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Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying

In 2020, the documentary film with Ye Jiaying as the protagonist was shortlisted for the "Golden Jubilee Award" at the Shanghai International Film Festival.

After that, the media invited Ye Jiaying's nephew Ye Yancai to conduct an interview.

When the reporter asked Ye Yancai about Ye Jiaying's past emotional experience, Ye Yancai narrowed her eyes and recalled, and seemed to see her aunt being beaten by her uncle when she was young, and the scene where she was lying on her daughter's body in the hospital and crying bitterly.

But even so, Ye Yancai has never seen Ye Jiaying's self-abandonment, she always clenches her teeth, while working, while concentrating on studying classical literature, becoming the reliance of the people around her.

Ye Yancai unconsciously told reporters: "Ye Jiaying has never experienced love, because she has been accompanied by poetry all her life. ”

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying

First, the book is fragrant, and the talent is gifted

In 1939, the leaves of Beijing fell in late autumn, and the twilight light quietly hit the YongXiang and fell on a handsome girl.

Children of the same age around them, after a day of playing, are giggling and are about to go home, and the girl is looking at the white butterflies on the ground that have frozen, and she has written a poem passed down by the pen in her hand: "Several times it is difficult to fly, and the evening wind is turning over the dance list." "

This bookish girl is the last female gentleman in China, known as the "national soldier" who wears a skirt, Ye Jiaying.

Since childhood, Ye Jiaying has been inseparable from poetry, which is closely related to her family style.

Ye Jiaying's Ye surname was a surname that their family only changed during the Republic of China period, and during the reign of the Qing government, their family had another more thunderous surname, that is, Yehenara.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying's girlhood

It should be known that Yehenara was a Manchu surname of the Qing Dynasty, and the high-ranking empress dowager Cixi was surnamed Yehenara.

Even the famous Qing Dynasty poet Naran Zhide was still the same nationality as Ye Jiazushang.

Ye Jiaying's great-grandfather served as an official in the early years of the dprk and served as a consul. And her grandfather even passed the jinshi examination in the eighteenth year of Guangxu.

In the ye family's old mansion, there is still a plaque of "Jinshidi" hanging at the door.

Although Ye Jiaying was born into a famous family and grew up with her erudite grandfather, her grandfather had a serious feudal mentality, believing that a woman's talentlessness was morality and was unwilling to let Ye Jiaying accept systematic knowledge.

Although the elders' educational concepts lagged behind, they did not restrain the little girl's talent.

In her grandfather's heart, she still loves this little granddaughter, so she often discusses the beauty of ancient poetry with her.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Entering the card

Every time Ye Jiaying saw her grandfather telling herself a poem, her eyes were shining brightly and her speech was sonorous and powerful.

Sometimes the excitement is too much, and the grandfather will forget that there is still a young child in front of him, and he will pat her on the shoulder and ask her to write a poem to himself.

Every time she looks at poetry, Ye Jiaying's heart yearns for the beauty of Chinese characters even more.

Heartless willow lining.

Once, Ye Jiaying's mother, Li Yujie, came home from outside and saw Ye Jiaying, who was only five years old, holding a poetry book, shaking her head and reciting it.

Li Yujie felt pity in her heart, stepped forward to pick up Ye Jiaying, and gently asked her if she wanted to go to school and study.

Young Ye Jiaying said childishly, "Think." ”

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

The third sister and brother of the Ye family

Li Yujie, who had a good education and taught at a girls' vocational school when she was young, knew the importance of reading.

So she decided to send her child to school, but she knew that this matter was not her own decision.

When Li Yujie talked to her father-in-law about this proposal that day, an argument immediately broke out in the family.

Ye Jiaying's grandfather narrowed his eyes and resolutely opposed sending Ye Jiaying out to show his face, while on the other hand, Li Yujie was arguing on the basis of reason.

Just when the two were deadlocked, the smell of gunpowder was about to erupt, Ye Jiaying's father Ye Yanyuan came out to reconcile.

Ye Yanyuan is also a person who has received education in the new era, naturally he will not agree with his father's approach, but he cannot disobey it on the spot, so he proposes a compromise plan, that is, to invite a family gentleman to teach Ye Jiaying at home.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying youth photo

This plan was approved by both sides.

Since then, Ye Jiaying's literary talent has been fully exerted and cultivated, and she began to memorize the Analects from the age of six, and followed her tutor to read ancient books and learn classical culture.

