Busy taking care of the business of his own small restaurant, unable to get out of the grandchildren, the daughter-in-law asked the elderly to pay 140,000 "grandchildren' fees" every year.
Aunt Qi, 57 years old, is the owner of a small restaurant, and her husband has been helping her run the hotel since she retired.
Although the hotel is small, but near the train station, the location is good, the flow of people, coupled with the food is very distinctive and clean, the price is not high, so the hotel business is very good. The couple got up early and ran the hotel in the dark, although they were not very rich, but they still earned some money, and their little life was still very good.
Aunt Qi's son has a good understanding since he was a child, coupled with the careful cultivation of Aunt Qi and his wife, his academic performance has been very good, and he was later admitted to a key university in the provincial city, and after graduation, he also stayed in the local work, and his income was still good.
After the son worked, he was introduced to a girlfriend, the girl is from a big city, an intellectual family, looks beautiful and white, and the conditions are very good. The disadvantage of the girl is that as an only child, she has been pampered by her parents since she was a child, does not love to work, spends a lot of money, and is highly dependent. The girl also likes Aunt Qi's son, who is handsome, talented, and obedient to her girlfriend.
The relationship went well, and after half a year the two were ready to get married. Aunt Qi and her wife were very happy and used the money earned from opening a restaurant to buy a two-bedroom and one-living marriage room for their son.
When they got married, their mother didn't ask for a bride price and bought a car as a dowry. Aunt Qi thought at that time, it is worthy of a cultured family, sensible, fortunate that her son has found a good daughter-in-law.
After marriage, the daughter-in-law soon became pregnant, and Aunt Liu and her wife were particularly happy and looked forward to seeing their grandchildren as soon as possible. But the daughter-in-law looked very worried and was not very happy. She told her husband that although her parents were close, they were not in good health, so she hoped that her mother-in-law would take care of her confinement and then stay with her grandchildren until the children went to school.
Aunt Qi's son repeatedly told his wife not to worry, there must be a road before the car reached the mountain, and conveyed his wife's opinion to her parents.
Aunt Qi is still willing to take the child in her heart, but if she leaves, what will happen to the business of the hotel? Aunt Qi is the main backbone of the hotel, the hotel is mainly run by her, and her husband is only a supporting role. Aunt Qi was very embarrassed: don't go, the daughter-in-law is not happy; Go, the hotel is really inseparable from her. She thought left and right, not knowing what to do.
Later, she took the advice of a relative and transferred 50,000 yuan to her son to hire a nanny when needed. Aunt Qi also told her son that if needed, your father could help.
After playing the money, the daughter-in-law stopped for a while, and Aunt Qi's heart was also solid. Although she did not go to her son's house, she always thought of her grandson in her heart, and really wanted to stay at her son's house for a while, be with her grandson, and enjoy the joy of the world. Moreover, the peers around her are helping their children take care of their grandchildren, and she feels a little guilty that she did not go.
However, not long after, the daughter-in-law proposed that since Aunt Qi could not help her with the child, she would give them 90,000 yuan a year as a "grandchild fee". The daughter-in-law said that her friends around her were all in-laws who helped with the children, also helped to repay loans, and undertook the daily expenses of the family, and some in-laws even paid back a lot of pocket money every month. In contrast, she is inferior to others, and she has to work hard to earn money to support her family.
Aunt Qi and her wife were very surprised, and they could not accept the 90,000 yuan with grandchildren. Because the daughter-in-law's requirements were not met, the relationship was tense for a while and very awkward. Later, the old two carefully summed up, are a family, sons and grandchildren are passed down from generation to generation, do not have to be too serious, not to mention the daughter-in-law to work hard can still afford it, so according to the requirements of the daughter-in-law, each year on time to play 90,000 yuan "with grandchildren".
It lasted for two more years, and unexpectedly, the daughter-in-law came again. The daughter-in-law said that she worked too hard to manage her children, and she had to resign and go home to take the children and let the elderly give an additional 50,000 yuan a year.
Every year to give 140,000 "with grandchildren", Aunt Qi and her wife and children think more and more wrong, feel that the daughter-in-law here is too much, is simply a parasite to nibble on the old, they carefully discussed and reached an agreement, do not agree.
Unexpectedly, the daughter-in-law was furious because of this, calling her husband a scumbag and scaring him into divorce. The son's accusations against his wife are resigned, not only not to explain the reason to his wife, but also to acquiesce and encourage his wife's behavior of asking for a price. In fact, from his heart, he thinks the same as his wife, thinks that his parents have some money, and he also wants to get some money from his parents to his own little family.
The two old men repeatedly considered the before and after of the matter, and asked relatives and friends to come up with ideas to find a way, and finally the two old men concluded that the daughter-in-law had to go in, it was a bottomless pit, and the grandson had gradually grown up, and could no longer let them eat the old age indefinitely. They get up early and run a small restaurant in the dark, earning hard money, as the age increases, the two old people are getting worse and worse, they need to save money to prepare for future medical treatment and pension, daughter-in-law and son should be self-reliant and self-help, can not rely too much on their parents, take advantage of the elderly. The old man decided: Resolutely can not agree to the daughter-in-law's request, even if the younger two divorce because of this.
Summary: Fighting Mien, rising mi revenge, blindly compromising can not be exchanged for respect and gratitude, but will only put themselves in a more difficult situation.
From the perspective of daughter-in-law and son, the daughter-in-law is lazy and lazy, very dependent, not very mature, and the son is inactive and contributes. The daughter-in-law is an adult, but after seeing the various behaviors of the friends around her, she blindly imitates them, takes the in-laws' efforts for granted, and even intensifies because of the compromise of the in-laws, without a sense of family responsibility. The daughter-in-law made unreasonable demands, and the husband was not able to face it rationally and deal with it correctly, which encouraged the wife's inappropriate behavior.
From the perspective of the elderly, it is common for elders to help children, but they must be principled and act within the scope of their ability. Love and giving are both two-way, and no one's giving to anyone is taken for granted. Aunt Qi and her husband, in line with the good wishes of "home and everything", met the improper requirements of their daughter-in-law through their own frugality, and compromised unprincipledly, resulting in the daughter-in-law's appetite growing. Facts have proved that the in-laws' unprincipled compromise and concession cannot be exchanged for the respect and gratitude of the daughter-in-law!
