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Teacher Qin Yi is gone, at the age of 100.
I don't know much about Qin Yi, but after reading the story of her old man's home, I am very emotional, what a great woman this should be, she has experienced so much, she still loves life so much, how open-minded an old man she is.
There is a behind-the-scenes footage of Qin Yi's 96-year-old filming of The Legend of the Demon Cat, so old, still working the set, she also said that she wanted to shoot forever.
Actor Huang Xuan tweeted: What a blessing to be able to shoot with you in "The Legend of the Demon Cat", everything is vividly remembered. You sit in front of the camera is a thousand words, Teacher Qin Yi all the way.
In "The Legend of the Demon Cat", the old palace girl played by Qin Yi sat there, and the side also implied Yang Guifei's fragrant jade damage.
Teacher Qin Yi is known as the "Venus of the East", she is a people's artist, a witness and cultivator of China's century-old films. People who don't know Teacher Qin Yi may think that she has a famous, rich and own career in this life, and is so beautiful, she must be an old man who is treated preferentially by life.
But in fact, this is not the case, compared with the achievements in the film, Qin Yi's life can be summarized in one sentence: the first marriage, the husband's domestic violence also has to send away her daughter, she can't bear to divorce; the second husband, cheating, she cheated when she was pregnant, she was devastated, the birth was not smooth, and the child died after birth. She wanted to divorce, the other party did not agree, because they already had a son, the marriage was not happy, the other party drank a lot of alcohol leading to physical problems, Qin Yi took care of him for many years, until he died in his seventies. Later, Qin Yi's son went crazy, he went crazy and beat his mother, Qin Yi couldn't beat his son, so he said to him, "Don't punch your face, your mother still has to go out to shoot and earn money." It's so miserable, she's been through so much in her life.
For all this misfortune, Qin Yi said in an interview before his death:
"In 1983, Jin Yan left, in 2007 his son left, and in 2008 his sister Qin Wen also left, slowly, one by one. I've been happy, I've been happy, and I've resented. In my lifetime, I have suffered a lot in work and family, and people say that I have a good mentality, and people have the desire to live a better life after all. But I never admit it, I analyze it, like peeling an orange, peeling these knots of hearts one by one, layer by layer. ”
In her later years, Qin Yi recalled her life and felt that there were three things that she regretted for life:
Regrets are regrets, but in our opinion, Teacher Qin Yi is already very great and not easy.
How to talk about the life of Teacher Qin Yi?
She found a career that she loved and was willing to fight for all her life, and filming was her interest and developed into her career. Even if the family life encounters ups and downs, Teacher Qin Yi has been trying to adjust herself and achieve a kind of self-consistency. Later, her husband was gone, her son was gone, her sister was gone, many of her relatives around her were gone, and she lived alone for 14 years, and these 14 years were when she could really let go of herself and feel the beauty of life.
What is the meaning of life?
We will gradually become a person as we walk, but you will not be lonely, a wise person like Teacher Qin Yi, she knows how to be alone with herself, arrange her time, and deal with her relationship with herself, you will not feel lonely, but will be full of heart.
"Oriental Venus" Qin Yi died, her life is really too bitter, indeed very bitter, but Teacher Qin Yi worked hard to live out her most beautiful appearance, but also showed us what is the meaning of life? The things she encountered were put on anyone, and she simply didn't live; but Teacher Qin Yi handled her relationship with herself very well, and those tribulations were solved.
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First marriage: Forced marriage
Qin Yi's teacher's first marriage was "forced to marry".
Born in January 1922 in a large feudal family in Shanghai, Qin Yi developed a keen interest in literature and art from an early age.
Interest is a person's best teacher, and the professions that Qin Yi takes behind him are also related to his own interests. She really likes this line, you do what you like, you will get a great sense of satisfaction mentally, you will not get tired, and there will be a feeling of hot love.
Qin Yi participated in his first film, "Good Husband", in 1939, and also met Chen Tianguo because of this movie. The name of the movie is Good Husband, but in real life Chen Tianguo is one of the sources of her tragic fate.
Chen Tianguo was fascinated by the 17-year-old young and beautiful Qin Yi, and he began to become crazy, extremely crazy.
Chen Tianguo forced Qin Yi to marry him, and said, "If you don't marry me, I will jump off a cliff."
17-year-old Qin Yi was forced to be helpless, she was completely frightened, she was so young, so kind, she could only give in.
Of course, the first marriage is not ideal, Chen Tianguo can do the forced marriage thing to predict that he is not a good match, but has entered the fire pit, what can you do? Chen Tianguo's behavior is extremely extreme, on the surface he is a gentleman, but in fact, in private, he drinks and abuses, and even wants to send his daughter to be adopted.
In the marriage, Qin Yi has been putting up with it until the child's matter has touched her bottom line, and she can't bear to divorce Chen Tianguo.