In the process of Ye Jiaying's gradual growth, his parents found that their daughter was a natural poet, because her literary literacy was extremely high, and the poems she created always won the hearts of the people.

But at that time, Ye Jiaying was still young after all, well protected by the family, did not experience any setbacks, although the words she wrote were beautiful, but just like some children who insisted on pretending to be adults, some teenagers did not know the taste of sorrow, and the emotions of saying sadness for giving new words were in it.

Wang Guowei said that the world has achieved the word man with a hundred evils. Life is too smooth to write a heart-stopping word.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying

Perhaps God did not want to live up to Ye Jiaying's talent, after she was admitted to the Department of Chinese Literature of Fu Jen University, reality began to force this literary and artistic girl to face up to the vicissitudes of the world.

Second, the mother died of illness, and there was no branch to rely on

The Republic of China in 1941 was in turmoil. Because of the frequent wars, Ye Yanyuan originally worked in Beijing Aviation Shu and had to follow the government to move west.

Ye Yanyuan and Li Yujie have since gathered less and left more.

Later, the July 7 Incident occurred, Ye Yanyuan went all the way south, and the letters sent home were intermittent, and finally there was no sound, and life and death were uncertain.

Li Yujie was very worried, but she could only take care of the whole family on her own, and her life was very difficult.

The so-called roof leak coincided with overnight rain, and Ye Jiaying, who was studying outside one day, received a call from the hospital, saying that her mother Li Yujie had passed away and asked her to come to the hospital to claim the body.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying suddenly felt five thunderbolts, she couldn't believe it, before leaving home, she was still smiling and cooking for her mother, who was now dead.

She settled her two younger brothers in the family, hurriedly took the train to the hospital, and when she saw Li Yujie's cold body, Ye Jiaying still felt that this was her mother's prank.

The doctor told Ye Jiaying that Li Yujie found out that she had a tumor in her abdomen very early, and in order not to worry Ye Jiaying, Li Yujie waited for Ye Jiaying to go out and ran to Tianjin Hospital alone for surgery.

But unexpectedly, a blood infection occurred during the operation, and Li Yujie suffered from sepsis.

The treatment of this disease requires a long-term hospitalization, the cost is huge, and there are three children in the family, which makes Li Yujie feel at ease.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying family portrait

So Li Yujie ignored the doctor's persuasion and insisted on going home to recuperate.

However, she collapsed on the train to Beijing and never woke up again.

Years later, Ms. Ye recalls the afternoon her mother died, saying her teenage years were over.

After that, Ye Jiaying relied on the help of her uncle and aunt to finish college, and then entered social work, raising her two younger brothers on her own.

She works three jobs a day, teaches poetry between three middle schools every day, and often pedals her bicycle out of the house before dawn.

At that time, Ye Jiaying was still a girl of about twenty years old, but her clothes were full of patches, and there was not even a skirt at home.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

The Ye family brothers and sisters

Every day she worries about money, about her brother's tuition, about their food, clothing, and housing.

Preparing for classes, cooking, going to work, and taking children, Ye Jiaying's real life is full of chickens and dogs.

Only when night fell, the lines of poetry in the glimmer of light were her habitat.

For the death of her mother, Ye Jiaying has been unable to let go, in addition to grief, her heart is more guilty.

Because at that time, her mother hoped that the place where she went to college could be closer to home, but the young Ye Jiaying wanted to see a wider world and chose a school far away from home.

This incident became a barrier in Ye Jiaying's heart, for which she wrote the "Crying Mother Poem": "The bad news came from the heart, and the tears were silent. I knew that I had been separated for thousands of years, and I regretted that I did not accompany my mother in the first place. ”

The poem can be said to be a sentence of curse, and the words cry blood.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying middle-aged photo

However, just when Ye Jiaying was immersed in grief, the peach blossom that belonged to her was quietly opening, but it turned out to be a rotten peach blossom, and Ye Jiaying also fell into the abyss and suffered a heavy blow.

Third, people's hearts are changeable, sending love poetry

Although Ye Jiaying is 24 years old, she can raise two younger brothers alone and has the responsibility of supporting the whole family, but in terms of feelings, Ye Jiaying knows nothing.

She didn't know what her heart was, only that reading aloud shocked and moved her, more than with any member of the opposite sex.

She wanted to choose to be with poetry, but family and social ideas were telling her that a woman should marry when she was old.

