I don't know if I don't look, but I was shocked when I saw it, Ye Yiqian has been scolded for "patriarchal" for a while.
Sven was quite surprised, because I had the impression that Tian Liang and Ye Yiqian's family mainly had a full son and daughter, happy and happy, and it didn't look like a family that would do such a thing as "son preference".
The eldest daughter Sen Disc was pleasant, and was jokingly called "the woman like the wind" by the audience on "Where Did Daddy Go". In recent years, the big girl has not grown crooked, not only is she as sweet and cheerful as when she was a child, but her sports and literary talents are also very high, and she is regarded as the second generation of stars with a very good audience.
The family is happy every day, Sen Disc is well-behaved and excellent, and his popularity is still very high, and he does not look like a child who has been mistreated by a "patriarchal" family. So why did netizens say that Ye Yiqian is patriarchal?
Let's first look at a letter she recently wrote to her daughter, which was on Sendi's birthday on April 15, and Ye Yiqian's small essay posted in the circle of friends has now been moved to Weibo by the marketing number. The content is a bit long, Sven to help you get to the point.
1. The mother and daughter discussed the recent controversy about them on the Internet, Ye Yiqian was saddened that Sen Di was pulled into the unwarranted public opinion, and Sen Di also hugged and comforted her mother, "I know that my mother is not what they say."
2. Many netizens will easily deny a mother because of a sentence or a thing, but they simply do not understand the hardships of childbirth and raising a baby, and only children can judge whether their mother is a good mother.
3. Teach Sen Disc without trying to get everyone's approval and praise, and don't have to feel sorry for the misunderstanding of others. Mom and dad and brother will always love her, and the family is not afraid of anything together.
We don't know what Sendi's mood is when he sees this letter, but we can only say that most netizens don't buy it, and feel that Ye Yiqian's small essay is not so much written to Sendi, who has a birthday, but to netizens who recently scolded her, more like holding grievances for herself than birthday wishes for her daughter, "To my dear netizens who raise the bar."
"Send her privately to Sendi, post moments of friends and even Weibo marketing."
"Is it a performative personality or in PUA."
"From beginning to end, I am saying that I am not wrong, and netizens are scolding me for misunderstanding me!"
Ye Yiqian also sent a Weibo to celebrate her daughter's birthday on the same day, but the comment area was also a similar voice condemning her, and the few netizens who wished Sendi a happy birthday did not forget to add a sentence "Mother says so girl, I hope she grows up and has no gap with you."
So what did Ye Yiqian do, so that netizens would so firmly think that she prefers sons to women? Sven sorted out her concentrated scolding remarks for everyone to see, I will not draw conclusions first, you can judge for yourself, in your opinion, Ye Yiqian is not considered patriarchal.
The more familiar "Sendi" is pronounced the same as the English name Cindy, and the child's big name is Tian Yucheng, but this name is actually changed. Sendi's original name was Tian Xinyi, and this name was thought up by Ye Yiqian during pregnancy, but because when she took her daughter to the market, she accidentally found that "Xinyi" was too popular and easy to collide with others, Ye Yiqian wanted to change her daughter's name.
At that time, her youngest son Liangzi had already been born, and her son was called Tian Chenyu, and Ye Yiqian felt that this name was quite nice in turn, so she changed her daughter's name to Tian Yucheng.
This makes many viewers feel wrong, after all, they feel that the original name of Sendi is too popular to change the name or something, everyone can understand, but why not come up with a new name, but around the younger brother?
And everyone has not seen similar names for children in the family, but they are usually typeset in the family, and the younger one follows the big one. Like Ye Yiqian, changing her sister's name to match her brother's same style is still relatively rare in everyone's impression.
In addition to the name change storm, Tian Liang and Ye Yiqian and their husband and wife used to show affection on the show and share the details of parenting scriptures were also picked up by netizens for various "evidences", the most incomprehensible of which is that Ye Yiqian has dissed Sendi many times in front of many people, clearly stating that she does not like her brother.
Tian Liang said that when the two children cried, he would coax his daughter first, because Sen Di was crying very loudly, and he had to coax her before he could say things, on the contrary, he was not so nervous about his son, because he felt that his son sometimes acted and may also make his parents compromise by crying.
