There is a saying in the "Moralist":
"The beginning of all things, the road to simplicity, the evolution to the complexity."
Everything is simple at the beginning, and after slowly evolving, it becomes complicated.
In fact, the same is true of the human heart, and if you want to make yourself simpler, you must make yourself know how to take it and put it down.
In other words, only by truly understanding the separation can we let ourselves go light, let ourselves return to simplicity, and live transparently and naturally.
Among them, the truly intelligent people understand what is important for themselves, what can be put down, can focus on doing more meaningful things, and give up the disturbances in life, which is the real power.
Specifically, the real disconnection, in a word: learn to comb yourself, spend time and energy on valuable things, and make yourself better and better.
1 Comb through circles and stay away from people you don't deserve to make friends with
There is a saying: "What kind of circle you have, you will have what kind of life." ”
When you choose who to associate with, it means that you will become the same person as the other party and have the same life experience.
Therefore, choosing what kind of person to walk with is the most important proposition we face in this life.
Because on the road of life, we will meet all kinds of people, some people stop and stay, some people rush by, we do not need to have deep friendships with everyone, because some relationships are not worth your efforts to maintain.
A person I know is such a typical representative, he is a successful person in the eyes of everyone, according to general logic, it must be a wide range of people, but the opposite is true.
Once, when he was celebrating his birthday and eating together at his house, he found that his friends were only a few simple people, and there were no swarms of people of all colors to join in the fun, he said, in fact, his circle is very simple, no matter when he lives independently and soberly.
When he was young, he also thought that a wide network of contacts was to meet more people, so no matter what kind of people he met, he would associate with them. However, after experiencing a lot of things, I found that some people are just friends in their mouths, and they will not help at all when they encounter real things, but after slowly combing their circles, they found that there are no more friends, and it is enough to have a few sincerely.
Yes, sometimes we always think that the more friends the better, but in fact, three or two friends are far better than more general friends.
Everyone reaches a certain age, the more they live, the more they begin to sort out their own circles, to cherish the people they should cherish, to let go of the people who should be put down, and to always leave time for those who deserve it.
In this way, we can have more energy to do what we want to do, not to disturb our hearts for the complicated circles, and to clear our burdens, let go of our troubles, and get over it more and more easily.
2 Comb through emotions, do not suppress the heart, do not complain about the self
Napoleon once said: "He who can control his emotions is greater than the general who takes a city." ”
To tell the truth, people's emotions in addition to being everywhere, but also unpredictable, if we can not better sort out their emotions, often under the influence of emotions to become worse and worse, let themselves gradually lose control of life.
I've seen a story.
When the man got up in the morning to wash up, he put the mobile phone on the table, and the wife saw it and casually put the mobile phone on the sofa.
But her daughter accidentally hit her phone on the floor while taking something from the couch and broke the screen.
Men began to blame the wife for not taking their mobile phones, but the wife said that she was worried that the mobile phone would fall off the table, and the man taunted the wife, and the mobile phone did not fall off the table but fell off the sofa.
The two men quarreled, and the man left the house in a huff,
Halfway to the road, I found that the information about last night's overtime was forgotten at home, so I immediately returned home.
It just so happened that my wife was not at home. He used another mobile phone to call his wife, who accidentally sprained her foot on the way back.
As a result, the man was severely criticized by the leader for missing an important meeting because he was late, and the wife rested at home for several days because of a sprain.
In fact, in reality, many times seem to be an accident, if you can't control the emotions, it will let the mistake spread all the time, and eventually reach the point of being unable to control.
Living in the moment, no one will not encounter troubles, too often because of not combing emotions in time to lead to loss of control, let yourself lose your mind and calm, and do things that you regret.
Wise people will always sort out their emotions in time, will not become chattering because of emotions, but through adjustment to restore their calm.
Combing emotions is to tell yourself to be quiet when you encounter an emotional loss of control, you can breathe deeply, or let yourself be alone, which can make you not cause big mistakes because your emotions are out of control.
We have to learn to accept emotions, organize emotions, and face life with a more positive attitude, and you will find that all kinds of beautiful things can come to you.
3 Comb through the mentality and complete yourself
There is a saying: "If the mentality changes, the attitude changes; the attitude changes, the habit changes; the habit changes, the personality changes; the personality changes, and the life changes." ”
In our life, it can be said that the mentality is particularly important for ourselves, and when we have what kind of mentality, in fact, it determines what kind of life path we will take.
Therefore, if you want to have a good attitude, you must be diligent in combing, cutting off useless beliefs through self-examination and self-realization, and getting rid of harmful delusions in order to live a wonderful self.
The well-known Go master Wu Qingyuan is a person who is diligent in combing his mentality, and once mentioned in his memoirs that before each competition, he would first read the Tao Te Ching, so that he could let go of impetuosity and distractions, so that he could maintain better concentration, and then easily win the game.
In fact, living in the present moment will face a lot of impetuousness and distractions all the time, they are like floating dust in the air, what we need to do is to clean up in time, do not let ourselves fall into a negative, pessimistic state of mind, and can really live soberly and live clearly.
When a person does not know how to sort out the mentality, he will often fall into a situation where he cannot extricate himself, cannot see others clearly, and cannot see himself clearly, but will let himself live more and more failure.
Good at combing the mentality, in fact, let yourself always keep a clear mind, no matter what kind of setbacks you encounter, you can laugh at life.
I have seen a sentence: "The wisdom of life lies in getting rid of those unimportant distractions little by little, so that we can see the truest, purest, and most important parts." ”
Therefore, life is a process of cutting out complexity and simplifying, self-transformation, no matter when you must learn to adjust yourself, in order to become better and better.
Comb through your circle and stay away from people you don't deserve to make friends with.
Comb through emotions, do not suppress the heart, do not complain about the self.
Comb through your mindset, perfect yourself, and make yourself better.
I hope you can become a better person and live a transparent and elegant life in the most beautiful season of your life.
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