Text/Wei Chen
I once read such a small story about marriage. Saying that the old man and the old lady had quarreled for most of their lives, the children did not understand their mode of getting along, and even advised them: Since it is so painful, it is better to separate.
On a cold winter day, the old man and the old lady had another big fight. After the old man smashed the teacup on the table, he took his coat and left the house.
The old lady was alone at home crying in a daze. Suddenly it was snowing in the sky, and the old lady remembered that the old man had left without an umbrella, so she grabbed the umbrella and ran outside.
As soon as he opened the door, the old man came back from outside with a cold breath. While stomping his feet, he took out a hot baked sweet potato from his arms and said, "Old lady, eat it while it is hot, it is just for sale today." ”
This is probably the love of "quarreling and gambling and running away from home, and when you come back, you don't forget to buy each other's favorite dishes by the way".
All along, there has always been an endless topic of talk about feelings and sincerity.
Some people think that where a person's heart is, the money will be where it is, and others think that pure feelings have nothing to do with the economy.
This reminds me of a passage in which it was said that women are strange creatures who are always willing to talk about relationships with rich men and economics with men who don't have money.
At the same time, there is also a saying about men's two major hobbies: one is that the women of the Laliang family go into the water, and the other is to persuade the wind and dust women to be good.
These two statements about the treatment of feelings by men and women seem to be nonsensical ridicule, but in fact, the words are filled with "rare" and "unique" views.
As the saying goes, things are more expensive than rare. It is never difficult to make rich people pay money without any sense of superiority, and it is never difficult to make rich people pay time.
And for men. Being able to pull a good family woman into the water can prove her charm, can persuade the wind and dust women to be good, and can prove her ability.
In fact, in the relationship, both men and women aspire to be the only ones of others.
And some people have to show their charm at the same time. This leads to a lot of hypocrisy in many relationships, and the secrets of invisible people.
It is not easy to see a man's true heart.
After all, everyone has their own life, and each man's expression of feelings is completely different, so the methods in society that can measure the so-called sincerity with only one standard are not credible.
The expression of love is never just sweet words. In addition to the heartfelt attention of well-spoken people, people who speak well may also be liars.
This society is full of strange things, some people cheat money, some people cheat feelings.
A man's willingness to spend money for you is not true love. What is needed is personal judgment.
If you simply think that men must love you as long as they are willing to spend money for you, then it is also you who may end up hurting.
And you don't know when the hurt started and where it came from.
Some men are willing to spend money, not because they care, but because they want to use the economy to fill the charm.
If all the other person's expenses don't mean much to him, maybe it's not love, it's about pampering you.
The ancients believed that love needed to be right. This view deserves to be taken seriously at all times.
In a relationship, there are only two people who are right at the door. In order to more accurately understand the meaning behind each decision made by the other party.
If one family is very rich, the other family is exceptionally poor. It is difficult to have pure love between two people like this.
Even if the initial feeling is genuine, over time the relationship is likely to evolve into a dependency relationship.
In this society, as long as it is something that can be solved with money, it is not a big thing.
The writer Mader once said: "What really promotes love is not strong love, but trivial time." ”
Love must be soft at the beginning, but in the polishing of the years, it will slowly fade, and even the deepest vows will dissipate the day, and even the strongest feelings will gradually flatten.
People's feelings are changeable, but what remains unchanged is character and responsibility.
It can also be said that love fights to the end, and it is a person's moral character that is spelled.
If a man is genuine from the start, perhaps the way he speaks and his view of consumption will change. But in his heart, there are all the things about you, and there will always be a bottom line.
He may not be forced to spend a lot of money for you due to life and financial pressures, but he will definitely be willing to give up his family for your health.
He may no longer have enough time to accompany you because of various things in life, but he will be able to do it, whether you are around or not, chatting with people has your presence.
Of course, there will be all kinds of contradictions between you, and even a big fight from time to time, and you will find that his language is no longer soft.
But even so, he is still just talking strong, but he is not willing to really hurt you.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip] It is very easy to meet the author.
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.