January 1, 2019, was an unforgettable day for Xu Xin. On this day, she and her husband Chen Andong held a wedding ceremony. Thinking about the happy married life that is about to begin, Xu Xin is a little excited and a little worried, with anticipation and excitement, the wedding officially began.
Just when the groom Chen Andong was telling the love experience of the two people, a woman quietly took a box and handed it to the emcee, telling him that it was a wedding gift for the newlyweds, and asked him to open it in front of everyone for a while to surprise the newcomer.
Under the festive atmosphere of the wedding, the emcee did not think much at all, and agreed to it, waiting for the couple and the guests to share the love process.
The emcee asked for the opinion of the newcomer, saying that he had just received a mysterious gift, and the person who gave the gift hoped to open it on the spot and let everyone share the joy together.
The groom Chen Andong and the bride Xu Xin looked at each other for a moment, they guessed that it was a surprise brought to them by a friend, so they agreed to open the emcee on the spot, and everyone's eyes were focused on the box in the emcee's hand, the paper box was very beautifully wrapped, and everyone was guessing what kind of gift it was?
However, when the wrapping paper was removed, everyone was stunned, and the box contained an urn.
Who would be so spoofed at a wedding? Is there a vendetta against the newcomer?
For a while, the guests talked about it, the groom Chen Andong stared at the stock in the emcee's hand and was stunned, the joy on the bride's face suddenly disappeared instantly, and the emcee looked very embarrassed, not knowing what to say to ease the atmosphere.
When the bride Xu Kexin noticed that the bones and the box had the words Chen Andong's tomb written on them, she suddenly asked the groom: Is it her, is it her? I'm looking for her theory to go!
After saying that, before Chen Andong could answer, she ran out of the hotel, and when the bride and wife ran to the middle of the road wearing a wedding dress and stepping on high heels, she was suddenly tripped by the skirt of the wedding dress, and the bride struggled before she could stand up, and was hit by the oncoming car.
The groom who chased out then happened to see his new wife hit by a car, so he quickly picked her up, stopped the car and rushed to the hospital.
After emergency treatment at the hospital, the bride gradually regained consciousness, fortunately the bride's injuries were not serious.
So, who was the person who delivered the urn at the wedding, and why was she stirring up trouble at the wedding?
Angry, the groom Chen Andong reported to the police, after a lot of investigation, a few days later finally determined that at the wedding of Chen Andong and his wife, the person who sent them the urn was a woman named Liu Yan, who was exactly what Xu Xin said, and it was indeed the person that Chen Andong guessed.
This Liu Yan is no one else, it is Chen Andong's ex-wife.
So, since they were already divorced, why did Liu Yan run over and sabotage Chen Andong's wedding? Is there something hidden?
We also have to start with the marriage between Chen Andong and Liu Yan.
In 2011, after being introduced, Chen Andong and Liu Yan met and married, and the life of the two people after marriage was still relatively sweet.
A year later, a son was born. The arrival of tong tong has brought a lot of joy to the family, but tong tong has been weak and sickly since childhood, and his personality is more introverted.
However, under the careful care of Chen Andong and Liu Yan, Tong Tong gradually grew well-behaved and cute.
Just when her son was three years old, Liu Yan's company was greatly laid off, and Liu Yan, who was not active in her work on weekdays, and took the initiative and often asked for leave, was forced to leave the company.
In the face of his wife's sudden unemployment, Chen Anton did not care, he felt that his wife could take care of her son at home wholeheartedly, he had no worries, but could devote himself to his work.
In this way, Liu Yan began the life of a full-time wife, from a professional title woman to a housewife. Liu Yan was really a little uncomfortable. Liu Yan felt that she lived a repetitive life every day, and such a tedious life made Liu Yan a little irritable.
And her husband Chen Andong is busy with work all day, there is no time to chat with her, and there is no time to listen to her talk about her distress, Liu Yan, who has been suppressing emotions, has become more and more tempered.
But the next thing that happened was that Liu Yan's psychology was completely unbalanced, this day was Liu Yan's birthday, Liu Yan prepared a full table of meals, waiting for her husband to come back to celebrate her birthday. But Chen Andong did not go home for a long time, called, and the mobile phone was turned off again.
It was not until more than 11 o'clock in the evening that Chen Andong returned home drunk, and when he returned home, he did not say a word, and fell asleep.
Liu Yan looked at the table full of cold meals and felt that her heart was also cold.
Although Chen Andong apologized to Liu Yan many times afterwards, Liu Yan could not listen to it at all.
This incident became a fuse, Liu Yan had accumulated all the grievances and imbalances before, and after this incident, all of them surged into his heart and could not be eliminated.
Liu Yan looked at Chen Andong more and more unpleasantly, and the quarrels between the two people gradually increased. Liu Yan and Chen Andong quarrel every day, neither of them is willing to give in, and they do not care about the children's feelings. But in the midst of their endless quarrels, the young son Tong Tong had a problem.
