preface
On September 21, 2010, the Xiamen Civil Affairs Bureau welcomed two "special" registered marriage couples.
Two elderly people in their 80s supported each other and slowly walked into the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau.
This is the love of an 82-year-old man from Xiamen, China, yuan dibao, and a 83-year-old man of mixed Chinese-French race, Li Dani.
The love between these two old people spanned 55 years, and now they can finally work together to end their lives.
Why did it take them 55 years to join hands? What kind of story happened in the middle?
All this also begins with the Sino-French identity of the heroine of the story, Li Danni.
Hate when you don't meet and don't marry
In May 1927, Dani Li was born in Beijing, China. Dani Lee is a mixed-Race Chinese-French child, and her mother is French.
Mixed-race children are supposed to be smarter and prettier than other children, and Li Dani is no exception.
Her appearance has both the femininity of the East and the depth of the West. Big eyes, high nose bridge, fair skin.
In addition to having a unique advantage in appearance, Li Danni's learning ability is also stronger than other children, especially in language.
Under the influence of her parents, Danni Li has been able to master both Chinese and French languages since she was a child.
When he grew up, he learned English and Russian with his outstanding talent.
After graduation, Li Dani has relied on her solid professional knowledge to work as a Russian teacher at Zhejiang Medical College.
She gained her favorite career here, and at the same time, Li Dani also waited here for her only lover in this life.
In 1953, Li Dani met Yuan Dibao from Xiamen, China.
At that time, the two of them were teachers and students, but there was only a one-year age difference.
Due to the general backward educational conditions in China at that time, many children went to school at a later age.
Therefore, Yuan Dibao only entered the university when he was twenty-five years old, and Li Danni was just twenty-six years old that year.
Yuan Dibao is very hard at studying, and when he looks around, his eyes are the most curious.
As a teacher, Li Dani naturally likes such students, so she also likes to ask Yuan Dibao questions in class.
At that time, there were not many students in the classroom, and the enthusiastic and lively Li Dani only took a week to mingle with the students in her class.
Li Dani also likes students to ask their own questions, and every time students come to her to answer questions, she will explain to each other very patiently, so the students also like her.
The most diligent person to ask Li Dani questions should be Yuan Dibao.
Over time, Li Dani found that her student was very studious, and the topics discussed between the two people were no longer only related to academics, but also discussed some feelings and life philosophies together.
In the classroom, the two people are teacher-student relations, but after leaving the three-foot lecture hall, the two people are just the same age with the same interests and hobbies.
The two people did not have so many constraints on getting along in class, and Yuan Dibao shared some anecdotes and anecdotes he had heard and experienced with Li Dani.
The two hearts were also gradually pulled in in this laughter, and Li Dani also gradually developed feelings for Yuan Dibao.
At that time, the two of them would always come to the West Lake for a walk together in their leisure time.
Under the beautiful scenery of the West Lake, Li Dani taught Yuan Dibao to sing an English song "When We Are Young".
The lyrics repeatedly mention the word "love", and the two young people at this time are also the most emotionally vigorous period.
They fell into an inseparable relationship between themselves, but they did not go further for a long time because of each other's reticence.
Because of the current teacher-student relationship between the two, Li Dani decided to wait for Yuan Dibao to graduate from college, and the two people would let go to talk about a vigorous love.
However, with the development of the country, in August 1955, some students of Zhejiang Medical College moved away from Zhejiang at the request of the state and went to Chengdu Huaxi Medical College in Chengdu, China to study.
Among the students who transferred this batch was Yuan Dibao's name, Li Danni continued to stay in Zhejiang to teach.
The two people may have to go their separate ways from now on.
Yuan Dibao felt that if he did not speak his heart to Li Dani again, he might not have a chance in the future.
So, the two people met by the West Lake, and Yuan Dibao said something he had been buried deep in his heart.
He said that he liked Li Dani very much, and he was very bitter in the face of the surging love between the two people.
Because he is now married, he is already married to a blind date girl in his hometown in Xiamen.
It turned out that about two weeks before leaving home for college, Yuan Dibao obeyed the family's arrangement and married a virtuous and sensible family member as his wife.
I thought his life should have passed like this, but I didn't expect to meet the love of his life in college.
So when facing Li Dani, he was very painful, and when he was in a dilemma, he handed over the answer to this multiple choice question into Li Dani's hands.
Li Dani was shocked when she heard the news, and if time could stand still, it seemed that she could already hear the sound of her heartbreak.
Her mind was very confused, and she didn't know how to deal with the relationship between herself and Yuan Dibao for a while.
