On October 13, the fourth season of the talk show conference came to an end, and the whole episode gave me two feelings:
First, Zhou Qimo is the ceiling, and this statement is not false;
Any life scene he has dismantled will become a point that other actors can no longer touch, because it cannot be so good;
Second, Li Shi has been delivering books, which is a bit interesting.
Just think, any industry internal work manual, their own employees are not necessarily interested, let alone people in the outside industry?
But it can become a bestseller, and it must have something to do.
Teacher Wan Weigang, the author of "Never Expected", said: People who really do great things and achieve impossible achievements rely on internal drive. There are several aspects of intrinsic drive, the first being curiosity.
Thankfully, I'm curious.
After the second brush of the "Li Birthday Talk Show Work Manual", it really solved one of my problems: Why do I have to say it many times before you can understand what I mean?
In the face of this problem, what else can we do except complain that the other party does not listen well?
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First of all, I will tell you the internal story of Li Shi and the big coffee:
Li Shi and screenwriter Ghost Gu Da went to meet a very, very difficult guest to cooperate with.
They originally brought a good manuscript, but the guests were not satisfied, unwilling to accept, repeatedly protested, so they grinded for several hours.
Finally, the guests did not change much content on the stage, and the effect was very good.
This is the annoyance we often encounter in life: to say hundreds of words for one thing!
It seems that if I don't explain it a million times, the other party just doesn't understand my heart!
So we are often so tired that we don't want to talk anymore!
After the show was done, Ghost Guda asked Li Tian: Brother Li, you are not easy, do you say that people will be so stupid after becoming successful people?
Li Shi replied: It doesn't matter, just do the work.
Is it really not important?
If in the adult world, there is a distinction between professional and unprofessional, professional people will certainly not be tired!
How do you evaluate professionalism or not?
Introduce an indicator: the cost performance of statements.
To achieve the same purpose, some people say a basket of words, while some people can do it in three words and two words, which is obviously a low and a high cost performance!
The lower the cost performance, the more tired the heart, the more I don't want to talk!
A few conversations between Andy, a new member of the club, and the domineering female editor-in-chief in the movie "The Queen Who Wears Prada" I think are quite interesting.
What I'm saying is not exactly what they said, but counting how many words and how many words and phrases new member Andy said.
In several conversations, Andy said less and less, but the domineering female editor-in-chief did not listen to her from the beginning to the end to stop and think about her words.
If we liken talking to selling your own ideas, Andy's greatest success is that before you say a few words, the other party is willing to buy your ideas!
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Li Shi once discussed a passage with Yan Yiyanyue, and Wang Jianguo, who drank a little wine, said, "I have always encouraged you to cry, not only on the stage, if you want to communicate with people, you should cry, you can make people listen to you, but it seems that it is not a person, but I really encourage you." ”
Yan Yiyan nodded her head at feminism, unable to change her opinion.
Li Shi commented on Wang Jianguo's words: Politically incorrect, but with profound insight.
What does this passage reveal?
It's what kind of ideas are easy to sell.
We always feel that communication is rational and logical, but to make the other party psychologically reduce hostility and pull into each other, in the end, we still use the emotion card to play emotions.
No matter how many ways to teach you to influence and persuade people, in the end, it is inseparable from the classic summary in "Thinking, Fast and Slow": In the face of a brain, if you want to influence it, it is best to enter from emotions and convince reason.
Here, we tell a Starbucks story.
When the financial crisis broke out in 2008, Starbucks encountered difficulties. Founder Schultz re-emerged as CEO. Afterwards, he was asked: What made Starbucks survive the crisis?
Schultz thought about it and thought that something he had done had changed Starbucks' fate.
It was the one he took the manager of 10,000 stores to New Orleans for a week of community service.
But what does it matter if your store is in crisis and you go to New Orleans to do community service for post-disaster reconstruction? Schultz said: Starbucks is having difficulties, should employees not re-recognize their values?
But the way to re-recognize values is not to shut up in the house and repeatedly attend classes, but to experience it for yourself, and to reshape the relationship between people by establishing services for the victims.
Without saying a word, let employees understand the values of "who we are".
In the past, we always thought that analyzing-thinking-changing was a three-step process of implanting our own ideas into other people's brains, but whether it was Wang Jianguo encouraging Yan Yiyan to cry or Schultz leading the team to immerse ourselves, it told us one thing: what we thought was wrong.
Witnessing–feeling–changing makes it easier to sell our ideas.
From this point of view, instead of trying our best to explain the views, reasoning, and needs, we should guide each other to an experience.
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Yang Kasa was attacked on the Internet because of the paragraph, no matter how many times she explained, she was still a bunch of levers waiting to scold her.
Is Yang Kasa's reasoning wrong?
Is Yang Kasa's explanation unclear?
Neither! What Yang Kasa lacks is to let these people have an experience!
At this point, Zhou Qimo did it!
