Where there are people, there is fighting, where there is fighting, there is right and wrong, and where there is right and wrong, there are rivers and lakes.
Fights between people are inevitable. If you don't fight with others, others have to hold on to you, and they always fight with you, so what can you do?
For those who hurt us, we should not blindly back down, but should fight back in time. You must know that our forbearance will only make others gain an inch and kick their noses in the face, which is not a good thing.
The most clever way to deal with a person is to give him these five things directly.
1. The more proud and complacent others are, the more we must "tout".
There is a noun, to kill. Meaning, excessive praise or flattery can lead to complacency, stagnation and regression, and even depravity and failure.
To put it bluntly, if a person becomes more and more proud, his heart will float up directly, then he will most likely choose the wrong choice and go astray, and naturally there will be no good results.
This is the truth that "if God wants people to perish, he must first make them mad." To kill is to hold a person high and make him more and more crazy. Crazy people will be unlucky in the near future.
Actually, it's very understandable. He's on the edge of a cliff, standing taller than the average person, and if you go over and push him, he'll fall into the abyss. How high you stood before, how painful you fall now, then you will naturally get revenge.
We must not be angry with our proud and complacent enemies, but we should rejoice, because they are only far from defeat, and there is only the word "killing".
2. The more others need something, the more we have to "play Tai Chi".
Professor Zeng Shiqiang said that to be a man, you must know how to "push and procrastinate". Push, drag, pull, then who is your opponent?
The so-called "push and drag" is what we often call "procrastination". Especially to deal with some villains who don't like the eye, "procrastination" will be more effective.
This man has offended you before, and you have ignored him and resorted to procrastination. Later, he needs you to do something, you do all kinds of "tai chi", then it is him who is unlucky, not you.
Some people will say that "tai chi" is not a sleek and irresponsible behavior? In fact, tai chi has nothing to do with being tactful and responsible, but only about our attitude towards certain people.
Try not to worry about what you shouldn't do. Don't take care of those who shouldn't be taken to heart. In this way, all these people and things will be kicked away like a ball, and everything will naturally be fine.
3. In the middle, try to know how to "transfer contradictions".
In "Heaven and Dragon Slayer", famous and decent families gathered in Wudang Mountain to ask the teacher for guilt and find out the whereabouts of the dragon slayer. In order to atone for his sins, the fifth disciple Zhang Cuishan (Zhang Wuji's father) committed suicide.
In the face of a famous and decent family, Zhang Wuji's mother Yin Susu took a way and whispered to the master of Shaolin Temple, but in fact she didn't say anything. Afterwards, Yin Susu said that he had already told the master the whereabouts of the dragon slaying knife.
People from other sects were curious, so they asked the master of Shaolin Temple what the demon girl said, and the master bluntly said that she didn't say anything. In this way, these famous and decent families are "infighting".
If you doubt him, he will doubt you, and the contradiction will be transferred. The reality is the same, you are in the whirlpool, someone wants to target you, then you transfer the contradiction, and others will turn the spearhead.
All the love, hatred, and hatred in this world, in the final analysis, are a matter of contradictions. Whoever is in the whirlpool of contradictions can only be unlucky. What people fight with each other is the ability to transfer contradictions.
4. "pretend to be stupid" first, and then surprise and attack it unprepared.
Due to the incident of the "edict of clothes", Liu Bei was monitored by Cao Cao. In order to test Liu Bei, Cao Cao also came to a "Green Plum Cooking Wine on Heroes".
Before Liu Bei went to the meeting, he made himself dirty, giving Cao Cao an image of a "farmer in the field" and dispelling Cao Cao's vigilance. Looking at Liu Bei, Cao Cao asked, Xuande thinks, who in the world can be regarded as a hero?
Liu Bei mentioned the names of various warlords, but did not mention his own and Cao Cao's names. When Cao Cao said "The heroes of the world, only the king and the ear", thunder fell from the sky, and Liu Bei pretended to be frightened by the thunder, and even lost his chopsticks.
It was this outfit that made Cao Cao have no worries about Liu Bei. After some operations, Liu Bei led his troops to escape from Cao Ying, sneaked into the sea, and was no longer unfettered.
The purpose of pretending to be stupid is to dispel the defenses of others and protect yourself first. After the fact, find the right opportunity to fight back. Take a little step back first, just to take two steps better.
5. Only by knowing how to "divide profits" can you have the opportunity to grasp the weaknesses of others.
The struggle between people is for these two words, interests. You need this interest, and he needs this interest, so you and him will have a conflict of interest.
Everyone has an attitude towards interests, that is, they want to "monopolize it". The problem is that not everyone has access to the benefits. The so-called "eating alone is difficult to fat" is this truth.
To be a man, we must learn to divide profits. If there is any benefit, you must take a little for yourself and give a little to others. It's like a big boss, why do they have to send a little bit to some people when they make money?
Whether it's to please others and make a good impression on others, or to grab the other person's handle. The other party's interests are in your hands, don't you have the upper hand?
Interests are a double-edged sword. If you use it well, it hurts others, and if you don't use it well, you hurt yourself.