Love each other but are separated
After leaving West Lake, after a few days of serious thinking, Li Dani made an amazing decision.
"In the future, we will get along like brothers and sisters, you can't hurt another woman for me." 」
She said to her beloved Yuan Dibao that she decided to let go of the hazy love between herself and Yuan Dibao.
Although she also loves Yuan Dibao deeply, her happiness must not be based on the pain of another woman.
If Yuan Dibao is divorced from his wife at home now, it will be cruel to the woman in his family.
In this way, the two people later took a step back, and they no longer sought the love of life, but made the other their confidant and friend.
"It is rare to know oneself in life", so even after Yuan Dibao went to Chengdu to study, the two of them still exchanged letters with each other.
Between the two people, it also changed from some sweet love words to carefully inquiring about the latest situation.
Perhaps the deep love is buried in words that are too ordinary to be ordinary.
As long as the letters can be exchanged all the time, and the situation of the other party can be known, it is still very good, for these two people, it is enough.
Later, Li Dani followed her mother back to France, using this heavy mountain and water to block this inseparable friendship.
However, when she first came to France, Li Dani, who had just arrived, had a very hard life.
Although she is of Mixed French descent and can speak French fluently, she is not recognized by more people here.
Here, Li Dani does not have French nationality, and in the eyes of the French, a Mixture of Chinese and French like her cannot be regarded as a complete Frenchman.
So for a period of time, Li Danni was still ostracized by many people.
And at this time she also faced certain difficulties in terms of money, and returning to France was equivalent to everything having to start from scratch.
Danni Li's identity no longer has the same status as when she taught in China, and now she is just an ordinary working class.
A person's earned salary is to save with his mother to buy a house after solving his daily expenses.
Her life here is difficult and fulfilling, and in her spare time, she still misses her lover Yuan Dibao and distant China.
It wasn't until a few years of trial and error that Danni Lee's life in France was officially on track.
With her long-standing efforts, she obtained French citizenship and began to settle here herself.
During this period, Li Danni still engaged in her beloved education profession and achieved a certain social status.
Many of Li Dani's colleagues and friends have introduced men to Li Dani and accompanied her for life, but Li Dani has refused.
Because her heart was so small, she couldn't let go of the figure of the second man.
As a line in "Why Sheng Zhen Mo" said:
"If one person in this world appears, then everyone else will become a make-up, and I don't want to make it up."
Seeing the men introduced by the people around her, Li Dani did not want to meet him, and gradually, the people around her gave up the idea of introducing her and let everything go naturally.
Li Dani also put her body and mind, all her energy into her work, and achieved a higher educational status.
And what about Yuan Dibao?
After graduating from university, Yuan Dibao chose to return to his hometown to develop.
Since then, he has also returned the focus of his life to the family, accepted the wife arranged for him by his parents, and conceived three sons with his wife.
But for some reasons, Yuan Dibao can't even afford to buy his child's milk powder and daily necessities.
At that time, after Li Dani, who was far away in France, learned of this situation, even her own economic conditions were very tight and her life was difficult.
But still after consulting with his mother, he mailed milk powder and some daily necessities to China to help Yuan Dibao tide over the current difficulties and accompany him through the most difficult years.
Shortly after the package and letter were mailed, Danni Lee received a mysterious letter. And this letter once again disrupted her life.
Someone wrote a letter to Li Dani, saying that her letter had seriously affected Yuan Dibao's normal life, and hoped that she would not continue to write letters in the future.
"The tone of the letter was very bad, and I could only stop all contact with the country, and after many years, I could not contact the country."
The love of love still can't be broken, so Li Dani has also tried to continue to send letters to China, but they have been returned.
With the change of time, many things have lost their original appearance, and she does not even know whether the man she has in mind is still alive in this world.
But even though everything in the world had changed, her heart for her beloved had never changed.
Perhaps it is precisely because of this sincerity and sincerity that the heavens have been touched, so that the couple can finally meet here after 55 years and accompany each other for the rest of their lives.
It's finally been a 55-year-old
Later, Yuan Dibao's economic conditions improved, and he also successfully raised all three children to adulthood.
When he originally planned to raise his life and enjoy his beautiful old age, life gave him a heavy blow, and his family suddenly changed.
In 1994, Yuan Dibao's wife suffered from gum cancer. At that time, the medical conditions were relatively backward, and it was basically difficult to treat cancer.
In the later stage of treatment, Yuan Dibao can only try her best to meet the last request of her wife, accompany her to do some things she wants to do, and carefully take care of her life.
