Now the price is very high, and the baby is a big consumer body, so sometimes, bao mom always hopes to save the province, but some things really can't be saved.
Xiao Xinxin is 8 months old, and her mother treats her like a treasure. However, Xinxin's mother is a little depressed, and every time her mother-in-law comes to see her granddaughter, she will bring the old clothes of the "seven aunts and eight aunts" to send the baby.
Xinxin's mother did not want to accept it, and once she rejected her mother-in-law: "These clothes are not suitable for the baby, and it is good to be a rag."
As a result, the mother-in-law was very unhappy, sitting alone at the door nagging: "It cost more than 80,000 to marry the daughter-in-law, more than 10,000 to give birth to a baby, and it costs a lot of money to raise a baby. ”
Xinxin's mother was helpless, so she had to harden her scalp and accept these old clothes for her daughter. When the mother-in-law saw the situation, she became more and more active, and she asked from the neighborhood: "Whoever has old clothes, old shoes, and old objects, the family does not abandon anything, give it to us!" ”
Xinxin's mother felt particularly faceless, but she didn't want to quarrel with her mother-in-law. Every time I was sulking, several times I was so angry that I "returned to milk".
Not only xinxin's mother has this kind of trouble, but many baoma are also very upset.
Ms. Li said: "My mother is like this, especially will live a life. My brother-in-law's family gave birth to a male treasure, and the clothes worn by the male treasure were ordered by my mother to be left to my daughter-in-law. No, my mother took the time to send me all over, three whole bags, so I don't know how to deal with it. ”
Obviously it is a good thing, but the result is very unpleasant, the party who accepts the "help", there is not so much gratitude, but it is troubled, and there are too many resentments.
Sometimes, no matter how close the relatives are, the old clothes and old items sent to the child, we should refuse or refuse, just talk about it, and we can't be afraid of hurting face.
These 3 second-hand items, don't care which relative sent it, it is best not to receive, don't be embarrassed
Relatives send baby things, are a piece of kindness. However, these 3 things, no matter which relative sent it, do not easily receive.
1 Relatives sent clothes that do not match the child's gender
The clothes of male and female treasures, patterns, crotch workmanship, are not the same. When the little baby doesn't understand things, put it on a few times, but it's not a big problem.
However, the older talking baby, just a little gender awareness, is in the budding period, if the mother accepts the old clothes sent by others that do not match the baby's gender, and also put the obvious girl's clothes on the son.
Then, this is not good for the boy to know himself. Even, when the male treasure grows up, it may be gender-deranged and have more serious consequences. The same goes for the female treasure, the same reason.
2 old shoes sent by relatives, worn by other children
The baby's new shoes, it seems that they can't be worn a few times, and the baby grows up. Many elders are reluctant to throw away the baby's shoes, take the shoes to look left and right, or feel like a pair of new shoes, just think, it is better to give the baby to relatives to wear!
Although this intention is good intentions, each baby's walking posture is different, the power point is different, and some children wear shoes with different bottom flatness, and even the side of the shoes is crooked.
Therefore, relatives send old shoes to the baby, try not to wear for the baby who has not yet learned to walk. Otherwise, the baby's feet will not develop well.
3 Old bottles sent by relatives, open diapers are not wet, try not to use them for the baby
Some relatives use their own baby bottles, the quality is relatively high, when buying more expensive, with the old has been reluctant to throw away. Some relatives did not know how many hands were turned, and the diapers and old quilts that had been poured over from elsewhere were returned to the baby.
In fact, these things seem to be very good on the surface, but the opened diaper is not wet, easy to leak, in case of bacteria pollution, the baby is not healthy.
The old bottle is more dangerous, even if it is disinfected, it may also be cross-infected, and it is indeed a certain risk to use these for the baby at home, or try not to use it.
Some elders always feel that it is a pity that old clothes and old items have been thrown away. Children's things, the replacement is too fast, each baby can not wear a few days of clothes, can not use a few days of things, throw away the white blind.
Although this idea of thrift and thrift is very good, the actual situation is that once other babies are not well dressed, they cannot grow up healthily, which becomes a good intention to do bad things.
Old clothes sent by relatives can be collected, but they should be thoroughly disinfected
Relatives sat down to chat and send each other, most often with the baby's old clothes. In fact, as long as the other child's skin is healthy, the body is not sick, the old clothes are not in conflict with the gender of their children, and the fabric is quite comfortable to touch. Then, if the mothers want to accept it for the baby, it is also very good.
However, you need to disinfect the clothes first, then thoroughly wash and dry them, and then find them out at the right time and put them on for the baby.
If you don't want to take old clothes for your baby to wear, don't refute the face of your relatives, you can say it gently.
For example, you can say, "Thank you, the clothes you bought for your baby are absolutely fine." However, I only bought a set of clothes for the baby last week, let him deal with it first, my baby's clothes are enough to wear, otherwise the mother-in-law should blame me for spending money indiscriminately. ”
Find an excuse to explain that others want to send old clothes to the baby, and they will not mention it again, which does not hurt face and affection at all.
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【Transferred from: Sohu original - Capricorn love baby treasure 】