Before reading this article, please click "Follow" to facilitate your discussion and sharing. This article is only published in today's headlines, and it is not allowed to be carried on any platform, and the handling must be investigated
Lin Xi said entertainment
Editor |
Preamble:
Family affection is the purest love in the world, it does not distinguish between biological and blood, let alone gender and age.
But why do people always label this love as heavy and light?
But there is a clear distinction between children who are also flesh and blood?
It is normal for people to have children, so why divide the love of parents into different men and women, young and old?
Isn't this most precious friendship a desecration?
Parent-child conflicts are so common, and after the two-child policy was opened, it led it to a new climax.
Sisters, brothers, brothers, and brothers, they are like two seedlings, all eager to drink the nourishing water given by their parents.
But when this bowl of water is no longer spread flat and straight, but tilted to one side, the home becomes an unfair soil that is difficult to evenly fatten.
A good sister has become a "wild girl"
When the representative parents covet the "only darling" for a while, the eldest daughter becomes the one who suffers.
Mei Ting is a typical example.
It is said that when a mother is pregnant with a second child, the most important thing to be careful and coaxed is not the fetus in the womb, but the eldest son and eldest daughter in the family.
However, Mei Ting threw all her doting heart on her youngest son in her womb, which directly led to the deterioration of her relationship with her eldest daughter.
Mei Ting originally wanted to use the method of "giving a younger brother to open her eyes" to let her quickly accept the existence of a second child.
But it is clear that the measures she has taken are far more than just prevention.
The crew still remembers that in the first month after the birth of their youngest son, they looked like they wanted to cry without tears.
Whenever her younger brother cried, Mei Ting would leave her husband aside and put all her thoughts on comforting her younger brother.
Sometimes the younger brother just made a fuss, and was glared at innocently; Sometimes no matter how obedient you are, you can't compare to a cry from your brother.
The younger brother, the "little prince" who is facing the sky, quickly became a "wild girl" in the side room.
In a few months, everyone in the crew can see that they have gradually developed a mustard for their younger brother in their hearts.
Probably feeling left out all the time, she learned to express her displeasure with some unkind behavior.
Either pushing the younger brother or beating the grandfather, at first it was just a trick of some children, but then gradually changed the taste.
It's just that Mei Ting and her family's attitude of no one around them has not been able to correct the quick deviation, but has strengthened the foundation of this resentment.
At that time, someone reminded Mei Ting not to let her youngest son snatch away the favor that should have belonged to Kuaikuai.
Mei Ting only felt ridiculous when she heard it, isn't this the eternal legacy of some people's "patriarchy"?
So until now, she was quickly deprived like a human stick, and Mei Ting still went her own way.
Whenever her brother was wronged, she always had her hands on her hand to protect the calf.
And when he was quickly left aside by his parents, even if he cried until the pear blossoms brought rain, he had to admit it.
What a so-called "understanding" of jealousy between children!
A good son was "buttoned up a big green hat"
Sometimes, it is the younger brother who is born to be favored, so that the elder brother's heart is often surrounded by the doubt of "not his own son".
In "Where Are You Going, Dad", Joe has been dominated by his younger brother and sister countless times.
What the audience in front of the TV saw was the scene of the uncle holding his sister over and over again, and his parents giving all the love to his sister.
And behind the scenes, this distinction is even more pervasive.
My sister eats the sweetest sugar, and Joe can only nibble on plastic candy.
My sister said she was thirsty, and my grandmother immediately poured a big cup; Joe had to endure hunger and thirst, for fear that he would be treated coldly if he said a word.
Once, Joe passed by a candy stand and saw that his sister wanted a candy ball.
At a young age, he suddenly stepped forward and begged: "Sister, can you give this sugar ball to my sister?"
I don't have anything, but as long as my sister says thank you, you can give me the candy balls, okay?"
Joe's sincere eyes brought tears to the eyes of countless audiences.
But my sister was unmoved, and just put on a stinky face and grabbed the candy ball and gnawed it, for fear that Joe would also take a bite.
Joe held a pebble and watched his sister's candy ball get smaller and smaller until it gradually disappeared into his mouth, and finally cried out.
