Text: Guardian of emotions
Use the simplest words to write about the warmth and cold of the world and heal the lonely heart.
Soft heart is a disease.
In life, there are many people who can't be cruel at key times, and always feel that there will be no loss at all if they are soft, and the days will continue to pass, there is no difference.
It is this kind of thinking, often only see the surface, do not realize how much harm their intolerance will bring to themselves, life may be full of chicken feathers.
You are soft on something, you may go downhill because of it, you may become so bad in your life, every day you feel bad, you will be upset.
To tell the truth, this kind of life is extremely bad, it will be desperate, it will lose confidence, and it will regret it for a lifetime because of its actions, and it will never be able to walk out of this hurdle.
As the saying goes: "There is sharpness in kindness, and there is position in gentleness." ”
Whether it is to treat relatives and friends, or to treat partners, there can be no bottom line, can not make people sure that you can not bear to do what things, you would rather hurt yourself.
In front of others, we must understand that excessive concessions will be treated as soft persimmons, and more often they will be embarrassed.
Often do something you don't want to do, feel very helpless, and eventually find that you have been doing meaningless things, which seriously affects your own development speed.
Let others feel that you do not have a temper, you will be ignored by others, very non-existent, and what others do may be extremely unfavorable to you.
It can be seen from this that it is impossible to be ruthless in heart, it will not be respected, and the road cannot be smoother and smoother. A woman, the smartest way to live: fierce heart.
Every decision you make can't embarrass yourself
Suffering losses is not necessarily a blessing.
When a person asks for your help, or wants you to accompany him to a place, don't agree quickly, because you have to think about yourself first.
Helping him will delay your things, accompanying him will disrupt your plans, and you have to refuse, instead of giving up your own things and not implementing your own plans.
Whoever finds you, do what you can and don't sacrifice yourself.
This kind of thinking and practice is not a manifestation of selfishness, not only oneself in the heart, but responsible for oneself and a kind of protection for oneself.
"Fulfill others and wrong yourself" is not wise, because you ignore your own feelings, others will look down on you, and the next life will get worse and worse.
Don't drag mud and water, don't give others the opportunity to exploit loopholes
Everything that happens, find the most suitable method, and then finalize.
That is to say, you have decided how to do it most securely, and you must do it, rather than hearing someone else's words and starting to hesitate and then no longer doing what you thought before.
As long as they hear different opinions, they will think of some problems, and if they continue like this, the things they encounter have not been solved and they have been delayed.
Regarding work and future development, it is so entangled, and it is also overwhelmed about feelings.
To tell the truth, you can't do anything clean, your life is impossible to get better, and you will regret it after a certain age.
As an adult, you should understand the consequences of what you do, and you should change it in time, rather than dragging it out, not feeling that it is still too late.
What I think in my heart is to make life exciting and interesting, and you have to take action, that is, be decisive in everything you do, don't always change your mind, don't keep changing your mind on the road.
Have your own bottom line and don't allow anyone to touch it
Whether you like a person or fear a person, you can't blindly tolerate it, and you can't let the other party do things that are too excessive and bring you great harm.
The things he does not only affect your emotions, but also affect your life, then no matter how painful, no matter how afraid, you must know how to fight back.
People like this who don't think about you and only hurt you are very unsuitable to appear in your life, and you should let two people no longer intersect.
In this life, people must first take into account their own feelings, love themselves well, rather than how great, and consider others at any time.
Having been looked down upon and hurt, don't be so naïve in your thinking, and remember that it is unstable to be ruthless.
summary:
In interpersonal communication, you can't be cruel, always choose to give in, and life is likely to be a mess.
The way to deal with anything is to take a step backwards, does not mean that everything is all right, and no longer think that if you don't care, you won't be tortured.
When what a person does, or asks for, seriously hurts you, you must know how to fight back, rather than choose to endure.
You can stand up, not the attitude that you can do anything, no one dares to disrespect you, no one dares to calculate you, no one dares to affect your emotions.
You have to remember that no matter who you are with, you can't make people think that you are a soft persimmon, and no matter how much you hurt you, you will not be hit back.
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Author: A senior mentor who accompanies books, writes for fun, freelance writer, and helps countless people get out of emotional difficulties.