The second marriage is still extremely bleak
After divorcing her first husband, in 1947, the 25-year-old Qin Yi met Jin Yan, who was 12 years older than her, when filming the movie "The Sea is Vast", and the two fell in love at first sight.
This marriage was originally happy, and in 1948 Qin Yi also gave birth to a son, Jin Jie.
However, as Qin Yi's reputation grew and he spent more and more time filming, Jin Yan actually cheated on Qin Yi's sister Qin Wen.
She was devastated by her husband's cheating, when she became pregnant again, and because of her husband's cheating, the child was born and died.
What to do?
Qin Yi wanted to divorce, but her husband did not agree, and the two of them were very unhappy, but they were still helpless to be tied together. In 1962, Jin Yan was sick in bed due to stomach bleeding caused by heavy drinking, Qin Yi was too kind, but he took care of Jin Yan for more than twenty years, until Jin Yan died in 1983.
The golden flame was gone, which was a relief for Qin Yi.
But her suffering was not yet over. Qin Yi was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 1966, and her only son, Jin Jie, was diagnosed with a mental illness when he was a teenager.
Marriage and family are so bumpy, including their own body is not useful, how to face it?
Qin Yi did not admit her fate, no matter what fate had made her suffer, she was facing difficulties and facing them strongly. Life is very hard, but if you complain, if you admit defeat, then you really lose; only by relying on yourself to carry on, only by relying on yourself to be strong, may the road in front of you become clearer and clearer.
Qin Yi has never received any real love, but she has been in love with her career all her life, and the fullness of her career has enriched her heart, and her heart has become stronger and stronger.
She was a great mother
The day before Qin Yi died was Mother's Day, but the word "mother" made her bear too much.
The only son suffered from mental illness, when the son was sick, he would beat her, how Qin Yi beat his son, she said to her son, don't hit your mother's face, your mother will also go to filming to earn money. Qin Yi cared for her son for 59 years, and it was not until his son died in 2007 that she was "liberated".
This "relief" is in my opinion, I think she is really too bitter.
Qin Yi's first marriage also had a daughter, but her daughter was particularly indifferent to her, perhaps filming outside for a long time, neglecting to take care of her daughter, or having a father like Chen Tianguo who behaved extremely, what good influence could her daughter be affected?
Qin Yi has been taking care of others all her life, marriage is the root of her misfortune, but she has no choice, she can only bear it, helpless. I still couldn't understand why she had to take care of her cheating husband for more than twenty years, probably because of the kindness in her bones, she and Jin Yan were not divorced after all, as his wife, she could only take care of him.
She always felt that Qin Yi should not be so bitter, but she herself saw everything.
Qin Yi is not a saint, in the face of the hardships of life, she used to be very painful, but people should not be knocked down by fate, so she figured it out, "People live in the world, how can they not encounter all kinds of things." A lot of tribulations are unimaginable, so it's important to maintain a peaceful mind."
Qin Yi's life is a movie, what could be more tragic and inspirational than this?
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When I read Teacher Yang Dai's "The Two of Us", I was thinking, what is the purpose of people's life?
Teacher Yang Dai is also very bitter, she lost her beloved daughter and husband in 1997 and 1998, what she suffered was simply terrible in the eyes of many people, and no one could survive. However, Mr. Yang Dai has lived slowly and calmly for more than twenty years alone.
Just like Qin Yi, many of the people she encountered could not bear it, but Qin Yi lived peacefully alone for fourteen years, until she died in a hundred years.
In the twilight years, when your children or wives have left you, how should you spend the rest of your life? In fact, we people are left with ourselves when we walk and walk in this lifetime. Even if the children are there, they have their own lives, and you have your life, we are always with ourselves. Just like Qin Yi, what is the use of having a son and a daughter? If her son suffers from mental illness, she would not beat her, and her daughter is so indifferent to her that she is more often alone with herself.
There is a saying that is worth pondering: people should learn from plants.
Plants are different from animals, and plants need very little, as long as there is soil, water, air and wind. A plant that absorbs sunlight and rain and grows naturally.
After a person reaches a certain young stage, the key to whether they can live comfortably lies in themselves.
More often in our lives, we face loneliness, and no one knows what we are going to go through? You may suffer a lot, but you can't complain, the only thing you can do is to run yourself well, when you are strong, there will naturally be someone to take care of you in your later life, because you also have that financial strength.
The hardest thing for people to deal with is spiritual solitude, which many people can't do, especially in their later years.
Teacher Qin Yi's life is indeed very bitter, but she does not admit that she is fighting with herself, she is so strong and trying to live herself, she handles her relationship with herself very well, so she can live peacefully for fourteen years alone after going through so many tribulations.
She is not lonely, her heart is very full.
This is what we should learn from her, not just see the suffering, only lament the suffering, but forget the most important.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.