Talking about this, we had to call back and draw a "respect" to Zhou Qimo.
In the fourth season of the talk show conference championship competition, Zhou Qimo used the harmonic terrier 4G to show a common scene in life around the theme of "4 seasons of talk show".
4G is coming, voice assistants are also more, Siri, Xiaodu, Xiao ai... Sometimes I am suddenly reading a book, and it suddenly says "in it", which is very scary.
Zhou Qimo said: "I wonder if it is secretly chatting with other Siri." Chatting and talking about slipping numbers, wait a minute, that jian person seems to call me ah, ah. ”
Why? I have proof.
Once I questioned it, I said Siri, are you secretly chatting with another Siri? It says, sorry, I don't understand what you're talking about. ...... This is not only an artificial intelligence, but also a male artificial intelligence.
If I came up with evidence of their chats, it wouldn't still be with me, and you listen to me explain that we were just playing.
Such a scene that almost everyone has encountered being startled by the voice assistant, Zhou Qimo let everyone smile at his ending in the feeling: the voice assistant under 4G is the same as the talk show paragraph, whether it is scary or may offend anyone, we are just playing.
You don't have to worry about Siri, so you don't have to worry about talk shows.
At this point, when the map of "story" is fully unfolded, even if people see the "poor dagger to see", they will "laugh and hate" because of their personal experience.
How did Zhou Qimo do it?
In the "Li Birthday Talk Show Work Manual", I refined a word "slow", so that the other party is psychologically the same as you, and then a little bit of leadership, breaking, rebuilding, can not come.
To be "slow", it takes three steps:
(1) The Law of Attraction: Replacing "Seeing" with "Observing"
If you want to improve the cost performance of your sentences, you must first require that your words have enough appeal, and the other party is willing to be led forward by you.
It is also a scene in life, why is Zhou Qimo willing to listen carefully when he tells it? And when we talk about it, others don't want to listen to it well?
Because Zhou Qimo and the scene experience we create are different in graininess.
In this generally blunt environment, the more subtle the granularity of whoever is, the easier it is to attract the other party to follow you.
And to achieve subtle granularity, you must first give up looking at life, but observe life.
How about observing life?
I refuse to let go of any feeling easily.
For example, have you been to ten dollar barbershops? Everyone was sucked over the head by the vacuum cleaner hanging overhead, and anyone felt awkward.
However, the awkwardness was over.
Why the awkwardness? What is the difference between it and other barbershops?
We never thought about it.
So our ten dollar barbershop experience is just an experience, and no one wants to listen.
But Doudou is observing and digging, so that we are willing to listen to the funny stories of his ten-dollar barber shop on the stage of the talk show!
The sooner we give up the idea of being a spectator, the more we can occupy the world like a mad dog, take the world for ourselves, and let life nourish the talk.
A person with a lot of talking can wake up the other person's attention at the beginning!
(2) The law of presentation: Speak slowly
After having the talking point, how to express it clearly in the most economical way?
I said before that I am a very timid person, but I want to read a book like "Ghost Blowing Lights", what should I do?
So I found an audiobook, and I didn't just listen to it.
The same is the audio book, Mr. Ai Baoliang read it makes me sweat upright, dare not continue; but the AI male voice can make me timid to read all the time.
In this example, in reverse, language has a temperature, a smell, a color, and even a word, a word, a feeling.
So I often feel that if you want the other party to understand, it is not to repeat it many times in a short period of time like a machine gun, but to pay attention to a little, chew the words, and make the other party feel stronger.
If the other party feels strong, it is not easy to slip the number!
(3) Simple rule: Brew courage and be sincere
How do you pick a language to increase your feelings? If I think about it, it's two words: sincerity.
I have read several books of Li Tian,"Laughing Field", "Cold Field", "Cosmic Super Guide", I did not plan to brush it twice, because when I read it, I had a bit of a labyrinth feeling. After reading it, think, oh, this is what I said, and look back at the maze, it's a bit redundant.
Who would want to walk a superfluous maze a second time?
And this "Li Birthday Talk Show Work Manual" I read twice in succession, like! Speak clearly, do not hide pain, do not shy away from happiness.
In fact, I have always felt that people are very smart now, and instead of pretending to create a large section of tall words, it is better to slow down for three seconds and brew the courage to be sincere.
Many times, talking is worthless, it is too much of a fake and virtual package.
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The talk show conference is over, and the good passages always make people feel that there are tears in laughter, just like the classic movies such as "Meet your father-in-law", hitting the weaknesses of human nature with a beautiful laugh.
In fact, life is the same, every day is dealing with people, standing behind is the weakness of human nature.
In dialogue, the weakness of human nature is that it can't help but put you in a hostile position, and like to resist your point of view to defend your dignity.
So often "deliberately" not listening to you well.
What can be done? In addition to complaining, learning to show slowly, and turning "enemies" into friends in the most gentle way is maturity.