In the education of his son, Tian Liang believes that crying cannot solve the problem, and you can say something. But Ye Yiqian said that his son is not acting, just because he also has his own dignity, and he can't say it with bitterness.
Because Tian Liangming has an attitude of pampering her daughter, Ye Yiqian came to the conclusion that "same-sex repulsion and opposite-sex attraction", she said that in her eyes, her daughter will feel, "Everyone is a woman, I know what kind of tricks you are playing", which means that her daughter's little tricks only work for her father.
This remark implies that Sendi often uses "women's careful machine" to compete with his father for favor, coupled with key information such as "same-sex repulsion" and "I don't eat this set", which has made many netizens see the taste of female competition. Not to mention how outrageous it is for the mother to engage in female competition with her daughter, at least it sounds very uncomfortable.
We don't know if Ye Yiqian was shaky when she said this, I can only think about it from another perspective, if I hear my mother say this about me as a daughter, I will probably be shocked and sad.
Some netizens pointed out that Ye Yiqian, as a mother, saying such things may hurt Sendi's self-esteem. "How can a mother say this about her daughter, and all this may be your personal speculation."
Not to mention, Ye Yiqian often has some "personal speculation" speeches on the show, mainly because she feels that her daughters do not like her son. In her eyes, this child is friendly and kind to the whole world, but only to her brother, she can even show "I hate you to death" from her eyes.
Not only that, Ye Yiqian also believes that in Sendi's opinion, his younger brother is the most scheming person in the world.
Probably because when she and Tian Liang Xunsen are not studying well, the younger brother will come over with an award certificate to show off, and use a "reading master" to give her sister a wave of magic mending knives?
Ye Yiqian described Sen Dish as fried at that time, but because his parents were in front of him, he couldn't have a seizure. She felt that if she and Tian Liang were not at the scene, Sen Di would beat her brother violently and tear up his award.
Ye Yiqian may want to share the funny daily life of the siblings, or she feels that it is nothing, but in the context of netizens who do not know the truth, this will make people feel that Sen Disc is careful, does not like his brother, bullies his brother in private, and is careful to compete for favors and will be recognized by his mother.
But in the memories of netizens, Sen Disc will be familiar with changing her brother's diapers and making milk powder on the show at the age of 5, and it can be seen that she has not helped her parents take care of her younger brother in her life.
Sen Di likes sports, and if she brings her brother to play together, she will personally help his brother wear protective gear. As an older sister, she also often tutors her younger brother with homework by playing games.
Tian Liang also shared on Weibo that the siblings had a cold together, and the younger brother did not like to drink medicine, or her sister tried to coax her to drink.
Only...... Why is Sendi still this Sendi, but in the eyes of the audience and her father, she is a good sister who cares for her younger brother, but in the eyes of her mother Ye Yiqian, she has become "hated her brother" and "feels that her brother is the most scheming in the world"?
There are also some auxiliary proofs to prove that Ye Yiqian is more partial to her younger brother, such as whenever the siblings clash, Ye Yiqian will rush out to accuse her sister no matter what she is doing on her hands and does not know what conflict has happened between them.
When the two children in the family inevitably cry, we said earlier that the siblings cried, and the father Tian Liang coped differently, in fact, Ye Yiqian's attitude was different. If his younger brother cried, Ye Yiqian would take him into his arms and coax him, show infinite patience and gentleness, and let him "cry if you want to".
But if Sen Di cried, Ye Yiqian would scold her...
Just looking at the appearance of Tian Liang and Ye Yiqian, netizens previously thought that they would probably be a combination of "loving mother and strict father". But Sen Disc himself said that his father is not actually fierce at home, and it is his mother who is really fierce.
Ye Yiqian herself also knows that the child thinks she is very fierce, and Sendi feels that "my mother doesn't love me, does my mother love my brother more." Speaking of this, she also emphasized that Sen Di felt that her brother was particularly bad, and always played all kinds of tricks to cause her to be scolded by her mother.
The above is Ye Yiqian's recent remarks repeatedly disliked by netizens, as early as last month when this matter first began to ferment, she came out to respond, while apologizing for her inappropriate remarks, but also emphasized that she absolutely did not prefer sons. Unfortunately, judging from the comments under her birthday celebration essay for Sendi two days ago, most netizens did not buy it.