The surrounding voices constantly struck Ye Jiaying's determination to persevere.

Her middle school teacher saw that Ye Jiaying was always alone, so she intended to broker the marriage between Ye Jiaying and her cousin, and Ye Jiaying was not good at refuting the teacher's request, so she had to go on a blind date.

However, the first time he met Zhao Zhongsun, Ye Jiaying did not have a good impression of him.

At that time, Zhao Zhongsun sat on a chair with a hippie smile, and as soon as he opened his mouth, he showed off his family situation, and every sentence was full of the atmosphere of a city servant, trying to raise his own value and grade.

Ye Jiaying was distraught, her fingers kept tapping on the tabletop, and the conversation between the two was dry and frizzy, and the preface did not match the afterword.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Photos of Ye Jiaying's play

Ye Jiaying stayed up until the end of the date and left in a hurry, thinking that she would finally not have to chat with him anymore. But on the other hand, Zhao Zhongsun looked at Ye Jiaying's departing back, and his heart was already full of spring.

Ye Jiaying is talented, outstanding in temperament, and beautiful and well-behaved. Her every move was imprinted in Zhao Zhongsun's heart and lingered.

But the King of Xiang had intentions, and the goddess had no intentions. Zhao Zhongsun also saw that Ye Jiaying did not like herself.

So Zhao Zhongsun was both soft and hard, and tried to get Ye Jiaying to marry him.

At first, he tried to write love letters, but the dry words failed to impress the goddess, so he began to do the ideological work of Ye Jiaying's family and friends, showing his obsessive personality and the pain of not being able to ask for it.

Facing the oppression of the people around her, looking at Zhao Zhongsun, who was in tears in front of her, Ye Jiaying was shaken.

She agreed to Zhao Zhongsun's pursuit and began her first relationship in her life.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying wedding photo

However, falling in love is still unsatisfied for Zhao Zhongsun, and his real purpose is to let Ye Jiaying marry himself and have children.

So not long after the two fell in love, Zhao Zhongsun took advantage of the opportunity for the two to eat a candlelit dinner, got down on one knee, and proposed to Ye Jiaying.

Looking at Zhao Zhongsun's temperament and elegant temperament and handsome appearance, Ye Jiaying hesitated, because she knew that she had no feelings for this person.

At this time, Zhao Zhongsun took out his own killer skill, and he sadly told Ye Jiaying: "I have applied for the navy of the Nationalist government, I can give you a better life, if you don't agree, then I don't have to go." ”

Zhao Zhongsun knew that Ye Jiaying was kind and would not look at herself and give up her future because of her, and sure enough, Ye Jiaying agreed.

After that, the two held a vigorous wedding. After marriage, Ye Jiaying quit her job in Beijing and followed her husband to Nanjing.

Unfortunately, the weather was unpredictable, and soon after the Liberation War, the Nationalist government was defeated and retreated, and finally ran to Taiwan.

Zhao Zhongsun was a member of the National Navy and was bound to follow suit, so Ye Jiaying followed her husband to Taiwan.

When they first arrived in Taiwan, the two lived in peace and contentment, Zhao Zhongsun still worked in the National Army, and Ye Jiaying became a teacher in Taiwan Middle School.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying wedding photo

But happy life is always very short, and soon after, Taiwan began a 38-year period of white terror, and an atmosphere of uneasiness pervaded the entire society, and everyone was in danger.

In 1949, Ye Jiaying's first child fell to the ground in the hospital.

However, one night not long after, Zhao Zhongsun excitedly trotted from the barracks to the hospital to visit his wife and daughter after work. The next day, a group of people suddenly came and arrested Zhao Zhongsun.

They claimed that Zhao Zhongsun had problems with his thinking and needed to be indoctrinated, so Zhao Zhongsun was put in prison.

Because Zhao Zhongsun was arrested, the house originally allocated to Ye Jiaying's family was also taken back, and because her father was in prison, the school did not allow Yan Yan to enroll in school.

Ye Jiaying, who is at the end of the road, can only choose to rely on relatives, but the relatives have just established themselves in Taiwan, and their lives are not much better than Ye Jiaying, but they still let Ye Jiaying live with themselves.

Since words and memories have been remembered, home has been a cramped room, and when sleeping, you can lie five or six people horizontally or eight vertically.

After a few years, Ye Jiaying finally found a job at a private girls' high school in Taiwan, ending her life under the fence.

