When it comes to Ye Yiqian's name, many netizens may not be familiar with it.
After all, since she became a small hit in "Super Girl" in 2005, she has rarely appeared in the public eye with her excellent professional strength.
If it weren't for her unmarried pregnancy, forcibly marrying the "diving prince" Tian Liang amid the opposition of her in-laws, and giving birth to a beloved daughter Sendi (Tian Yuorange), her life would have a lot to talk about for entertainment.
It is estimated that many netizens will not remember that in the entertainment industry, there is also a person named Ye Yiqian.
But this is such a thing, almost transparent existence in the entertainment industry, but in recent times, it has frequently appeared on hot searches.
Ye Yiqian last appeared on the hot search list because of a birthday letter she wrote to her daughter Sen Di, in which she lent Sen Di the name of celebrating her birthday and responded to the criticism of her son preference on the Internet.
At first glance, she is sending blessings to Sen Di, a fine product, but she is defending herself, no wonder many netizens do not buy it, and they have accused her of being a performative personality.
So, how can an ordinary birthday letter put a mother on the cusp and attract so many bad comments?
All this has to start with Ye Yiqian's various attitudes towards Sendi in the past program.
1. "Everyone is a woman, what are you playing carefully"
When Sendi was 5 years old, she participated in the parent-child variety show "Where Did Dad Go", and because of her wonderful performance in the show, she won the love of many netizens.
With the good audience popularity of Sendi, his father Tian Liang successfully entered the entertainment industry, and Ye Yiqian, who was a full-time mother at home before, also received many invitations to parenting shows.
It can be said that this family can continue to be concerned by netizens because of Sendi.
I thought that Sendi, who changed the fate of the family, would definitely be taken care of by his parents. However, judging from Ye Yiqian's words and deeds in the show, Sendi is likely to live in a patriarchal environment.
The most obvious example is that after the birth of her son Tian Chenyu, Ye Yiqian felt that it was very nice to call her son's name in reverse, so she changed her daughter's original name Tian Xinyi to today's Tian Yucheng.
Although she specially explained in the show that Sen Di's original name "Tian Xinyi" was chosen by her brains, and she also specifically thought of the homophonic "Cindy" as the English name.
But with the younger brother's name, the practice of changing the name of the sister still makes people feel unacceptable.
If it was just the matter of changing the name, netizens would not be so disgusted with Ye Yiqian.
The reason why she is considered "patriarchal" by many netizens is, in the final analysis, because she shows a lot of "hostility" towards Sendi in the show.
For example, every time she heard her son say that her sister was disobedient, no matter what she was doing, she would rush out as soon as possible and criticize Sendi indiscriminately.
He also said in public that Mori is kind to the whole world, but full of hatred for his younger brother.
Even made up for the brain, if she and Tian Liang were not there, Sen Di would rush up and beat her son.
Obviously nothing happened, but she made such a malicious guess about her own daughter, who would not be upset for Sen Di when she listened?
What is even more unacceptable is that she once said with disdain on the show that when she looks at her daughter, she will feel: Everyone is a woman, I know what kind of trick you are playing.
He also attributed Tian Liang's love for Sendi to opposite-sex attraction and same-sex repulsion.
As soon as this remark came out, netizens said that competing with their biological daughters for pets and engaging in "female competition", such a mother is too terrible.
Such words and deeds pushed Ye Yiqian into the vortex of "patriarchal" public opinion, and also made many nets begin to worry about Sendi's physical and mental health.
So, is the real-life Sendi really as unbearable as my mother said?
2. "I cried, why did my mother scold me"
Obviously, judging from Sen Di's performance in front of the camera, Ye Yiqian's evaluation of her daughter does not seem to be fair.
If nothing else, just from her actions of skillfully changing diapers and feeding milk powder to her brother in "Where Is Daddy", you will find that she shows love for her brother, not hostility.
You know, at that time, she was only 5 years old, and she was still a child who needed to be taken care of, but she had already begun to habitually take care of her younger brother.
In addition to the brief performance in the show, in the process of growing up after that, Mori Disc, who is only three years older than his younger brother, has always played the role of a little adult.
This is clearly visible in the daily life that Tian Liang shares on social platforms.
For example, if his younger brother is sick, Sen Di will change his way to coax him to take medicine;
After class, Sen Di will replace the role of his father and mother and help his younger brother with homework;
When going out to exercise, Sen Disc will also carefully help his younger brother put on protective gear, and then take care of himself;
Even on rainy days when she goes out to play, she will hold the only umbrella she has on her brother's head...
It seems that only his father Tian Liang saw all this that Sendi paid to his younger brother.
In the eyes of her mother Ye Yiqian, she is still a little girl full of jealousy,
And the relatives of the older generation, such as grandparents, grandparents, and grandparents, will also naturally spoil their younger brothers.
Tian Liang once gave an example in the show: his younger brother couldn't say anything about Sen Di, so he used fake throws to play Lai, and as a result, everyone ran out to accuse Sen Di.
Such unfair treatment made Mori realize at a young age that the relatives in the family seemed to prefer his younger brother.
Although Tian Liang strongly shows in his autobiography "Stinky Dad" that adults who prefer their younger brothers are "outsiders", he and Ye Yiqian have always been a bowl of water for the two children.
But discerning people can still glimpse Ye Yiqian's "son preference" from the many performances of their big sons in the show.
