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She is recognized by the entertainment industry as the first talented woman in Beijing, who knows everything about piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and can act and direct, sing and dance.
She is the first female director in the mainland to break the box office of 100 million, or the famous screenwriter Wang Shuo is willing to divorce the original partner, bluntly saying that all the property is left to her after death.
She is Xu Jinglei, known as the "heroine of the entertainment industry".
01
Xu Jinglei was born on April 16, 1974, to an ordinary worker family in Beijing's Chaoyang District, to parents who were workers.
At home, Xu Jinglei is the eldest, and there is a younger brother at the bottom.
His father Xu Zijian was a very strict person, because he did not have the conditions to study when he was a child, he came out to work early to earn money, at that time he was particularly envious of others being able to read and go to school, and he agreed with the saying that knowledge changed his destiny.
So he put all his expectations on his children, as the eldest daughter in the family, Xu Jinglei naturally became the first level of Xu Zijian's control, directly militarizing the management of his daughter.
From the moment his daughter went to school, Xu Zijian formulated a detailed study schedule and ordered his daughter to strictly implement it.
The young Xu Jinglei was unable to resist at all, and could only obediently do so.
Therefore, Xu Jinglei's childhood was not happy, either reading and writing, or reciting Tang poems, there was no time to go out to play, and she only had envy when she saw other children playing happily.
If there is color in childhood, then Xu Jinglei's childhood must be gray.
Although Xu Jinglei lost all the joy of her childhood, her father still felt that it was not enough and forced Xu Jinglei to read books for 4 hours a day.
If you don't obey, then directly lock Xu Jinglei in the study, lock the door, and don't open the door until 4 hours have passed.
At first, the stubborn Xu Jinglei would still desperately resist, but under the absolute authority of the head of the family, any resistance would be useless.
In the end, Xu Jinglei had to obey, obediently reading in the study, looking forward to the time passing early, so that she could get out of the lonely and narrow study.
Day after day of study, xu Jinglei also has a wealth of knowledge reserves and solid writing skills, especially her calligraphy, pen walking dragons and snakes, clouds and flowing water, many calligraphers are full of praise after reading it.
Because of her calligraphy expertise, Xu Jinglei was also directly escorted to a well-known middle school in Chaoyang District.
After going to middle school, Xu Jinglei saw others painting, and also liked to paint, for this interest of her daughter, Xu Zijian expressed strong support, and even signed up for a tutoring class for her daughter, never caring about the cost.
Xu Jinglei is indeed the material for learning, whether it is oil painting or watercolor, she can quickly master the skills and paint a series of vivid and vivid works, which are deeply loved by teachers.
Therefore, when she took the college entrance examination, she only wanted to apply for the Stage Art Department and the Central Academy of Arts and Crafts of Chinese Opera, but unfortunately, neither of them was admitted.
Later, with the encouragement of others, she was admitted to the acting department of the Beijing Film Academy and became an actress.
02
After going to college, Xu Jinglei finally got rid of her father's control and enjoyed her own life.
In her opinion, before going to college, she lived for her father, and only after going to college was she living for herself.
So she took back all the things she lost in her childhood, skipping classes, surfing the Internet, playing rock and roll, and playing with social people, which were the main activities of Xu Jinglei University, and reading had long become the most secondary thing.
The image of the well-behaved woman was also completely torn apart by her.
In her sophomore year, Xu Jinglei was introduced by a friend to Wang Shuo, a famous screenwriter in the Beijing circle, although the difference between the two was 17 years old, but the personality was equally untamed, self-sufficient, plus they both liked art, and every time there was an endless topic to talk about.
Over time, Wang Ba looked at the mung beans and looked at them.
Although at that time, Wang Shuo already had a family and a daughter, but since ancient times, he had a lot of affection, he completely left his wife and daughter behind and frantically pursued Xu Jinglei.
Originally, Xu Jinglei admired the great writer Wang Shuo and was pursued by admirers, asking which girl can refuse?
Soon, the two came together, and were the undisguised kind, like a normal couple.
In their eyes, love is love, and there is nothing unseemly.
Well, talented people are just different, and dead people can make him live.
Since being with Wang Shuo, Xu Jinglei has started a life of opening and hanging.
Before graduation, he filmed the TV series "You at the Same Table", thus officially debuting.
Then he filmed TV series such as "New Romance Era", "A Matter of Wind and Snow", and "Carry Love to the End", and became a popular female star.
With the popularity of Xu Jinglei, her relationship with Wang Shuo was soon made public, and despite the strong criticism from the outside world, the two still went their own way and indulged in the small world of the two.
In order to show his love for Xu Jinglei, Wang Shuo even disregarded his wife's feelings and took her home.
Later, Xu Jinglei also provoked the original match, and said triumphantly: "I can go in and out of your house at will, why don't you let him go?" ”
In the beginning, the original partner was reluctant to divorce her daughter and maintained the broken marriage alone.