Just when Ye Jiaying was preparing to start a new life, Zhao Zhongsun was released after completing his sentence.

On the same day, Ye Jiaying carefully dressed up and took her daughter to greet her husband with excitement. But when she saw Zhao Zhongsun, she felt strange and terrible.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying was lecturing

During zhao Zhongsun's time in prison, his heart changed greatly, from the gentle and elegant manners before to irritability and irritability.

He refused to go out to work, stayed at home and drank and smoked, Ye Jiaying wanted to work alone to support her husband and daughter, sometimes Zhao Zhongsun drank too much, and would beat up Ye Jiaying, and she was a hooligan.

Not long after, Ye Jiaying became pregnant again, this time still gave birth to a daughter, Zhao Zhongsun hated his wife for not being able to give birth to a son, and his attitude towards the mother and daughter was even worse.

Poor Ye Jiaying has to work several jobs a day, take care of the children after work, take care of the housework, and face a violent husband.

At the most difficult time in life, she dreamed that her mother had come to pick her up, and she even thought about killing herself by gas. But looking at her daughter, who was still young, she couldn't help herself.

Later, when she flipped through the poetry book, she saw a poem by Wang Anshi: "The wind blows the tiles and falls into the house, and it is breaking my head." The tiles also shattered themselves, and the bandits alone shed blood. All sentient beings choose all karma, and each has a chance to draw. Do not be angry with this tile, this tile is not free. ”

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying

This poem enlightened Ye Jiaying, who persuaded herself to look away, and even tried to forgive her husband's violence, taking the pain of life as a practice.

Although this idea is a bit self-deceptive, it is also because of this change of mentality that Ye Jiaying survived and became a unique female poet.

Fourth, the daughter died, donated tens of millions

In the 1960s, Ye Jiaying already had a certain reputation in Taiwan because of her good lectures.

The well-known writer Bai Xianyong was once a student of Ye Jiaying, and in an interview half a century later, Mr. Bai smiled and said that when he was in college, he often skipped class to listen to Ye Jiaying's poetry.

Her classes are always attractive and filled with seats every time they start.

Soon after, both Harvard University and Michigan State University invited her to teach abroad, when Ye Jiaying was 40 years old and her daughters had grown up.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Bai Xianyong talked about Ye Jiaying

This time, Ye Jiaying did not hesitate, and after practicing English hard, she left Taiwan and went to the West.

Despite the language barrier and different cultures, Ye Jiaying still tirelessly showed the beauty of poetry to foreigners, and later she received an invitation from the University of British Columbia in Canada to become a tenured professor at the school.

Just when Ye Jiaying was about to dedicate herself to her career, a car accident occurred.

Ye Jiaying's eldest daughter just got married, and traveled in a car with her husband, but she encountered an accident and both died.

Ye Jiaying, who is far away from overseas, left her work and washed her face with tears all day long, and she wrote more than ten "Weeping Female Poems", just like she wrote a crying mother poem at the age of 17.

After experiencing the loss of his daughter in middle age, Mr. Ye has a new understanding of life.

She no longer pursues career excellence, but completely places her body and mind on poetry, feels life, and cherishes the present.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying's eldest daughter wedding

After returning to China, Ye Jiaying sold her property twice, donating the royalties and rest of her life savings to the cultural study of classical poetry, with a total donation amount of 35.68 million.

Ye Jiaying's own life is even more frugal to the extreme, and a steamed bun dipped in soy milk is a meal.

A small meal, a scoop of drink, people are overwhelmed, and Mr. Ye does not change his happiness.

Ye Jiaying said that where fate put her, she landed where she blossomed.

This optimistic and open-minded mentality, after floating in half a life, still choose to stick to it, is even more shocking, Ye Jiaying's class is welcomed by everyone, which is also inseparable from her unique personal charm.

Ye Jiaying: Lost her mother as a teenager, was abused by domestic violence after marriage, lost her daughter in her later years, and donated 35.68 million yuan naked after returning to China

Ye Jiaying

It is precisely because she is unwilling to give in, perseverance, bravery, and use poetry to adhere to the purity of the inner side, although it seems out of place in the crowd, but it is also very moving.

Today' Ye Jiaying is full of white silk, her temperament is light and elegant, her behavior is like Youlan, and she is completely integrated with poetry.

Her existence seems to tell the world that even if she is deep in the gutter, as long as she always looks up at the starry sky, she will eventually become a star.

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