For example, the host asked Sen Di, is Dad murderous at home?
The fairy Mori Disc directly replied: Dad is not fierce, mother is fierce.
And Tian Liang asked Sen Di in the show, what if Angela cries?
Without thinking, Mori replied, "I think I'll scold her."
Because when she was crying at home, her mother's response was to scold her.
On the other hand, when his younger brother Tian Chenyu cried, Ye Yiqian's response was not to scold him, but to hold him in his arms with a pitying face, and said with great patience: Cry, cry, cry if you want to.
If this is not discrimination, then there may really be no "son preference" in this world.
It is no wonder that some netizens said that Ye Yiqian was scolded for "preferring sons over women", which is not a loss at all.
3. "I think my father loves my sister more"
Although you are the "second generation of stars" and "child stars", Sendi, who grew up in a suspected "son-preference" environment, has still been greatly affected psychologically.
This is also why, at a young age, she is always prone to crying, so she also has the title of "the most crying little loli", because her heart is extremely insecure.
In addition to the psychological damage, because of Ye Yiqian's negligence, Sen Di's body also fell into old injuries early.
When Sen Di was young, she accidentally injured her wrist, which made her cry all the time, but sadly, her crying did not attract her mother's attention.
On the contrary, because of the constant crying, Ye Yiqian also felt that Sendi was very squeamish, and a little hurt to cry like this.
Seeing that his mother was wrong, the young Sen Di had to endure it, and let the bone injury on his wrist heal himself without treatment.
It was not until Sen Di grew up and started physical exercise and broke his wrist again, and the doctor reminded him that it was an old injury, that Ye Yiqian realized that her daughter's previous crying was not squeamish, but really painful.
But it was too late, and Sendi, who was interested in developing his sports career, had not yet officially participated, and there was a problem with his wrist.
If it is Ye Yiqian's unconscious negligence that caused Sen Di's wrist to fall from the root of the disease, then it is really Ye Yiqian's mistake to think that the thin Sen Disc needs to lose weight.
Ye Yiqian once said unceremoniously in front of the media that Sendi, who is 163cm tall, is a little fat, and needs to lose more than 90 pounds of weight.
Such a harsh requirement makes many netizens unable to understand, why should a mother let her developing daughter lose her already thin weight again and again?
What's more, Sen Di, who intends to engage in sports, needs not a thin body, but strong muscles.
Seeing that Sendi, who is loved by everyone, has suffered so many grievances at home, many netizens naturally can't look past it, and have criticized Ye Yiqian's "patriarchal" behavior on the Internet.
Fortunately, compared with Ye Yiqian's unconscious behavior, Tian Liang has long been aware of the unfair treatment Sendi endured in the family, so in daily life, he will intentionally love Sendi.
But this led to another family problem: the younger brother felt that his father loved his sister more than himself.
In this way, in order to reverse the family atmosphere of "son preference", Tian Liang fell into the strange circle of "preference for women over men".
4. Ending: Boys and girls are treasures, and I hope that every child can be treated gently and equally by their parents
From the star family formed by Tian Liang and Ye Yiqian, we can get a glimpse of the common problem in the second-child family: some parents cannot treat their children fairly.
Although Ye Yiqian has said more than once on the show that in the eyes of outsiders, she has done a fair job, but judging from her series of words and deeds, as well as Sendi's various performances.
This bowl of water in their house is indeed not even enough.
Of course, Tomato Jun did not mean to accuse Ye Yiqian of motherhood, as she wrote in her birthday letter to Sen Di, it is wrong to "deny a mother with one sentence".
But after seeing Ye Yiqian's many behaviors, Tomato Jun still wanted to say that if she didn't want to be misunderstood and denied by outsiders, she and Tian Liang had to learn to treat their daughters and sons fairly.
At this point, they can fully learn from Sha Yihuke and Deng Chaosun Li, who also have a second child.
In these two star couples, children are male and female, love is not big or small, and there will be no scheming and hostility between parents and children.
They aim to provide children with much more than a rich material life, but also a rich and equal emotional world.
For example, Hu Ke has emphasized more than once that the most difficult thing in a two-child family is a bowl of water.
Therefore, after realizing that her brother's birth affected her brother's family status, she paid special attention to the eldest.
Sure enough, the eldest who received full attention from his parents will take the initiative to help his parents take the responsibility of taking care of his younger brother, and the two brothers also have deep emotions under the education of their parents.
Sun Li, who gave birth to a second child, is the same, she never ignored the eldest because of the arrival of her sister, but helped her brother immerse herself in the joy of having a sister with her heart.
To this end, she asked her brother to name her sister, eat her sister's snacks, and let her brother gain a sense of achievement in the process of educating her sister...
All this, instead of making the eldest reject the appearance of the second eldest eldest and the second eldest appear, it makes the whole family warmer.
From the practices of these two star couples, we can clearly feel the injustice that Sendi and his younger brother encountered in their original families.
I hope that Ye Yiqian and Tian Liang can reverse their attitude towards the two children as soon as possible, and don't wait for the day when the bitter fruit is brewed and then regret it.
Because every child, male or female, is a child who needs to be loved, and only by being treated gently and equally by their parents can they have a good physical and mental development.
(Movie Rotten Tomatoes Editorial Office: Zihan)