Good popularity is what everyone wants to have.
After all, no one in the world can live as an island, have good popularity, can widen the road ahead of us, and even open every door needed.
However, good popularity is not easy to obtain, we need to go into the hearts of others, get the appreciation and recognition of others.
So what kind of person can win the acceptance of others?
In fact, if we look closely, we will find that people with good popularity often have these three good habits.
good faith
Lao Tzu said:
"People do not believe in it, and they do not believe in it."
Trust is an important air for friendship, and how much this air decreases, how much friendship will disappear accordingly. People with good popularity will always put integrity first.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
A middle-aged man is downcast, and if he wants to make a comeback, he needs a lot of money.
Deeply troubled, he had to find his relatives and friends to borrow.
Because the amount is large, he is also very worried in his heart, and he is also very bottomless about whether his relatives and friends will lend him money.
But to his surprise, after he opened his mouth, almost everyone he opened his mouth would lend him some money to a greater or lesser extent, and some people did not even let him call the IOU.
Seeing this story, perhaps many people will sigh, he is really good at making friends, and the friends he makes are really righteous!
But in fact, it is not that he will make friends, but that he uses integrity in exchange for friends who trust him.
From childhood to adulthood, for decades, as long as he promised other people's things, he would do it, even if he encountered difficulties, he never lost faith once.
It is precisely because of his integrity that others are particularly reassured about him, and then everyone is willing to lend him money.
Psychologists say:
"The degree of trust you are determines the heights you can reach."
Integrity is the foundation of man's life.
A person whose words and deeds are consistent and whose knowledge and deeds are one, they will not lose their words, let alone lose faith.
Getting along with such people will make people feel at ease, naturally make people willing to be close to trust, and people will naturally get better and better.
Kind
There is a saying:
"No matter what you do to others, the person who really receives it is not others, but yourself, in the same way, when you give to others, when you give for others, the person who really benefits is not others, but yourself." 」
It is true that the hearts of the people are all mutual, and it is necessary to win the hearts of the people by comparing the hearts with the hearts.
If you want others to recognize you, like you, and be willing to be friendly and kind to you, then you must not treat others badly.
Know such a man.
He does not have any high education, his appearance is also humble, and he will eat some losses when he does business with people.
But it is such a person, his business began with the stall, and it became bigger and bigger.
Five stores have been opened now, and almost everyone is willing to work with him to introduce him to customers.
Incredible, right?
So why he can have such a legendary experience, in fact, in the end, it is only because of the two words "thick".
He cooperates with others, never calculates others, and even takes the initiative to make profits.
Imagine a person who is always able to think about others, always let others get benefits, who would not like it?
Saying goes:
"People are kind, and the sky is not deceived."
Perhaps, there are always many people who think that shrewdness and calculation are the best way to create wealth. But when you are too concerned about your own gain, then you will definitely ignore the demands of others.
In the end, you may really be able to take advantage, but what you have to pay may not be exchanged.
The essence of the relationship between people is actually to exchange sincerity for sincerity and false feelings for false intentions.
Only when you know how to treat people kindly, then you can be appreciated by others, liked by others, and finally treated by others.
humility
Carnegie said:
"Know how to restrain your own light and avoid stabbing others and making enemies." Being low-key and humble, not ostentatious, in order to have a good relationship. ”
Perhaps in life, there are always some people who feel that only if they behave like cattle can they be looked up to and have more friends.
But in fact, human nature is that no one really wants to be crushed by the people around them all the time.
The more beautiful you behave, others may compliment on the surface, but behind the scenes, there is much jealousy and resentment.
There is such a plot in the TV series "Know It or Not".
After Sheng Minglan married Gu Tingye, when she returned to her mother's house for the first time, the pomp and circumstance was very large.
Seeing her live such a beautiful life, perhaps in the hearts of many people, they will feel that her parents and relatives will be happy for her.
But actually?
In fact, at that time, her fourth sister Sheng Molan was full of resentment; even the fifth sister Sheng Rulan, who had a good relationship with her, was full of jealousy.
Ancient Cloud:
"Wood shows that the wind in the forest will destroy it; the pile will come out of the shore, and the flow will be turbulent."
If a person is too arrogant, then in the end, your arrogance will not let you get the admiration of others, and what you will often get will often only be jealousy.
Buddha:
"The ellipse is square, modest and stable; there is nothing, and there is a vacuum."
In this world, everyone has vanity.
As a person, only by knowing how to be humble and know how to give the limelight to others, then you can make others feel comfortable and others are willing to get along with you.
People get along with each other, whether you are popular, in fact, in the final analysis, it lies in whether you can make others comfortable and at ease.
After all, no one wants to intersect with someone who always adds to their own blockage.
The rest of your life is still long, may you develop these three habits as soon as possible.
Then have a good popularity, make your own road wider and wider, and make your life more and more exciting.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.