After middle age, don't show these 4 things in the circle of friends, it seems to have face, but it is actually very cheap

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Each individual has a vain nature, but the degree of vanity manifested is different. The more a person shows something, the more he proves that he lacks something.

Those stars who live in the spotlight may be dug out because of their high appearance or outstanding talents, and after the company's packaging and creation, they quickly became popular, and then became the idols sought after by everyone.

But not all artists can become top traffic stars, there are still many people in the entertainment industry to work hard, but after more than ten or twenty years, it is still unknown.

When such people see people who have become popular overnight, their hearts must be full of envy and jealousy, because in their dreams, why don't they want to have the same experience?

The most popular in the student era is those who look good or study well, and when they enter the society, everyone's mentality will change, at this time, everyone may be more envious of graduates of prestigious universities or people with super business ability, if they are treated unequally because of academic qualifications or abilities, they will inevitably have unwilling emotions in their hearts, and if this unwillingness is fermented, it will even become jealousy.

In order to get the dream life and great achievements, some people's comparison heart will become heavier and heavier, see what others have, they also want to have, and others do not have, they want to have, only in this way, can they get the attention of the people around them.

With the slow passage of time, the intensification of the comparison psychology will make the individual become a person who will only envy jealousy or love vanity, and gradually people will lose their minds, more and more unable to see their true appearance, blindly living in the illusion of difficult to extricate themselves.

Young people like to compare the number of luxury goods and the quality of life, buy famous brands, eat a big meal, and travel to the circle of friends, in order to get the attention and praise of others.

These are childish behaviors and manifestations, it is precisely because the psychology of youth is not mature enough, so it is understandable to do these things, but after middle age, don't show these in the circle of friends, it seems to have face, in fact, it is very cheap.

What things should middle-aged people avoid showing in the circle of friends?

First, show the family

There is an indifferent side of human nature, when you think that you have sunn out of the family, others will cast envious eyes, but in fact, things that have nothing to do with themselves will not be very high, even if your family is happy, life is happy, do not easily show off in the circle of friends, you know it.

Some people's lives are in full swing, and when they see your happy life, instead of sending blessings, they will become more and more angry.

Happiness can not be sunburned, unhappy can not be sunburned, some people just do not want you to live well, the more miserable you live, the more painful they are. Don't believe their words of concern, maybe it's all about putting on a disguise for your true status quo.

Second, show the cause

Some people, once they have achieved something in their career, they will show it everywhere, for fear that others will not know their abilities. This practice is actually very inappropriate, when you show it, you become the target of many inflammatory villains, and there are only disadvantages and no benefits to interacting with such people.

When you gain power, the villain will try his best to get closer to you, and then get benefits and help, but once you lose power, these people will tear their faces in an instant, and then show the most hateful side.

When people reach middle age, they must keep their careers well and never show off casually.

Third, show the network

Some people in the society to meet some people of higher status, they subconsciously feel that their network is very good, and then spread around, in fact, they have only met or eaten a meal with people with status, and have no real friendship.

If you show your connections in the circle of friends, other people who want to get to know the big people will take the initiative to make friends with you, or send valuable gifts, if you are not capable but have to promise others, then you are tantamount to trapping yourself in a dilemma.

Fourth, show wealth

Wealth can bring people a higher quality of life, but it will also make your relatives and friends gradually away from you.

Relatives and friends want you to be better, but do not want you to live better than them, once they find that the wealth gap between each other is too large, they will go around out of jealousy to publicize that your money is not coming from the right place, whether they understand how you make money is not important, you just need to know that this kind of behavior will cause great damage to your reputation.

Middle-aged people must not display these contents in the circle of friends, let alone let others know how happy your life is, all happiness is secretly hidden in the heart. I don't know how you guys think about it, so let's talk about it if you have any ideas.

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Author | Tommy

Edit | Rain

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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205