One afternoon, the kindergarten teacher called Liu Yan and told her that Tong Tong did not like to eat lately, did not like to talk, and sometimes looked confused.
Liu Yan quickly took Tong Tong to the hospital for examination, and it turned out that Tong Tong, who was only five years old, actually suffered from depression.
After learning of her son's illness, Chen Andong complained about Liu Yan in her heart, thinking that her biggest task at home was to take care of her son, but she did not do a good job.
Liu Yan believes that it is all because her husband Chen Andong is indifferent to their mother and son that his son has fallen ill.
Although there were some complaints in his heart, Chen Andong did not say anything on his lips.
He consulted the relevant information and found that the family atmosphere had a great impact on the psychology of a child as big as his son, so he decided not to argue with his wife anymore and treat his son with peace of mind.
Unexpectedly, Liu Yan did not reflect on the reasons for her son's illness at all, and blindly complained about her husband, and her speech became more and more difficult to hear, which sometimes made Chen Andong simply unbearable.
One day, Liu Yan and Chen Andong, because of their son's illness, quarreled again, and Liu Yan filed a divorce with her husband Shandong in a fit of anger. Chen Andong was stunned after hearing this, and he never thought that his wife would file for divorce from him.
Chen Andong learned that his son Tong Tong's depression and the relationship between his parents and husband were broken and important, so he begged Liu Yan not to divorce and give his son a harmonious family environment. However, Liu Yan seemed to have an iron heart and was about to divorce.
Chen Andong did not want to divorce, but he thought that after his endless quarrels with his wife, his son would continue like this, and his son's illness would only become more and more serious.
Thinking about it, Chen Andong decided to agree to his wife's request for divorce.
After the divorce, Chen Andong paid his ex-wife 100,000 yuan a year as maintenance and treatment expenses for his son.
He had thought that if his ex-wife Liu Yan took the money, he would take care of his son wholeheartedly and would no longer pester him.
However, what he never expected was that after the divorce, Liu Yan always used the excuse of treating his son and often troubled him.
In order to avoid his ex-wife, Chen Andong had to go alone to a company in a foreign country to start from scratch.
In the unfamiliar city, Chen Andong felt a little lonely. However, without the entanglement of his ex-wife, Chen Andong felt relaxed and happy.
In this way, Chen Andong began a new work and life with a happy mood.
Fast forward to June 2018, Chen Andong has been living in a new environment for almost half a year.
On this day, Chen Andong had just entered the community after work, but suddenly saw a familiar back standing at the door, this person was Liu Yan.
Chen Andong was very confused, how did this Liu Yan find here?
It turned out that since Chen Andong suddenly disappeared, Liu Yan had been looking for Chen Andong, but there had been no results, and Chen Andong often secretly ran to the school to see his son because he was worried about his son's condition.
Once he went to see his son was discovered by Liu Yan, and Liu Yan secretly followed Chen Andong to here.
Chen Andong let Liu Yan into the room, Liu Yan had tears in his eyes, stared at Chen Dong deadly, and did not say a word.
Chen Andong said to Liu Yan with some impatience: Liu Yan, we are divorced, you don't bother me again.
Listening to Chen Andong's emotionless words, Liu Yan suddenly roared angrily: You come here yourself to hide from Qingjing, let me take the child alone, you dream to go!
In the face of his ex-wife's sudden outburst, Chen Andong suppressed his anger and said to Liu Yan: Since this is the case, then I will raise my son.
As soon as this sentence was uttered, Liu Yan sneered: Good! The son can be raised by you, but you have to give me 1 million in compensation.
In fact, Liu Yan knew that Chen Andong could not come up with 1 million at all, and she only wanted to force Chen Andong to remarry her once.
But what Liu Yan did not expect was that Chen Andong nodded his head and agreed.
A month later, Chen Andong called Liu Yan 1 million.
What made Chen Andong angry was that after Liu Yan received the money, he said that he would not hand over his son to him.
Liu Yan felt that with Chen Andong's current economic ability, he couldn't come up with a million at all, and someone must be helping him behind his back. In the early stage, Liu Yan had already received 1 million yuan, but why didn't she give custody of the child to her ex-husband as agreed? Would she still have any purpose? And can't get it out at all, who will give him 1 million yuan of ex-husband Chen Andong?
It turned out that Chen Andong took 1 million yuan from a woman named Xu Xin, and this Xu Xin was not only the boss of Chen Andong's company, but also Chen Andong's new girlfriend.
At the beginning, after Chen Andong came to the new company, he not only had outstanding work ability, was conscientious and responsible, but also was steady and humble, admired by colleagues and leaders, and soon became the head of the department.
After his promotion, Chen Andong and the company's boss Xu Xin gradually became more and more in contact.
