Kindergarten toilet problem: The teacher will not tell you why, parents can only figure it out on their own. Some time ago, I went to pick up the child from kindergarten and came across a very interesting scene. When a child in the middle class got out of class, he kicked his feet and shrunk his stomach out of the school gate, and as soon as he left the school gate, he quickly took his grandmother's hand: "Grandma run, I want to go back and poop!" The people around him laughed and laughed.
In fact, this scene is often seen, because this little boy never goes to the toilet at school and declares: "Fertile water does not flow into the fields of outsiders." "Every time, I endured until after class, and immediately rushed home to go to the toilet. However, there are times when you miss. According to the child's grandmother, several times she couldn't hold it back and pulled it in her pants.
There were also a few times, holding back for too long, not going to the toilet for several days, the child had stomach pain, went to the hospital to see: constipation. Talking about the topic of "children are not going to the toilet in kindergarten", Bao's mother and grandma have opened the chat mode. Almost 9 out of 10 parents say their children do not want to go to the toilet in kindergarten.
1. 9 out of 10 children do not want to go to the toilet in kindergarten, why?
1. Children love face Parents sometimes overlook: small people, sometimes they care about face!
The toilet of kindergarten children is usually with the classroom, in the compartment next to the classroom. Children pull a stink, there will be more embarrassment. For example, some children in the kindergarten and middle classes still can't wipe their farts, so they will call the teacher to help wipe them.
It's just that not all teachers are so caring, sometimes, teachers may be smelly and dirty, and children are left out in the cold, so they are not willing to stink in kindergarten. Such a thing has happened to Mother Guo's nephew.
When I was in kindergarten, I refused to go to the toilet at school, and after asking, I learned that my nephew's life teacher asked him to go back to the toilet, which was too smelly. The parents asked the teacher, but the teacher did not admit that he had said such a thing.
For example, when children go to the toilet, other children will also come to the toilet, and sometimes they will dislike the "stink". Even the smell is relatively large, and you can smell it a little in the classroom. Last time Pistachio came home, he said that a little boy in the class pulled a stink that was too smelly and was made fun of by other children. Children also want face in front of outsiders, and it is really normal not to pull stinks at school for the sake of face.
2. Children care about playing To be honest, this is the main reason why pistachios did not go to the toilet in kindergarten before.
Because children are full of school days: exercises, games, painting, classes, eating and sleeping, and so on. Resting time, not yet allowed to speak. Pistachio herself said that she wanted to go to the bathroom several times when she jumped downstairs, but she could go to the game room to play after the exercise, and she was reluctant to waste this time going to the toilet. It is natural for children to love to play, and it is still relatively common not to go to the toilet in order to play.
3. Children are afraid of toilets Family toilets are generally flush toilets
But most of the toilets in kindergartens are "squat pits", there will be a big hole in the back, and then the sound of flushing will be relatively loud. For children who have no contact and children who are not very bold, it is easy to be afraid and do not want to go to the toilet in kindergarten. Pistachios also once said: Mom, will I fall into it and wash me away?
4. Children dare not communicate with teachers This is also a very critical factor
The child himself knows that he can't wipe it clean after pulling the stench, and he is bound to call the teacher. However, the child did not dare to shout. So, I would rather hold it than go to the toilet in kindergarten. These 4 reasons are the main reasons why the vast majority of children do not want to go to the toilet in kindergarten, ask the teacher, the teacher will not say the reason, parents have to judge by themselves, your family is the first reason?
The key factor is one thing: let the child face "fear" head-on. In fact, these reasons can all be attributed to the word "fear". Because of fear, children are afraid of making ugly things in front of teachers and classmates; Because of fear, children are afraid that they will not be able to play the game they want to play; Because of fear, children are afraid of the bottomless toilet black hole... Children aged 2-5 years old have a very rich imagination, reasoning ability, which can become a source of fear;
Children who have just left their parents, facing kindergarten, are slow to integrate and adapt, which is also a factor of fear; Not knowing how to communicate with the teacher and express your needs is the source of fear... In general, if you want children to face "fear", let children "face" the kindergarten, to re-adapt and integrate into the kindergarten, feel at home like home, and dare to express themselves with teachers.
"Pulling stink" is only one of the manifestations of children's unadaptation to kindergarten, which is a performance that parents can directly see, and behind this, there are many parents who "can't see" performance.
5. Changes in the environment
For children who have just entered kindergarten, kindergarten is an unfamiliar environment and it takes them a while to get used to. At home, children can go to the toilet anytime, anywhere, and they have the company and help of their parents. In kindergarten, children are required to go to the toilet at the prescribed time and place, and they have to take off their pants, wipe their buttocks, flush, etc. These changes make the child feel uneasy, uncomfortable, inconvenient, and even fearful.
6. Psychological disorders
Some children are timid or shy and do not like to go to the toilet in public and feel that it is a very private matter. They are afraid of being seen or heard, or ridiculed or criticized by others. They also worry that they will stain their pants or toilets, or that they will smell bad. These psychological disorders can cause children to feel feelings of rejection or avoidance.
7. Physiological discomfort
When some children go to the toilet in kindergarten, they will have symptoms of physical discomfort such as incomplete urination, painful urination, and constipation. These symptoms may be caused by holding urine, holding stool, eating irregularly, dehydration, etc. These physical discomforts make the child feel painful or uncomfortable, and also affect their willingness and ability to go to the toilet normally.
Second, the solution
For the above reasons, I recommend that parents and teachers take the following measures to help children solve the problem of toileting in kindergarten:
1. Enhance communication
Parents and teachers should keep abreast of the situation of their children's toilets in kindergarten and solve problems in time. Parents should talk to their children more about their feelings about going to the toilet in kindergarten and give them understanding and support. Teachers should keep in touch with parents, give feedback on their children's performance in the toilet in kindergarten, and provide some guidance and suggestions. Parents and teachers should be consistent and work together to create a comfortable, safe and hygienic toilet environment for children.
2. Increase encouragement
Parents and teachers should give children more encouragement and affirmation to make children feel confident and happy. Parents should praise their children's progress in the toilet in kindergarten and give them appropriate incentives. Teachers should give children care and help when they go to the toilet, and motivate them with words of praise or small red flowers. Parents and teachers should avoid criticizing or punishing children, especially if they are peeing their pants or soiling the toilet, and patiently teach and comfort them.
3. Increase booting
Parents and teachers should give their children some correct toilet knowledge and skills so that children can learn to use the toilet by themselves. Parents should teach their children how to take off their pants, wipe their buttocks, flush, etc. at home to familiarize their children with these movements.
Teachers should teach children how to line up, how to use different toilet facilities, how to maintain toilet hygiene, etc. in kindergarten to adapt children to these rules. Parents and teachers can also teach children some benefits and precautions of toileting through storytelling, reading picture books, playing games, etc., so that children can develop good toilet habits.
The problem of toileting in kindergarten is a common problem that requires the joint attention and solution of parents and teachers. As long as you take the right approach, communicate more, encourage more, and guide more, I believe that every child can go to the toilet happily in kindergarten.
In short, the problem of toilet in kindergarten is a problem worthy of attention by parents and teachers, which not only affects the child's physical health, but also exposes the child's psychological problems. Parents and teachers should work together to let children face their fears, face up to the kindergarten, truly adapt and integrate into the kindergarten again, feel at home like home, and dare to express themselves with teachers.