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01. Preface
Life is like sailing on the sea, and you don't know when you will encounter a reef. On the road of life, encountering a trough period is an experience.
Money is the best tool in life.
Having money can solve many problems. However, not everyone will have money in their hands. The first solution that comes to people who have no money is to borrow money.
Borrow money and hurt feelings. Borrowing money from others is often rejected. Even friends for many years will cut off contact because of "borrowing money".
There are many ways to solve the problem, not simply and rudely "borrowing money".
Singer Mika Nakajima once said: "In that dark life, it was I who pulled myself out of the abyss." Without that person, I would be that person. ”
Everyone will encounter a low point, and it is possible to become the most embarrassing. But the strong will use the predicament as a motivation to enhance their potential.
On the road of life, it is better to seek others than to seek oneself. Smart people don't just look for people to borrow money, but know how to rely on themselves.
02, casually find someone to borrow money, hurt feelings
Casually looking for someone to borrow money not only hurts feelings, but also hurts self-esteem.
Zhang Chenggong and Fan Zhigang in the movie "Two Tigers" are very good friends, Fan Zhigang has an eye problem and wants to find Zhang Chenggong to borrow some money to live.
Zhang Chenggong was already very rich, and it was not a big deal to take out this little money, but he still did not borrow it.
Because he was afraid that Fan Zhigang would not be able to afford it, later, he felt very guilty and felt sorry for his old friend who took care of him many years ago. I want to reconcile with him again.
But Fan Zhigang, although he couldn't see anything, his heart was more thorough and clear. He finally understood that looking for friends to borrow money to hurt feelings, everything can only be on his own.
After that, he opened a massage parlor for the blind, and his life was still good.
On the road of life, no matter what kind of difficulties you encounter, don't rush to find someone to borrow money. Borrowing money will not only hurt friendship, but also make people look down on it.
There is a sentence written in the book "Qian Zhong Shu Has Feelings": "Call yourself a friend before borrowing money, and after borrowing money, you are your uncle, and when you repay the money, he will become your benefactor." ”
People who are borrowed have their own concerns, even if the other party has given help, they will still be cautious and have more considerations when lending money. You may rather give up your friendship than lend them money.
People who borrow money will be very sad and feel that with the friendship of two people, they can borrow money, so they will open their mouths. From this, you will feel that the other party is ruthless.
In this way, a relationship has a crack, and it is difficult to make friends again.
03, smart people, know how to break through the predicament on their own
On the road of life, when encountering difficulties, do not rush to find someone to borrow money to solve the problem, but should first learn to rely on yourself to try to break through the predicament.
In life, the solution of many problems is not a complete reversal of the situation with a single fund. Rather, it is necessary to integrate the qualifications of a person as a whole to determine the final outcome.
Therefore, smart people will play their own strengths, use their talents, to improve their skills, and exert the greatest value of life.
Really smart people are not afraid of poverty, nor are they afraid of hardship. They will improve their abilities while looking for ways to break the game.
On the road of life, the most feared thing is not to encounter difficulties, but to fear that people have a sense of dependence, and when they encounter any difficulties, they only want to seek help from others, but they do not know how to rely on themselves.
When encountering difficulties, if there is a little way, do not open your mouth to ask others to borrow.
Everyone will face their own dilemma, even if the other party lends you money and helps you for a while, it may not be able to help you for a lifetime.
Instead of relying on others to help, it is better to break through on your own. If you have failed once, you can try again. Or you can go a different way, and always find a way out of the predicament.
04, smart people, good at the whole resource to start over
Success never happens overnight.
If a person has no strength and has problems with the "hardware", even if there is a lot of money in hand, it is not necessarily possible to achieve much.
Therefore, it is necessary to develop comprehensively in order to become good enough, and the stronger its own ability, the easier it is to integrate resources and the network of contacts can be quickly established.
In order to attract beautiful butterflies, you must first plant flowers. If you want to have a strong horse, you must first have a grassland.
When people are poor, don't always think about borrowing money to change their situation. A person, if his own ability is insufficient, borrow more money, it is difficult to turn over.
On the road of life, if you want to obtain wealth, you must first learn to improve your cognition and enhance your ability.
Smart people will not easily find someone to borrow money, but know how to integrate resources and find powerful leverage. Improve your abilities, change your thinking, and solve the crisis by making money yourself.
Perhaps, it will take time and energy, but only if your foundation is solid enough, the road ahead will be better.
05. Summary
Smart people, when they are poor, when they are at a low point, they don't just look for someone to borrow money.
Shakespeare said, "Money is a great wand that can change a person's appearance at will." ”
On the road of life, don't always think about borrowing money, before borrowing money, think carefully about whether there are more options and other ways to go.
Borrowing money may seem like an easy way to go, but it often makes people pay more. At any time, waiting for rescue is often better than self-help, and seek a way to survive on your own.
People, only by making themselves strong, can they continue to grow in the wind and rain, and can they resist the winds and waves of life in the future.
In the face of difficulties and troughs, there is no need to worry, slowly accumulate the resources you need, and then turn the tables after preparation, and anyone has the opportunity to bottom out.
Whenever you borrow money, think twice. On your own, you can often find a better way out.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.