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One day, everyone will grow old and face the fact that they are old and frail.
In their old age, what can they rely on? Some people think it depends on money. Some people think it depends on children. In fact, different people have different ideas.
However, everyone hopes that when they are old, their children will be able to provide for themselves. Because the traditional idea of "raising children and preventing the elderly" is deeply rooted.
However, in modern society, is it still reliable to raise children and prevent old age? In a way, raising children and preventing old ageing is already unreliable. There are many uncontrollable factors in reality.
If your child is powerful and heartless, then he will not be willing to provide for you. Your child has a weak heart, then he does not have the resources to provide for you.
You know, "raising children and preventing the elderly" needs to meet two conditions, one condition is "intention", and the other condition is "money".
Therefore, many people think that when people are a certain age, as long as they have money, it does not matter if the child is not around. However, is the old age without children really happy?
Or, when there is only money left that night, can we feel the warmth of life?
In fact, in today's life, most people can only end up alone.
02
The 70-year-old frankly said: No matter how much money you have, no matter how long your life is, you will also suffer.
Uncle Wang in the community is 70 years old, but he feels that he is living a painful life, and his old age is particularly unfortunate.
When Uncle Wang was 60 years old, his wife left him, leaving him alone. Moreover, none of his four children had time to take care of him, making him feel more and more meaningless the more he lived.
The eldest son and the second son, they did not pay much attention to Uncle Wang. In their view, they still have a family to take care of, not to mention that there are so many children, why do they have to go out on their own?
The third daughter and the younger daughter, although they are married to people from their own village and live in the local area, they do not like Uncle Wang very much. In their opinion, since the death of their mother, the family has been separated.
Uncle Wang, who did not have his relatives to take care of him, lived a particularly depressed life, no matter what kind of loneliness came to his side, he needed to bear it silently.
When he was sick, he needed his co-workers to take him to the hospital; when something went wrong, he had to rely on himself; during the New Year's holidays, his children didn't say anything good, and they didn't even return home to see their parents.
Later, some relatives told the four children that their fathers were old and needed to be taken care of, even if they gave him some money to live a good life. However, they felt that the father was very rich and did not need his children to pay for it.
When Uncle Wang was 68 years old, he went to live in a nursing home. Although he has certain assets and his body is OK, he still sighs that after people are old, in fact, any life is "suffering".
03
Things like Uncle Wang actually exist a lot in life.
Some elderly people feel that with money, they have no worries in their old age. But what they don't know is that when people are old, even moving is a problem, so what is the use of having money?
What's more, every old man hopes that someone can accompany him and let him enjoy the joy of the world. However, not everyone can realize such a wish.
Some children do not want to be filial to the old man, and the old man has no way. Some children need to go outside to work and leave their hometown, so the old man can only live "lonely and lonely".
Although money is omnipotent, it cannot buy affection and warmth after all, let alone time accompanied by people. Sometimes, money can buy the sweet words of hypocrites, but it can't buy the sincerity of loved ones.
Why do we often say that such a thing as life expectancy should be divided into two?
It's because longevity is not necessarily a good thing. When people reach a certain age and see the scenery of the world, they actually feel satisfied. In this way, don't pay too much attention to longevity, and cherish every day well.
Most people think that having money is happiness, and longevity is happiness. However, an old man like Uncle Wang, no matter how much money he has and how long his life span is, he can only live alone.
04
What is the most important thing for the elderly? Two people, one nest.
The first person is the wife. People marry not only to pass on the generations, but also to find someone who can accompany them for a lifetime. Because when people get old, they eventually need someone to accompany them.
The significance of the wife to ordinary people is important. Just think, no one has the same pension demands as you, only your wife and you are of the same heart. So he's not important, so who's important?
The second person is the children. In the old age of having children, I believe that it is happy and fulfilling. And in the old age without children, even if we live in a big mansion and sleep in a phnom Penh bed, we can't feel happy.
Although children have their own families to take care of, they ultimately have the obligation and responsibility to accompany their parents. Then, only by having a good relationship with your children can you live with peace of mind as a parent.
For the elderly, the most important thing should be to have a warm home. Family, that is a person's destination. If there is no warm family, I believe that everyone is in a state of loneliness.
Imagine an old man who has money but no home, and he has money, so what?
Therefore, having a good relationship with our wives and children and then having a happy family is worth it in our old age.
Wen/Shushan has deer