The uncles at the scene were stunned, they never thought that the love between parents and children would be so "high and low".
Whenever they saw Joe's pitiful appearance, they would look at Cao Ge in the distance, but Cao Ge had no intention of coming to the rescue.
It turns out that this is not a momentary thing, but a deep-rooted concept of one's own parents.
When Cao Ge just gave birth to his son, his parents kept greeting him diligently, praising him for his "vividness"; And when the daughter was born, this kind of hospitality directly increased by a few levels.
Grandma once said: "My child Age is old, and I have finally completed my life."
With a boy, I can close my eyes. "
"Oh?" Cao Ge was a little awkward, and asked tentatively, "What about my daughter?"
Grandma's answer was calm and confident: "My daughter has little pressure, as long as she can't get married." "
So Cao Ge pulled the child up with such an attitude.
The younger brother is always held in the palm of his hand to pamper him, while the older brother Joe is often left out in the cold.
In the end, it not only created his brother's arrogant temperament, but also made Joe more and more introverted and reticent, always humble and trembling in front of his parents.
The second child grew up happily in a warm atmosphere
The good news is that not all parents are so patriarchal.
Some treat them with sincerity and give them meticulous care.
Sun Li's family is one of them.
When Deng Chao and Sun Li planned to have a second child, the first thing they did was to explain it clearly to their son, so as not to make him repulsive.
After learning that she would have a younger sister, Sun Li taught her how to be a good brother and how to take care of her sister whenever she was free.
And Xiaohua is still waiting for the name she will choose.
After my sister was born, I always followed my mother closely, learning to take care of my sister while observing my mother's operations with concern.
The scene was warm and moving, and it looked like a happy family of three.
On the other hand, Sun Li and Deng Chao never showed any favoritism in front of the children.
Is my sister better than my brother or more sensible than my brother?
This kind of trick is absolutely not allowed to appear in their family, let alone treat the young and the old differently.
So in such an environment, wait and have a close relationship with Xiaohua.
and so on, taking care of her sister, and many of her sister's questions were answered with the help of her brother.
And my sister is young but also very well-behaved, and she never causes trouble to her parents.
This kind of harmony from the inside out soon attracted the attention of parents.
Then they were surprised to find that Xiaohua seemed to have an innate talent for language.
Maybe it's the language edification of my brother that makes my sister's language develop so quickly.
The brothers of Hu Ke's family also have an excellent relationship.
Sometimes the younger brother would suddenly walk up to the elder brother and stretch out his little hand to touch the elder brother's cheek, until the elder brother was embarrassed to turn away before refusing to stop.
Do everything to hold each other's hands, and never forget to carry a small schoolbag with their families in tow when they go out.
This small scene of "no one is missing" attracts Hu Ke to steal fun every time it is staged.
Some viewers asked her in surprise backstage, how did she achieve such a good relationship with the children?
It turns out that this is the best footnote to Hu Kejia's six-character educational concept of "freedom, experience, and equality".
Children are taught from an early age that all men are created equal and that love should not be categorized.
If you put that person in your heart, you have to treat them equally.
This is a very philosophical statement, and it also allows the two brothers to find the meaning of life in each other.
Epilogue:
There is a good saying in the poem: "The wife is harmonious, the brother is friendly, and the family is the foundation." "
A harmonious relationship is the foundation of a happy family.
And the first important thing in cultivating harmony is the magnanimous heart of parents.
Children do not have gender from an early age, just waiting for their parents to care and teach.
Why should parents give them the burden of patriarchal overnight baggage?
Let them thrive like a blank sheet of paper under the advice of their parents.
Especially in a two-child family, parents should teach their children the principles of mutual help and love, tolerance and friendliness.
A pair of children is a pair of pearls given by God, and they are released together, how can they be left behind?
It has been said that love is always given rather than taking.
Perhaps parents are too eager to ask for their children's love that they will inadvertently hurt this glimmer of family happiness.
Therefore, you might as well put down the power in your hands for a while, change the position to experience the mood of the children, and maybe you will find that you have always been a dispossessor.