Text/Wei Chen
Regarding knowing people, the old ancestors have long said: Watching people is ignoring, watching people after drinking, and watching people are in the face of wealth.
If you want to understand a person's character, you can't see clearly through big things. A person's truth is often hidden in the details.
Humans are the creatures that are best at disguise. To understand a person's character, don't look at what he's showing, look at the side he ignores.
No one is stupid enough to talk about their shortcomings. Most of the people we meet in our lives are more willing to brag about their strengths and abilities.
Of course, there are also a small number of people who are more modest, but even if they do not boast, they will not damage themselves.
So the people who appear in front of us are either good people or ordinary people, and very few people will clearly write "Be careful of me, I am a bad person" on their faces." ”
The older generation likes to watch people at the dinner table, and although this social method is cheesy, it is really useful, and this method can roughly see a person's personality in a short period of time.
As the saying goes, borrow a glimpse to peek at the whole leopard, and convey the spirit at a glance.
Although the details are small, there is a lot of information behind it.
The eyes are the windows of the soul, and a person's gaze will change with the change of mood.
A person's small behavior can also be influenced by personal habits.
Therefore, if you want to quickly see a person's character, you may as well invite him to a meal.
In the case of unconsciousness, people are most likely to expose the real character.
People who have the following four behaviors at the dinner table are often of bad character and should not be deeply friendly.
Scold the waiter
There is a kind of person who cheats the soft and fears the hard. In the face of people with higher status than him, smile and greet, and if you encounter people with lower status than him, you will find all kinds of faults.
Scolding the waiter in the restaurant is a direct manifestation of low personal cultivation.
As the saying goes: "The superior people praise people, and the inferior people step on people." ”
One by one, I not only marked the other party, but also labeled myself.
You know, the more incompetent a person is, the more he likes to bully the weak.
They will satisfy their sense of superiority by trampling on the dignity of others.
Everyone will be friendly to the strong, which does not mean that the person's personality is good. People with really good character, whether they face the strong or the weak, will maintain due respect.
Flip through the dishes
In the table manners we have learned since childhood, there is a requirement not to turn over dishes when eating.
Eating is a relaxing thing to do. When people are relaxed, it is easiest to show their own self.
Everyone has different tastes when it comes to eating. Picky eating is not a very excessive thing, but picking and choosing dishes on the table shows that this person's character is not good.
If you eat like a person, you can not do things you don't like, and you can not eat food that you don't like, but you can't completely ignore the feelings of others and turn over the plate at will.
People who mess with dishes at the dinner table are selfish in their hearts, and long-term association with such people will be a huge disaster.
A person's generosity can be disguised, but the habits of being branded on the details are nowhere to be hidden.
Stay away from selfish people and avoid unnecessary troubles in life.
Greedy cup broken mouth
We often hear the idea that wine is character.
A person's behavior after getting drunk is often an instinctive behavior in his heart.
Some people are quiet after getting drunk, some people are chattering after getting drunk, and some people are crazy after getting drunk.
People who are quiet after drunkenness are peaceful in their hearts, and they are usually unwilling to cause trouble for others, and they can solve anything they can solve on their own.
And the drunk person who is nagging can't keep the secret, not only that, but also friction with others because he said inappropriate things, and even a big fight.
Make friends with people, it is best not to get too close to the greedy cup, people who take the initiative to get drunk are usually good at drinking, love to brag, and often do something out of the ordinary after getting drunk.
Escape paying
When it comes to eating, you can't avoid the topic of paying bills.
People who avoid paying the bill love to take advantage of small profits. This type of person is often particularly arrogant when ordering food, and will find excuses to slip away before the end of the dinner.
To see whether a person is trustworthy and has deep friendships, it depends on whether the other party is generous and sincere.
Generous people will not care about small profits, and they will not escape in the matter of paying the bill. Sincere people will not play a careful role and use the payment to test each other.
If the meal ends and paying the bill becomes an embarrassing problem, it means that this friendship is meaningless.
Rushing to pay the bill is not a performance, but an affirmation of the friendship between each other, and the person who takes the initiative to pay the bill is not because he is not short of money, but he values this feeling more than money.
Make friends and make sincere friends, look at people and look at quality. Interpersonal communication is never a simple matter.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.