Sven thinks that Ye Yiqian will not have multiple sons and daughters, at least she and Tian Liang will never treat Sendi materially, and Sendi's cheerfulness and excellence now can also prove from the side that the couple is indeed educating and cultivating their daughter.
But the fact that there is no loss to Sen Di is not contradictory to Sen Di himself being able to feel the preference of his parents for his younger brother. Tian Liang himself said that when he was a child, Sen Di thought that "grandparents, and aunts all love my younger brother, and only my parents love me", and she often felt aggrieved for this.
Tian Liang can also see the difference between the elders in the family and the two children, "the younger brother is young, and he is a boy, and the grandmothers will inevitably treat them differently", they think that it is natural for the older sister to take care of the younger brother, but in fact, Sen Di himself is also a child, and he also needs the care and love from the elders.
As for Ye Yiqian complaining that Sendi always felt that his younger brother was scheming, Tian Liang really felt that his son was scheming. Because he had seen his brother fake fall and cry, and after the old people saw it, their first reaction was "Sen Disc, how did you push your brother to the ground".
If you have to say that you prefer sons to women, this couple may not be, but more obviously the elderly in the family. Of course, Sven knows that this is wrong, but in the environment of our previous generation, the old people generally value boys more, and the concept that the sister should let the younger brother be changed may be difficult to change for a while.
In Sven's view, the most wrong point of Tian Liang's family towards children may not be the so-called son preference, but the parents' different attitudes towards the two children. Mother Ye Yiqian is more inclined to her son, and father Tian Liang is obviously more fond of his daughter.
In Ye Yiqian's opinion, it is her daughter Sendi who will play tricks and compete for favors, she became vexatious after the birth of her son, she didn't have to feed her before eating, and now she has to feed when she sees adults feeding her younger brother, and she also has to drink when she sees her brother drink milk.
And Tian Liang, I don't know if it's because he has seen his son's scheming side, or he knows that the elders in the family prefer his son, he himself shows more of a "daughter slave" side, in the family status ranking in his heart, he himself ranks second from the bottom, and his son ranks first from the bottom.
When sharing short videos in daily life, he is even better at "stepping on children and holding girls", he wants to eat ice cream, so he asks his son to go out to buy milk tea and bring him one by the way. When his daughter wanted to eat ice cream, he not only quickly went out to buy it himself, but also arranged one for each flavor.
This situation led to his son also discovering that Tian Liang was partial to his sister, and Tian Liang occasionally reflected on whether he was a little too much for his son.
The final result is that Ye Yiqian thinks that the couple has achieved the extreme, and outsiders praise them for "a bowl of water is flat", but her sister Sendi feels that her mother loves her brother more, and she is often fierce to herself, and her younger brother feels that her father loves her sister more, but she doesn't care about him, plus Ye Yiqian, who was scolded by netizens, rounded up and the whole family was wronged.
Let's ask, if you can really achieve a bowl of water and level, adults will not say, how can even the children themselves be aggrieved on both sides?
Is it possible that this bowl of water is not flat at all? It's not a matter of preferring sons over women, nor ignoring the big ones when they have the small, but they obviously love the two children very much, but they don't let the children feel equal love?
Regardless of gender, how to balance the relationship between two children and between children and parents is a topic in families who have given birth to a second child. Objectively speaking, of course, newborns need more careful care from their parents, but the boss who is suddenly separated and pampered does need more guidance from parents in spirit and mentality.
Like Tian Liang's family, the elders are originally partial to the younger brother, but the younger brother notices that the father is better for the elder sister, and the child will of course think of various ways to "compete for favor", which will also cause the dissatisfaction of the sister. At this time, Ye Yiqian also had to complain about Sendi on the show, which was undoubtedly worse for the already unbalanced family relationship.
Just like Ye Yiqian herself said, whether she is a good mother or not, only her own children have the final say. As an outsider, Sven is unwilling and unqualified to casually accuse her of not being a good mother, preferring sons, or even competing with her daughter.
I just want to say that if based on this logic, even the children themselves feel that their parents are biased, then when they are parents, should they really reflect on it?