deng Jie entered the marriage hall.
After marrying Zhang Guoli, Deng Jie became Zhang Mo's stepmother.
It goes without saying how difficult it is to be a stepmother. No matter how hard you give, it's hard to be recognized. For many years, Zhang Mo has been calling her "aunt".
In the show, when asked by the host, "Do you love this son?" Does Zhang Mo reject you"? Deng Jie admitted frankly that Zhang Mo rejected her, especially when she was fifteen or sixteen years old and adolescence, she was very repulsed.
Compared with being a stepmother, Deng Jie is even more difficult to accept that she can't have children with Zhang Guoli.
Like many married women, Deng Jie once aspired to be a mother. However, in order to abide by the agreement with his ex-wife back then, Zhang Guoli refused to have children with Deng Jie.
"If you're lonely, get a dog, don't talk about having children."
Deng Jie sacrificed her right to be a mother in order to complete her marriage with Zhang Guoli.
Fortunately, Deng Jie later adopted a pair of children, and her mother's love was finally placed.
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There is a line in the movie "Soul Journey": "Every soul must find a spark in order to be allowed to come to earth, and this is the purpose of people's lives." ”
Zhang Guoli should be Deng Jie's soul "spark".
In this life, for the sake of this man, she endured loneliness for a long time and sacrificed her right to be a mother.
Despite this, she still said that the most right thing she did in her life was to remarry Zhang Guoli.
With the passage of time, her marriage with Zhang Guoli has also changed from being unfavored at the beginning to being blessed now.
Kazuo Inamori said: "The so-called life, in the final analysis, is the accumulation of moments and moments. Yes, there is no flower, it is a flower from the beginning, what you have to do is to work silently and wait for the flower to bloom. Time will tell you the answer. ”
Whether it is career or love marriage, Deng Jie has reaped the fruits she wants in perseverance.