However, with Xu Jinglei's continuous provocation, coupled with Wang Shuo's blindness, the original match was also completely dead hearted, and finally chose to divorce.
03
Later, Wang Shuo even publicly stated: "After I died, all my property was left to Xu Jinglei. ”
Not bound by the world, drove away the original match, originally thought that the two would be fighting each other, but did not expect that Wang Shuo was suppressed and directly fled the United States, leaving Xu Jinglei alone in the wind messy.
Of course, Xu Jinglei is not vain, after all, she is talented, and she can also shine on her own.
She has successively starred in excellent films such as "I Love You", "The Subway to Spring", "My Beautiful Homesickness", and has successively won the Huabiao Award for Outstanding Newcomer Actress, the Hundred Flowers Award for Best Actress, and the Golden Rooster Award for Best Supporting Actress.
Successfully ranked among the first line, and Zhao Wei, Zhang Ziyi, Zhou Xun and called "Four Little Flower Dan", became a hot big star.
However, at the peak of her acting career, Xu Jinglei turned from acting to filming, from an actor to a director.
Of course, this is also very much in line with Xu Jinglei's personality, never following the rules and sticking to the rules, but breaking the rules and facing difficulties.
In 2003, Xu Jinglei's debut work "My Father and Me" was released and received unanimous praise from the outside world.
He also won the Best Screenplay, Best New Director nomination and Golden Rooster Award for Best Debut at the 4th Chinese Film Awards.
Subsequently, she successively directed films such as "Letter from a Strange Woman" and "Dream Into Reality", and won the Most Popular Director Award of Beijing University Student Film Festival, as well as the Best Director Award at the 52nd San Sebastian Film Festival in Spain.
Despite numerous awards, Xu Jinglei still did not stop her steps, but continued to sprint forward.
In 2007, Xu Jinglei also established a company, and also cooperated with Founder Electronics to incorporate her own font into the computer font library and named it "Founder Jinglei Simplified".
In 2009, it was the second peak of Xu Jinglei's career.
She directed the film "Dulala Promotion", which won a super high box office of 100 million yuan after its release, becoming the first female director in mainland China to break the 100 million box office.
She is also known as the "first talented woman in Beijing" by insiders.
The career is smooth sailing and thriving, but emotionally it is full of twists and turns, and the ups and downs are continuous.
04
After ending her relationship with Wang Shuo, she quickly fell in love with Zhang Yadong, but unfortunately the relationship between the two did not last long.
Then, she came together with the actor Huang Jue, but still could not go to the end.
Writer Han Han also publicly showed love for Xu Jinglei, but Xu Jinglei did not respond, but whether the two came together or not, only they knew.
It was not until 2010, when Xu Jinglei met actor Huang Lixing, that the relationship stabilized.
The relationship between the two has now gone through 12 years, longer than many couples.
But every time she was mentioned to get married, Xu Jinglei said that she did not want to prove her love through marriage, nor did she need to make herself feel safe with a marriage certificate.
We all know that the longer you fall in love, the less likely you are to get married.
Because the longer you are in love, the more contradictions there are, and the less motivation you have.
In fact, another important reason why Xu Jinglei did not get married was her original family.
Because her father is grumpy, arbitrary and independent, and fights whenever her mother has objections, her father will only use her fist to solve it, so Xu Jinglei's deepest impression of childhood is not only reading and learning, but also her mother's crying.
Every time the father lost his temper, the family would be smashed into shape, the mother's face would always be covered with scars, and every time she was beaten, the mother would hold Xu Jinglei and cry, and then said: "If it were not for you, I would have divorced a long time ago!" ”
Later, the parents divorced.
A happy childhood can heal a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood must be cured with a lifetime.
Due to the failed marriage of her parents, Xu Jinglei has been very reluctant to marry since she was a child, and she is afraid that her marriage will be like her parents, which is not happy, and she will have to support her children hard, and eventually she will only torture each other, and will also cause great harm to her children.
Of course, love never needs marriage to prove, nor does it need marriage to preserve quality, as long as they love each other and are loyal to each other, they are equally happy and happy.
Comments
Xu Jinglei can have today's achievements, inseparable from her talent and efforts, but also inseparable from her father's cultivation, although the means are somewhat simple and rough, but the effect is also very significant.
As a parent, looking forward to the son Jackie Chan and the daughter Cheng Feng is also forgivable, for their own selfishness, imposed on the child, it is not advisable, and in the end can only be counterproductive.
The best way is to follow the good example, under the premise of respecting the child's wishes, encourage and guide the child to study hard, and explain the benefits of reading to the child, so that the child can voluntarily and actively love reading.
Xu Jinglei's childhood was unfortunate, under the absolute authority of her father, doing things she did not like, losing the innocence she should have, and creating her rebellious and unruly character.
Fortunately, she met a man who hurt her and loved her, who was willing to tolerate her willfulness and slowly smooth out the pain of her childhood through her own love.
I hope they can love each other for a lifetime and always guard each other.
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