Chen Antong, who likes to read, not only has solid professional knowledge, but also has a wide range of knowledge, and has unique insights into literature and economics.
Xu Xin likes men with connotations the most, and the mature temperament exuded by the middle-aged Chen Dong deeply attracts Xu Xin.
At this time, Chen Andong also has a good feeling for Xu Xin, although Xu Xin is not very old, but he is mature and sophisticated, fully trusts his subordinates, and dares to promote talents, at the same time, Xu Xin is not as strong as the strong woman that the average person thinks, some grandfathers.
The decisiveness of Xu Xin does not lose the gentleness of women, and he is very caring for his employees.
Although the two people have good feelings for each other, but neither of them has taken the initiative to confess, Chen Andong feels that he has been divorced, and there are children to raise, he is afraid that he will not be able to give Xu Xin a happy life, so he will bury his feelings for Xu Xin in his heart.
And What about Permission Shin? There is also his unspeakable secret.
When Xu Xin was in her early 20s, she had a boyfriend who was in love, and during a physical examination, Xu Xin was found to have a uterine deformity and it was difficult to get pregnant.
In this way, the love affair between the two people also came to an end.
From then on, Xu Xin's mind was focused on his work, and he no longer thought about it more, until the appearance of Chen Andong made Xu Xin feel admiring again.
Once, two people accompanied the customer to dinner, and the other party wanted to pour Xu Xin wine, but chen Andong stopped him.
Chen Andong, who had drunk too much, said all the words that had been pressed in his heart for a long time to Xu Xin.
And Xu Xin also told Chen Andong about his feelings, and the two people were together.
Permission Xin knew that Tong Tong was sick, always bought nutritional products for Chen Andong to bring to Tong Tong, but also proposed that Chen Andong take Tong Tong to the big hospitals in Beijing and Shanghai to see, later, she heard that Liu Yan wanted to exchange 1 million yuan for the custody of Tong Tong, Xu Xin thought that she could not have children, she and Chen Andong were about to get married, it was better to leave Tong Tong around and raise Tong Tong with Chen Andong, so he happily took out money to give Chen Andong.
At this time, Liu Yan understood in her heart that the ex-husband's girlfriend gave him 1 million yuan, which was enough to prove their love. If she can't remarry her ex-husband now, this man will immediately become someone else's husband, and he has no financial income, and maybe the ex-husband will leave his son, and at that time, she herself will have nothing.
In order to regain her ex-husband, she decided to talk to her ex-husband again, so she found Chen Andong again, changed her arrogant personality in the past, and cried and told Chen Andong about her pain in divorce.
Originally, after finding that there was a problem with her husband's feelings, Liu Yan felt that her husband would turn a blind eye to his own efforts and have an indifferent attitude towards himself because he was used to his meticulous care, and without her, her husband could not even take care of his own life, let alone career development.
In order to save her husband's love for herself, Liu Yan decided to threaten her husband with divorce and take the opportunity to let her husband reflect on it.
Seeing her husband constantly begging her not to divorce, Liu Yan's heart was secretly proud, and she thought that her husband's compromise confirmed her importance in this family, which could not be without her for a day.
In order to teach her husband a harsh lesson, Liu Yan still pretended to be determined to divorce.
Later, Liu Yan did not think that in any case, if she gambled, her husband Chen Andong really believed it and agreed to divorce.
Liu Yan is angry, but the words he said can not be taken back, in the face of the difficult situation of riding the tiger, Liu Yan signed a divorce agreement as soon as he gambled.
In fact, Liu Yan has her own plans, she thinks that her husband Chen Andong does not have her care, when life is in a mess, her husband will definitely miss his own good, plus miss his son, he will definitely remarry himself.
After seeing the divorce, Chen Andong's life was chaotic, his clothes were not washed, and he was hungry and full at meals. Liu Yan was even more convinced that her plan was successful, and she believed that it would not be long before Chen Andong would definitely find her to remarry.
While observing Chen Andong, Liu Yan began to look for a job again. Because there is no skill, coupled with the work break period, Liu Yan's road to finding a job is full of ups and downs, and the matter of finding a job has not landed, and Chen Andong did not say a word to Liu Yan in addition to visiting his son regularly.
Liu Yan's heart was a little bottomless at this time, and she began to worry, what if other women took advantage of the void?
Liu Yan felt that she could not disappear from Chen Andong's line of sight, and could not let other women take advantage of the void.
After having this kind of thinking, Liu Yan often ran to Chen Andong's unit to find him on the pretext of treating her son, pestering him, so that other women did not dare to approach him, and all she did was to let Chen Andong return to her side and remarry herself.
Finally, Liu Yan took Chen Andong's hand and cried: An Dong, let's remarry, my son and I can't live without you, please! After saying that, Liu Yan was crying with tears on her face.