Although the feelings between the two of them have been more grateful for so many years, they have also been together for decades, and they are more like a mutually maintaining family affection.
Yuan Dibao's wife, after holding on for a few months, stopped breathing and left this world.
Yuan Dibao, who lost his partner, chose to live alone.
After seeing yuan dibao like this, there are many people around him who want to introduce him to another object to accompany him.
"Resolutely not, none of you should introduce me to anyone."
As his children grew older, they could not always be with their father.
As Yuan Dibao grew older, his children began to worry about their father's later life.
The children gathered together to discuss the solution to Yuan Dibao's later life, and several people sat around and remembered an aunt they had heard from their mother's mouth when they were young.
That's because the French aunt, when she was young, was once her father's lover and later received their childhood supplies.
It may have been the white moonlight of my father's life, and it was also the cinnabar mole that had always been in my heart.
As a child, I hope to make my father's old age happier, and the third daughter-in-law also tries to go to France with her connections to contact this French aunt.
With the help of their third daughter-in-law, they managed to contact Dani Li, who was living alone in France at the time.
It was determined that this Li Dani was their father, the French aunt they knew when they were young, and that the other party had been unmarried and single for so many years.
The children happily told Yuan Dibao the news.
Hearing the news that Li Danni was single and still alive, Yuan Dibao was excited for several days without sleeping well, and began to look forward to the day when he and Li Dani could see each other again.
The third daughter-in-law also immediately satisfied her father's idea, and she personally flew to France to bring this French aunt who had never met but was familiar to Her to China.
"You say I'm not handsome enough today?" What should I say when I meet Dani in a moment? ”
Yuan Dibao stood outside the airport, looking a little nervous, and he kept asking if his children were dressed appropriately today.
But after seeing Li Dani at the airport, Yuan Dibao directly cried and could not say a word.
Time changed the faces of the two people, but it did not change the temperament of the two people, and they still recognized each other at the first sight.
In the noisy crowd of the airport, two gray-haired old men hugged each other tightly.
Three days after Li Dani returned to China, she adjusted her living schedule with China, and pulled Yuan Dibao to the marriage registration office to register her marriage.
The feelings between the two people span time and place, 55 years apart thousands of miles, and finally the two lovers still walk together.
83-year-old Dani Li put on her first wedding dress and married the man she liked when she was young.
This long-lasting love affair also quickly attracted everyone's attention, and reporters also carried out extensive reports.
In the face of such a rare wedding, many netizens have sent their blessings, but some netizens have shown doubts.
Some netizens believe that Yuan Dibao's children are so desperate to find this French woman, whether it is because of coveting this woman's status and the family property they have accumulated.
At that time, Li Dani sponsored a lot of Chinese students abroad and had a high teaching status abroad.
At the same time, I have been single for so many years, and I have accumulated a lot of savings.
Are Yuan Dibao's sons and daughters not far away for this reason, and they also want to bring Li Dani back from France?
But we cannot judge one thing alone.
Regardless of whether Yuan Dibao's children are because of the status and wealth accumulated by Li Dani, it is not false to hope that his father's life in his later years will be happy.
After the two old people got married, Yuan Dibao's children have always been very good to Li Dani and respected her as a mother. Isn't that enough?
At the same time, some netizens sent out inquiries, thinking that Yuan Dibao did not really like Li Dani.
Why do you think you like one person and go through more than 50 years with another person and have three children?
In fact, this has a certain relationship with Yuan Dibao's traditional concept of family education.
From the fact that when he was in college, his family arranged blind dates for him, it can be seen that their family's thinking is still very traditional.
The old saying has a cloud: "No filial piety has three, and no queen is greater."
After marriage, a woman's inability to bear offspring will also be criticized to a certain extent in the local area, and Yuan Dibao, as a husband, has a certain responsibility for taking care of his wife.
Bearing children is a responsibility to both one's own parents and one's own wife.
Things in the world are so complicated, how can we judge clearly on one side and two sides?
And being able to walk with the woman I loved most when I was young after 55 years apart is already a very difficult thing.
Life is only a hundred years, and there is not much time for them to walk together hand in hand.
Let's put aside those interests and trivialities of life, and bless these two 80-year-old people who are still brave enough to go forward for love!
postscript:
In October 2017, Yuan Dibao died of illness in Xiamen at the age of 90. Shortly after Yuan Dibao's death, Li Dani also went with him.
The pair of old people who spanned 55 years of time were finally buried together and found the best home for the love they insisted on.
I only hope that the two old people can meet earlier in the next life and can spend each other's lives hand in hand!