When encountering a man who does not admit his mistakes, a smart woman does the right thing and packs the man up and obeys
What to do when you meet a man who does not admit his mistakes, I came to a female consulting client two days ago, came up to me and told me that her husband obviously did something wrong or there is a situation is dead and does not admit it, ask him he will say I do not ah impossible, you don't have anything to do all day, and not only this usually will not say anything nice, don't say anything sweet and caring, these words have not been heard in his ear, he said that the current days are so tired, ask me what I should do, To be honest, it is ineffective to meet this kind of person whether you are reasonable or emotional with him when you are in trouble, because the truth and facts you want to tell, he already knows it, and you can't say it, if you are really ready to say him, he has already prepared a set of words to deal with you, for example, he will say that we are just ordinary friends, how do you make a fuss about it, how do you not believe me, etc., he is not only pushing his responsibility for himself, but also throwing dirty water on you, It makes you think that maybe it's really you who misunderstood him, it's really your own fault.
If you have an emotional problem with him, he copes better, will directly say a word you don't nag around is not annoying, or he will tell you that you calm down and then say, you see when he talks like this, you are not blocked to death, and even by him in turn, so if you want to deal with such a man, you can't use ordinary methods, and you must know, why he will die and not admit that you can prescribe the right medicine, then what is the man who does not admit his mistake for? I summarized the recent and previous thousands of such counseling cases, I found that there are basically the following three reasons, the first is that he is afraid of admitting that he will be punished, such as he comes home late, he has to admit that he is wrong, is it not that he will go home early later, he has changed his mind, he wants to admit that he may be divorced, or come home to honestly listen to your words, listen to your nagging and accusations, so as long as he does not admit it, there will be no follow-up cost and punishment.
The point is that he feels that as long as he does not admit it, you will not be able to take him, so he must not admit it, the second he is afraid of admitting it and will have to listen to you, you want to once he admits that he is wrong then he must be corrected, at least apologize, in short, no matter how big the mistake, as long as you admit it, you can not give him conditions, and he must agree because of the loss, so he can not admit it, otherwise in case you put forward some unreasonable requirements that he thinks, such as he admits that he has changed his heart, I can't accept the divorce, and you have to go out of the house. Then will he feel very uncomfortable, as the wrong party in this matter he still has room for relaxation, for example, he admits that he is ambiguous with others, absolutely not in the future, you will tell him, then how can I believe you, you have to let me flip the phone at any time, you say he can agree, so he absolutely can not admit it.
The third kind of he is afraid of admitting, the benefits he can enjoy now are gone, you want to do what he wants to do now, how to do what he wants, he does not change because of this state, he will feel very cool, but once he admits that he is wrong, he will have to change, and people are inclined to avoid harm, that is to say, let him profit from the things, he will always do, and let him feel that there is a loss of things He must avoid, the logic of not changing is to change the no benefit to him, so if you want him to admit mistakes, you first sit in the seat, What is the reason why he is unwilling to admit his mistakes, and then go to the targeted method to make him admit it, rather than brainless emotional compulsion on him, the more you force him, the less he will recognize