After listening to his ex-wife Liu Yan's story, Chen Andong stomped his feet in anger, pointed at Liu Yan and said: You stupid woman! Why are you so confused?
At this time, Chen Andong was in a dilemma. To tell the truth, Chen Andong's heart has not forgotten his ex-wife Liu Yan, and he does not want his son Tong Tong to live in a single-parent family, but he has fallen in love with his fiancée, Xu Xin.
He thought of his fiancée's generosity and tolerance, and Chen Andong finally made a difficult choice after careful consideration, and he finally chose to marry his fiancée.
He refused his ex-wife's request to remarry, and in the face of her ex-husband Chen Andong's desperate feelings, Liu Yan was indignant, and in order not to let her ex-husband succeed, she sent the scene at the beginning of our story.
Liu Yan gave him an urn at her ex-husband's wedding, and after the incident, Liu Yan was sentenced to ten days of administrative detention by the public security organs for suspected threats to safety.
The cause and effect of the incident finally came to light, and Xu Xin was soon discharged from the hospital and returned home because the injury was not serious.
Chen Andong felt deeply guilty because the wedding of the two people had not been completed, and he wanted to find an opportunity to make up for the wedding.
But Chuang Xin thinks. As long as you can live with Chen Andong, the wedding is just a formality, not important.
The two lived happily and peacefully after marriage, and for a long time, his ex-wife Liu Yan did not come back to chen and tangle with him, but when they went to see Tong Tong together.
Chen Andong found that Tong Tong's condition was more serious.
It turned out that his ex-wife Liu Yan spent all her energy on dealing with herself and ignored Tong Tong. Considering the deterioration of Tong Tong's condition, Chen Andong decided to file a lawsuit with the court to get back the custody of his son Tong Tong.
Can Chen Andong ask for a change in custody of his son?
Here, that is, to the legal point we are going to talk about today, the change of custody,
The change of custody is that after the parents divorce, if the actual living conditions of both parents change, or the children request a change in custody, the custody rights that have been originally determined may be changed according to law.
There are usually two cases in which the custody of minor children is changed, one is that the parents agree to change the custody of the child, and the other is that the first party files a lawsuit with the court to request a change in the custody of the child.
In the former case, if the change of custody is conducive to the healthy growth and legitimate rights of the child, both parents may agree to change it. In the latter case, the people's court will only approve the change if it meets the statutory circumstances. In this regard, our laws have clear provisions. Article 16 of several specific opinions of the Supreme People's Court on the handling of child support issues by the people's courts in the trial of divorce cases provides. Where a party requests a change in the child support relationship, in any of the following circumstances, it shall be supported:
1. Where one of the spouses lives with the children is unable to continue to raise the children due to serious illness or disability.
2. Where one party lives with a child and fails to fulfill its obligation to provide for the child, or commits acts of abusing the child, or if he or she lives with the child, it has a truly adverse impact on the physical and mental health of the child.
Minor children over the age of 30 are willing to live with the other party, and that party has the ability to raise them.
4. There are other legitimate reasons for the change.
After understanding the relevant legal provisions, we return to this case, Tong Tong's depression has a lot to do with the quarrel between Liu Yan and Chen Andong, after Tong Tong's illness, Liu Yan still does not realize that the constant quarrel, this is tong tong's condition continues to aggravate, if Tong Tong and Liu Yan live together. It does have a great impact on the mental health of children.
Under the judge's explanation, Liu Yan finally realized. She has been pestering Zen all these years, but Chen Andong is getting farther and farther away from him, her endless quarrels have caused great harm to her son Tong Tong, thinking that she has lost her husband, and now she is going to lose her son, Liu Yan suddenly fell to her knees in front of Chen Andong, howling and crying.
She begged Chen Andong not to snatch her son Tong Tong away, she had nothing now, she could no longer live without Tong Tong.
Seeing the scene in front of him, Chen Andong's heart was very unhappy, if he had not been single-minded in his work and did not care more about his ex-wife, his ex-wife would not have divorced himself falsely, and his son Tong Tong would not have been sick, but now he is facing his ex-wife's bitter pleading. Will he still choose to continue to ask for custody of his son?
Finally, under the mediation presided over by the judge, Chen Andong agreed that his son Tong Tong would still live with Liu Yan, and that he would be responsible for all the children's medical expenses. Liu Yan promised that he would not make unreasonable trouble with Chen Andong again, nor would he pestered him again.
Chen Andong can visit his son Tong Tong at any time.
After the case ended, Liu Yan really never pestered Chen Andong again, and Tong Tong's condition improved significantly after a period of treatment.
Friends, marriage needs the common care of both husband and wife, mutual understanding, tolerance and support is particularly important, once one or both parties should care about their feelings, regardless of the overall situation, in the end not only let the husband and wife go farther and farther, but also hurt innocent children.
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